40+ Lone parents

[WillIEverBeASizeTen]

I'm 49 and a lone parent (13yo and 20yo) am I in the minority on Mumsnet? It appears alot of the LP's here are a lot younger!

Good evening all:)

boo at DDs ingenious use of wipbalm!

Have just tucked into a blue riband (finished off the haribo LAs which were securely hidden in glove compartment) with a cup of tea..no tonight :((ironing to do,alcohol and very hot implements do not compliment each other)

I'm knackered too, and I only have a 20yo and 13yo, don't know how you olduns cope with your broods

Hey Ten

The funny thing is that although she can say her Ls, she calls lights gights and lips wips. I said L L L L Lights and L L L L Lips and she just looked at me with her ever present evil eye and said quite straight faced 'L L L L GIGHTS, L L L L WIPS'. She knows she's being facetious and I likened it to my older DCs deliberate text speak to piss me off irk me a tad. They are limiting it now as I refuse to answer them .

We made some cinnamon, oat and raisin biscuits this afternoon and I we have eaten them all already. Again, I don't care.

I am glad I have just the one small and 3 big I must say....

No here tonight as have to get up at the most indecent hour of 8am tomorrow. Bella will be mightily peeved as she's a lazy lie-in sort of kid. Already...!

LP here too, 47 today!!! Two Dc's 12 and 4. Always been on my own and may tell my 'story' one day, though have told dribs and drabs over the years I've been on MN.

Feeling a little raw this evening as I've had Ds in tears because of 'poor boy' name calling and the same snot nose 12yo telling Ds that his Mum (me) is 'stealing his mums money by claiming benefits' . Tried explaining to my Ds that as I'm so much older than his mother, I've actually still paid in more tax years than her and that it's not the boy talking but his parents...lucky them that their marriage didn't fail causing them to be LP's and possibly have the need to claim benefits and that 'Karma is a bitch...'

boo Bella sounds like she has a very good sense of humour ahhh cinnamon bikkies, I just lurve anything cinnamon! I think I may have eaten them all while they were in dough format:)

solo kids are soooo cruel, makes me so cross, you do wonder about the parents don't you? Give him a big cuddle and reassure him that some people are just plain ignorant:(

Oh and boo 8am is bordering on afternoon

Just realised it's 8.30 and I'm still sitting here MNing..am totally obsessed

note to self: no MNing till all chores are completed..yeah right, I'm all growed up and can do what I like:)

Off to the ironing board (can probably get away with doing 1 school shirt)

Yes, kids are cruel, but to me, that's learned behaviour, listening to his parents doing the benefit claimant bashing; upsets me as I've paid in for more than 27 years before taking a break to look after Dc's ~ and only then because child care is too expensive.

Happy Birthday solo + !!

Thank you!

solo you're absolutely right..you can hold your head up..these people are not important, your children are!

HI all missed speaking last night Happy Birthday solo
Me being bad at getting up in the morning, my 6year old DD gets up and sorts out breakfast fo her and DS3 around 8am - I follow a little after and have to sort out the kitchen. Only draw back is the extra milk and cereal they use and dont eat as they use biggest bowls possible

Boo PM to you

oh well might know I've gone an missed you all in the day - just my luck!!
Will try and catch up with you all later, but i think im first up for the morning. Well I would be if I wasn't just on my way to bed now!!
Before I go though can i just ask advice DH told me 9 weeks ago we were over. He moved out 5 weeks ago BUT I still don't know why an its eating me up. Am thinking of going over to see him tomorrow evening to try an get some explanation off him as to why he cant live with me anymore - despite HIS unreasonable behaviour. Is this a good idea? His mom knows why. His sister is now stonewalling me so I think I have some right to be told whats going on dont i? WWYD?

Happy birthday solo and i know its tough i want to walk around with sign above my head saying no i dont have a 40 inch tv and expensive holidays .N

ot helped though as were going to Florida next year and am dreading the reaction and snotty looks will get at dd school.But they wont even stop to think why luckily the head is aware but its already reached playground gossip via one of the parent helpers
.We are going with make a wish charity who are helping with he costs before ds3 gets worse and loses his moblity that he has But they will just see another sp benefit scrounger ,

and lol Joelybear think i may have beaten you to first up my youngest decided that 3am was time to wake up and get up .

if he wont say to your face would he do it in a letter ?

Morning All,

Grrrr I just wrote a whole essay for you all then I lost it.

Solo Happy BIrthday for yesterday and welcome. I was going to come back last night but had a shitty day and decided to get in my jams and watch mindless drivel for the evening! at those ignorant parents and their offspring - it's shit being 12 at the best of times, but to have idiots like that spouting crap they really are not informed about is just mean and unnecessary.

Ten we also ate half the cookie mix before it made it to the oven.....will be making more today as it's about to piss down!

Going Morning, hold your head up high and if you do have looks/comments you must go straight to the head as if it happens on school premises then he he obliged to say something. Wankers they are, unless they know EXACTLY the situation, they have no right.

Joely - I do think you must get some explanations from him for you AND your older boys. His behaviour alone suggests it is his problem, surely because if it was 'you' in his opinion then I would imagine he would have let you know IYSWIM.

