40+ Lone parents

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I'm 49 and a lone parent (13yo and 20yo) am I in the minority on Mumsnet? It appears alot of the LP's here are a lot younger!

Hi all. Not managed to get any work done today! Will try harder tomorrow. House still standing - but only just. Found more horrors in the brickwork and timbers today, but I have decided to just stick my fingers in my ears and sing the 'la la la, I can't hear you' song when more problems with the house are being explained to me!!
Welcome Ever. As Boo says, a test will be set for you on Thursday - so get on with those 17 pages of revision!! I am a newcomer myself, and these people are just gorgeous.

No for me this evening, after my 'falling off the bed' episode last night! Early night, especially seeing as the tv has now decided to break as well. Grrrr
Boo how's the weather been today. Please tell me it has been pouring down and is freezing cold. If, by any chance, it has been hot and sunny - please just lie to me!!

Night.
Dumps x

Been absolutely foul all day. We didn't go for a lovely walk. We didn't go to the park for an hour. I didn't get 4 loads of washing done and dried outside and we didn't have supper in the garden.

Oh goody. Glad it's not good weather over there!!

Deluded of the South Coast, Dumps. x

ROFL at Deluded of the South Coast

Paul when you read this I have sent you a MONSTER of a PM with everything I think you need to know/do right now. Hope it all makes sense!

Grouchy You been doing some sitting today? What's happening? How are you?

Newbie here....Lone parent,47,DC aged 27,25 and 12.
Ooh..not forgetting the 5 grandchildren!

I have also had the "Is this your gran?" to my youngest....how nice

Hello Crazynanna and welcome. I'm 40 with 4DC - DDs of 17/16 and 2 and a DS of 14. No grandchildren though! I have to say I am expecting the 'is this your grandmother' question when my youngest is at school! I was asked 'are you the nanny then' by a stuck up bint mother at the nursery my older grots went to, so waiting for the double ender there!!

Thanks for the welcome boosmummie

I reckon the mother asking you if you were the nanny did so because you were a blonde,bronzed stunner!

Blonde yes, wasn't so bronzed then! But I was about 26 and she was about 40 I suppose then. Said bint woman is now easily over 50 and the last time I saw her when we were back in London was priceless as I had my oldest DD (17) with me and my baby and her jaw did indeed hit the floor. My goodness it felt good!!!!!!!

(grin)

Bloody smiley didn't work....hate being new
Meant to be a cheesy grin,boosmummie

Goodo - you're as bad as me!

I'll get the hang of it. It's a bit of a bugger for navigating this site.

I noticed you have a bit of an age gap with your youngest like me. I went to my GP convinced my missing periods were a sign of the menopause,and stood looming over him,hands on hips demanding HRT patches...I came out sobbing clutching a pee bottle! Felt just slightly silly.

Just a slight one! at your story though. It's lovely doing it all over again - can honestly say that I have the benefit of hindsight with her! When we were over, went to the common and Bella tripped on a climbing frame and I just told her to get up and carry on, at which point the grandmother of another (wimpy) child said to me 'she must be at least your 4th child'!!! Clearly a reference to my total lack of sympathy to a grazed knee!

All the emoticons use the square brackets....

Bolding is and asterisk either side of word... took me a few postings to suss it out myself!

Anyway, tis almost 1am for me and I ought to go to bed!! Nighty night.

Sleep well...nice to be eased in by a friendly face.

Morning up Come on Ten where are you .Strong coffe availa ble for the late night party owls.

Hi ever Hope your busy studying all the pages .I was going round the bend .Still am but thats another story

Hi crazynana.Dont be fooled by Boo shes not only gone round the bend shes driving the crazy car

Boowags finger up at 1am still .Extra strong coffee for you.How are Bellas teeth she more settled at night?

Im another one with age gaps 12 years between ds1 and ds3 and bless ds3 looks even younger they often think hes around 3/4

Joely
Hope your doing better today
Paul same goes for you
Are everyyones dc back in school today ,ds1,ds,2ds3 are all in today dd is in tomorrow only and thats for a party

And i am now peering at the screen from a more upright angle and while still no feeling .I have a bit of a problem as cant always tell when have wind coming and even when i can i can not stop it .

So Dr was talking and was case of opps Parpand it was not even a quiet one and he just looked at me and lifted eyebrow and said shall we just ignore that or is that your opion of what im saying .
Just said well we could but do you think you could open the window first then we can pretend to ignore .Nurse at the back shoulders were shaking with trying not to laugh .

Luckily this paticular Dr Has a very good sense of humour and did not take him long to realise that mines slighty offbeat to .
Second Dr went me and nurse laughed our socks of which course lead to more gas escaping and dam window does not open wider .Think its to stop people escaping .

that reminds me who was sending the rope ladder oh and the hunky fireman to carry me down the ladder

Morning all,

Grouchy you made me LOL at your posts this morning! So pleased to hear that you are slightly upright now. Have you, or will you be shortly, been doing any physio yet? I shall duly keep my eyes peeled for fireman with spare ladders and send them your way .

