40+ Lone parents

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I'm 49 and a lone parent (13yo and 20yo) am I in the minority on Mumsnet? It appears alot of the LP's here are a lot younger!

Oh and BTW I'm trying very hard to accept that I shall be alone for the rest of my days

Snivel no more ladies, I'm here with some .

Yes, two whole delicious sugary fixing mars bars. THey did exactly what was required and I made it through the day!

Transpires that DD now likes sand and I regret no dressing her appropriately for said beach lunch. Still, means lots of free days of 'fun' (that is loosely worded) at the beach coming up, and maybe a touch of colour to my lily white legs at last.

agree with the energy levels ...mind you I was a slacker in my 20s so prob get far more done now.
And am another one not looking for another relationship but happily single. Certainly don't have surplus energy for romantic relationships. And care much less what people think. Suppose these are age related in a way .. and I did find myself inexplicably drawn to some comfy summer sandals in the tu range today (I resisted, ladies)

Gracias boo...will never like the sand, shall admire from afar..

ninah I quite often look at comfy attire, however my dd would confine me to barracks if I dare actually made a purchase.. (do have a nice pair of comfy boots that she's failed to notice )

wonders wh9ich parks you used to hang out on lol and if you wa steh one who pinched my snakebite

ah think ds1 and ds dont even notice what i wear.And yes i do go for comfy some of the times .But i do occasional wear something that my boys say erm mum .eyes up hooker boots in hall ( they names them not me lol)

And in my house they tell me to turn my music down .Luckily dd is showing to have same taste in music as me

Please may I join? I'm 51 and have 3 DC aged 19, 17 and 16. I'm very recently divorced. (Decree Absolute came through on Wednesday) Still getting used to it.

I'm 45 with 2 DS's - 18 & 16. Been an LP for over a decade (I'm definately in a very minority group with that one ;o(

Hi again- just come back onto the thread at the end of a really difficult weekend- it is so lovely to know there are so many lovely, kind ladies on here offering words of support and encouragement- thank you for this thread- it is a great source of strength- long may it continue..... xxxx

It is indeed possible that I pinched your snakebite Going as at 16-18 I was partial to them. I was once proud of the fact that I could kick the arses of most of the boys when it came to drinking a pint in one.... I would be sick after 3rd gulp now I should think.

Ten (see I have shortened it it's easier) I hate the sand still however and I am mildly peeved that I now have to take her there more frequently

COMFY IS THE ONLY WAY.

Welcome to our inane chat!

X-posted with you Paul I thought about you today. Rant away if you need to. Have you got any plans for him moving out yet?

Nice to know you were thinking about me today boosmummie- hopefully he is moving out very soon- my parents are coming to stay this week and i have asked him to work away and make himself scarce as i know my parents (both in their 70s and not in good health) do not wish to bump into him. So it will give the kids a chance to get used to him not being here all week and will give us all the chance of having abit of calm- hurrah- cant wait.

That sounds like just what you need Paul. Good for the grots too I think. I'm sure they'll be excited to see their grandparents too.

Just shout if you need to, I've done the staying under the same roof crap because he didn't get his arse into gear thing, so I'm about if you would just like to vent/scream/quiz - anything really.

There is always a light at the end of the tunnel, I promise. May not see it all the time, but it is there. I've had some properly shit days over the past week, but I know that things will be ok in the end and that thought is what helps me sleep and function when I need to. I'm generally a positive person, and occasionally a lot have to kick myself up the bum to remind me of that!!!

Have a lovely week with your Ma and Pa

Thanks boosmummie- yep- i havent told the kids their nanny and grandad are coming yet- it will be a complete surprise tomorrow- cant wait to see their faces.

Thanks for the kind offer for me to vent- you obviously really understand how i am feeling at the moment- i feel like i am going insane- the constant tension, the conflict and the atmosphere is dreadful.

I feel quite positive about the future- went to church today (we go to a lovely little informal service but kids and parents and i have lots of really nice, kind friends there) and sung to my hearts content- felt much better afterwards!!

I am also planning to look into starting a counselling course in the autumn- it is something that i have wanted to do for awhile now and it will give me something positive to focus on- I am also looking forward to having some peace here- ad calm- time for me and the kids to start to heal from this mess of a family life that we have had for so long.

I will try to get onto MN this week, even though parents are here i will do my best to keep in touch- this is a great thread- how did women manage before Mumsnet?!!

You see - you're sounding more positive with each post!

Bless your babies - I remember my big ones' excitement when they saw their grandparents as small peeps!

Counselling course or anything like that sounds good - it's great to have something to focus on, and it's for you too which is only a good thing.