Righto, off to the airport and then the toyshop as Bella has birthday pennies to spend so will get some plastic throwaway tat lovely educational toys while we're up there.

Be back with biscuits....

Im 49 have 2 older at 24 and 25 im also a grandmother but youngest is 8 and has ADHD/ASPERGER a struggle??? YES not as fit as i would like to be but do my best feel very alone at times

Biscuits whole packet for me please. ignores the diet for yet another day

Hi Sheran .

Boo
part of me would love to say to them yes you can have help with the cost of holiday toDisney all it takes is to have a child thats disabled and will get worse .And then take pictures of their faces

Think becuase ds does not go to the same school they dont see him much .Though he has been to couple of things at the school.The head is really nice and she understands and has authorised the time of for the holiday even though its not till September 2012

Hi Sheran,

One of my dearest friends has a son with Asperger's - it was a real struggle at first, but he is now in his 2nd term at UCL, he is one of the most delightful boys/young men I have met in many years, but it was a different story ten years ago. Turned a corner when he got to 10 and has been onwards and upwards ever since. HOpe that can give you some cheer.

Going fuck 'em. Ignorant they are and why the hell should you be made to feel that you ought to explain things to them. I'll come and stick my fingers in their eyes when I'm back if you like CANNOT be doing with people who don't know the story.

Plastic tea sets got. Football got. Puzzles got. Rain pouring. Guess how exciting my day will be....!

Morning all

So DP has got tickets for Dirty Dancing next week as a surprise birthday treat for me....BUT I have parents evening and can't go :(

Anyone fancy a night out on 31st March?!!

boo rain pouring? Where are you, it's lovely here in London!

I'm in Spain Lilac - we've had 22/23 and brilliant sunshine for the past 6 days, but clearly that was just a break in the rain that we'd had for 3 weeks prior...When it rains here, it really rains. Like non bloody stop. We were over in the UK for a fortnight, got back 2 weeks ago and had 11 days without it stopping for even 10 minutes....

It's not cold, about 19 today, but I've seen the forecast there and it tells me London Town will be warmer than here tomorrow..... I LOVE London when it's sunny, one of my favourite places to be. I'm from SW London and right between two glorious commons which we practically live on when there and weather good. Looking forward to moving back, even though it'll be Autumn, but the Bonfire at Battersea Park is worth the fact that it's freeze your bits off weather!!!!

I'll not be back for 31st March, however a chum of mine may just be interested. She's not a MNer but will text her and ask. She's a dance teacher and goes to as many dance things as she can, be it actual dancing stuff or stuff with dancing or about dancing and DD is her favourite film. Natch!

Have you told DD2 yet btw? And if so, how'd it go?

Well boo, I'm sure you'll have a better summer than I will!

Just managed to sell the tickets to someone at DD1's school, they do loads of theatre trips and one of the staff has bought them. We're off to see the Wizard tomorrow with her school (about 40 teenagers, lots of staff and parents, my gay Australian hairdresser and his boyfriend!!)

I told DD2 Sunday pm, thought it would be good to do it while DD1 still at home. She was a bit but no tears or fuss and absolutely fine about meeting him on Sunday. I have had all sorts of hysteria from both of them about Dad's GF so I am not sure why the reaction I got was so different. I am pleased and relieved!

Possibly true Lilac!!

OK, Wizard sounds fun. I too have a gay Australian hairdresser! He's in my bit of London and has been cutting my hair for about 15 years, we have a such a scream. Used to go out sometimes before I left UK, love him and thank my lucky stars that he says he wants to stay in UK for good as I would not want anyone else near my hair!! Have fun tomorow.

Great news re DD2 - honestly - I think it's because you're mummy and they know without actions or words where they stand with you. It's so very different with a lot of children and their dads. I remember the wailing from my older DCs when he remarried (tbh, they still don't like her, but tolerate now they are older) and it was bordering on hysteria at times.

I'm sure you will have a fab time on Sunday - I will happily keep my rain here until Monday so you can have my sunshine .

Have you all fallen into a hole?

A chocolate fountain

A beautiful day in Essex:) long may it reign (makes a nice change to spell it differently!

How is the Costa?

i been school hunting for ds3 and phoning lots of schools , one no way is he ever going there and ones a maybe and im in need of.

The sun is lovely long may this continue though i could quite happily go to bed right now

Hahahaha Ten, that is actually quite funny!

Chocolate fountain. YUM. Just made some more cinnamon, oat and raisin biscuits, but have deliberately undercooked them and they are beyond scrumptious and gooey and just oh. What more can I say!

It is not Costa del Sol, it is Costa Del Lluvia, all bloody day! So you got my sun and I got your rain.

Evening Going - goodness that is such a drag that whole school crap! I've got to start thinking about Primary for Bella before I know it as she'll be starting Reception a year in September eeeeek. But we're not moving back til October so I'll just have to get my arse into gear as soon as we are back in London. With any luck she can go to the same fantastic Primary that the older ones went to - same head, lots of the same staff and a handy 2 minute walk from my house!!!! Not that I'm a lazy cow...