Well, we had a 'good' night with Bella's teeth at last! She woke 5 times, but 4 of them were while I was still awake. The 5th she just appeared in my room at about 5 this morning, so I scooped her up and we slept til about ten, which was bliss after the previous few nights!

Sun is out, having lunch with a friend who is over at her place for the week and then down to the beach for supper. There is the most fabulous cafe by day/restaurant by night right on the beach where the fish and seafood are divine.

Hope you all have some sunshine too....and have a lovely day.

Morning All.
Welcome on board crazynanna.

Grouchy - loving your wind problem (that really doesn't sound right, does it?). Is the doctor with the sense of humour a bit of a hottie? If not, I think you will have to get someone to set off the fire alarm, to get the firemen in! What is it that is just so appealing about a fireman? I once sprained my ankle whilst chasing after a fire engine on a big night out in Manchester. Not exactly my proudest moment, but would probably do it all again.....
Boo - glad you had a better night, and a lovely lie in with B till 10 just sounds so yummy.
I am supposed to be starting work this morning, but it is now 10.30 and keep getting distracted by you lot!!! I must focus, I must focus, I must focus. Well, perhaps another and then I'll get going on it.......
Have a great day.
Dumps x

Dumpsville and Grouchy Thank you for the welcome. 18 pages of older Lone Parents!....thought I was the only one. Teens can be as time consuming as toddlers...I just about get the motivation these days to wash my hair and de-frizz my chin....but will try and pop in here as much as I can.

and more well reality hit here today .no ifs and buts am going to need a wheelchair .the nhs will rpvide but experaince has taught me that they only offer the most basic only has to be adequate not the most suitable

Have now got feelers out for people in the sn world to look for asecond hand lightweight manual and a power chair

Grouch I am so sorry to hear that - does this mean that you will be unable to get around without or is it a case of with time and physio you will gain some control? I think it's madness that one has to shell out for decent chairs. There's not a great deal I know about them, but if there's anyway I can help then please let me know. Even if it's writing nagging letters!! I'm very good at them

Your upbeatness really is quite admirable, I am in awe.

right now wont be able to get around without .The hope is that some point in the future i may be able to walk a few steps for walk read wobble

Meh i had a few tears and tried to flood London all on my self .apolgies to wills and Kate

But i kinda knew it was coming so not suprised and house is geared up so am ok on that side .

now all i need to do is work on liking to eat baked beans becuase i swear my son uses them for extra power burse when he is in his chair .

Right, well when Bella and I move back for good I'm coming to be your partner in crime and see what damage we can get up to .

I guess it's good that the house is geared up, but how will you manage with the smalls? Surely now you MUST qualify for some kind of assistance with them - it can't just be left to the (older) boys and your mum.

well already asked for fireman or policemen to be sent my way to erm assist me with some things .Well dont want to tell them what i want till they say yes

Hi all I'm making a or will pour if anyone wants one.
I see its been very quiet the last few days - must be all the sunshine I guess!!

You might know I am back on here for a rant about XH. 2 weeks ago I started back to work an first day in XH looked after DCs at mine an opened my post addressed to me from solicitor, sealed it up and pretended he'd not toched it! Then on the Saturday (just over a week ago) told me he an OW wre going on first date next week. They seen a lot of each other over last few weeks an months with kids (even before XH left) so story of first date seems a bit far fetched!!
So Friday he was to look after DCs while I was at work. Told him he could not stay in my house with them as I did not trust him. He looked put out. Told me fuel costs instead of £6 would be £12 so he might have to look at maintenece he paid. I replied fine Ill go to CSA, which he replied forget agreement re financial settlement I'll have 50/50 split. Which I told him I would see him in court an he'd no way get 50/50 as we have 5 DCs youngest 22 months now!! Off he huffed.
Today get text from him asking to come an see DCs on Tuesday after work an can he stay to put them to bed!!! He just doesnt seem to get it.
This is my home now for my family and friends. He choose NOT to be my family an his actions an lack of respect for my privacy show I cant count him as a friend so he ISNT welcome in my home anymore. Not sure how he'll take this. I am sending him an email to tell him!! Watch for the explosion. He chose to chase someone else, leave me, family and home an live 20 miles away so now he will feel the consequences. I have made it too easy for him so far as allowed him into house to see children while I went out but with last few events cant do it anymore.

His coming into house seems to unsettle little ones as they are hoping daddy will come home again, so are confused by his being here so am doing this to protect them aswell. He is welcome to see them. JUst NOT HERE.
Sorry for rant but he just doesn't seem to get it!