I can tell you that more than half your crap at the moment is being under the same roof as not so DH and your life will be immeasurably better once that side of things has been resolved. Hard, yes. Lonely, yes at times. But also it's new and you can build with your children and course and it will make you feel a lot more positive about the future.

Yes - what did we do without MN - I would have loved for it to be around when my older grots were small!

Paul I've done the under the same roof thing too, it turned out to be a whopping, soul-destroying, stress-filled 15 months in the end. You have my sympathy...but life does get immeasurably better, I promise.

boosmummie

16-18 my you was a late starter and yes i used to be able to outsrink them boys.Now a days i would fall asleep after couple of glasses .

teahouse

i did 5-6 years first time and got married .now divoiced and am heading into my 6th year as a single parent .

ye sim not a fan of sand and beaches either its not relaxing as your eithe rbeing requested to helo build the sand castle or having to watch thema ll the time in case they wander .?
No sitting down with a book .Think thats the hardest bit of being a single parent .especially on holiday or school holidays no me time .My older two are good with younger two but still some days .I want to yell what about me im still mor ethan a mum

Going hear hear! We are human too! My oldest DCs are actually amazing with DD3 and will give me a good couple of hours at times and actively encourage me to take a break. I do NOT pay them either!

I may have been a little conservative in my snakebite drinking age...

YOu're up flipping early

lol early sadly not I get up just before 6am so can grab coffee and shower in peace befoe start waking them up .My youngest is collected at about7,20 by taxi for school then kick all the others out for school ds2 8am ,ds1 collage 8am and take dd to school

And i do admit to having a week away few years back with a very very good friend at the time and it was fantasic .Flew to the US and met him in Chicago ~( he drove down ) and we stayed in Hotel and for once was all about me as a adult oh and him .But lol wouldlike to go back see Chicago this time .

Was so nice to be someone other than just mum .Did me the world of good after being seperated and divoiced and lost lot of my confidence

Absolutely - it's bloody hard word on one's own and a break of a few days is usually just what's needed to get us going again!

I've got one coming up in June, just for a night, but no children and it'll be the first night without one since DD3 was born, so I am beyond excited!

May I join you please?

boos, WOMD/Belle I know you two already :)

I'm 47, widowed twice (sort of), LP to DS who's nearly 14 (his Dad died when DS was nearly 7), we'd split by then and DD who's 3 (her Dad died 3 weeks before our wedding day) 3.5 years ago.

But the Three Musketeers are doing well :) I'm just knackered, that's all!

Hey Mrs, I was thinking this morning that you ought to come in and take a pew .

Feeling reeeeeeefreshed today after two shocking nights on Friday and Saturday (me not DD), and got a whopping 10 hours last night! - Her Highness Princess Peppa didn't wake til 10:25 (14½ bloody hours) and I so appreciate it! SHe is a good sleeper, but sometimes she is amazing (and clearly in training for her teenage years!)

Off out to do chores what need to be chored - been trying for an hour and a half to get us up since she had breakfast and it;s now half flipping twelve.

Back later

Hi lemon

i second the kanckered i feel it more this time round as single parent .Than i did when was younger with ds1 and ds2.

Pew erm checks nothing to do with churches please it may fall down round us and its not my fault
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10.25 sobs
thats mid day here .And have them awake at other ends of the days to .Have taken to going to bed some nights and leaving ds1 and ds2 up .

Mind im now sat down having a though since i have been doing a proper clean on ds1 and ds2 bedroom (they share) and cleaned their bathroom .I could do with i think

Hello,
No, Going, simply a phrase, no church talk in here today.

I'm the opposite with tiredness, but I did have 3 bang, bang, bang so I suppose feeling knackered was part of the deal. Very lucky with this DD as she really does sleep very well. She is generally a little shit mildly grumpy between 4 and 6, but I refuse to let her have a nap if possible and then she will sleep like a dream.

Other DCs ALWAYS go to bed after me on weekends/holidays!

I, too, will be needing a later. Had a shitty day after a very promising start. May have a possible rant later, but currently cannot be held responsible for my words if I start .

DD3 has just used an entire brand new lip balm to smooth her 'wips' and is now finishing it off on her toes because she is just mad and got to it before me. I couldn't be bothered to wrestle it off her, but she now has a greasy face/head of hair and has probably left greasy trails around the sitting room....

giggling at your dd .

Pretty glad mine pass that nowand yes figured you wa sjoking about the church phase .

and im waiting for ds3 to get home feed him phsyio and bed by 6pm otherwise he gets very grouchyand means i may get a tad grouchy to

#Rant away sometimes it helps with getting it of your chest so to speak