Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 30)

[lilacisinlove]

Yay! I did it again!

Deactivated. Can't be doing with it. Stomach churned when Smurf popped up on FB, I don't think that, plus Carrot madness is a good plan for POF.

flame, perhaps you should rename yourself fickle

lou, sorry to hear your about your cat. I suppose at least you know what happened, my friend's cat disappeared when they were on holiday last summer and they still have no idea. You have had such a run of bad luck with your pets recently.

snape, train man...don't be a tease!

Whatcha sayin about me??

quick place marking i will have the keys by tomorrow lunchtime!!!!
is it me or has the screen changed

Hi All,

Gosh so much to catch up on i don't know where i am.Hi NomeansNO i don't think i know you.Hi to ASBM too not sure i know you either.

Lilac So glad it went well with DD thats wonderful news.

Songe Well done you on the weight loss thats really good and in quite a short space of time mine took ages to come off but was nice and steady.

Took Don't leave i love your posts and you have been so supportive to me especially when i'm feeling sorry for myself.So at some point i need to be able to return it.

Lou Good news about the car.But so sorry about the cat

Aurora yay for the keys.When are you planning on moving all your stuff.

Well me and DG are most definitely back on.Its our 6 month anniversary today and we are just waiting for a credit check to go through on a house we have applied for.I really hope we get it its not overly big but its in a beautiful area near a great school.I think the boys will be very happy there.I am so happy and so excited.

aurora keys! yay! :)

BnM - 6monthiversary :) congratulations :)

spent large part of day calling Platonic Man 'fat' by email. :) he's fun to tease. :)

hope all good with everyone?

hey all,

i have passed all checks for house except the landlord one. i told them to hold on till i gave them notice. was worried (now ex)p had ruined my credit. glad to find out it hasn't . so, hopefully tomorrow i will try and get them pinned down to a date. I really want a date to focus on as i need to plan my exams papers due in and the packing around it.

how is everyone today?

aurora - i seen your post about keys. yippee. you must be excited.

beautician - i remember you. i was DONTtouch previously

snape - woo hoo at a tran sighting.

elasta - compliments. fantastic. you cant beat a good compliment when your feeling not to great.

lou - poor cat. what did i see you post about finding a dog on fb? did its owner turn up?

flame & snape - whats this about friends? are they friends or men you dated? never the two definitions can meet in a person they fall in one camp or other. either you want to see them naked, or you dont.

Oh I dont know NO. I dated traveller, quite a few times in fact. But now, even though I see him more regularly than I ever did (about once a week, with my son it tow!) I see him as a friend and dont feel the urge to rip his clothes off anymore.

Mind you, if it wasnt for GW, I might not feel the same

NmN Aha i remember now.Good news about your house hope mine is good.

Snape Hi how are you whats going on with train man where are all the regular updates.

Apologies to everyone in advance for any mood swings i may have on here i have taken a new pill this month and am feeling awful now on my 7 day break.I'm so excited about the house but have been a little bit of a psycho bitch.I'm in agony too flooded the bed earlier that has never happened to me before.New duvet now needed So need to change my pill again.Sorry for TMI but i have warned before i like to share.

nMn. heh. friend. never anything untoward, i do my times tables in the back of my head sometimes to stop myself lunging at him and disgracing myself. he knows, but doesn't quite grasp the depth of my adoration. ahh well.

yes, i want to see him naked. but it's best to not even start to think about that see what you've done? ;)

BnM - oh, hope you're tip-top again soon.

train man is being elusive. I've been bad at getting out on tim ein the mornings. must make more of an effort. :) yesterday was amusing. we were colour co-ordinated. :)

Snape Thank you.The pain is bad farking pills.

Ooh colour co-ordinated.See is meant to be.I had at least expected you to have snogged him by now or at the very least to have accidentally sat on his lap

i am not saying men/women dont try and be friends after. But truth is (no matter how hard they pretend not to) , one of the 2 would still definately want to get naked with the other(if not both wanting it).

its fun sometimes going along with the pretence that you are both platonic

and then you crack and fall back into bed/lust mode.

but its very rare that happens. its usually one person is no longer interested. and they string the other along and uses them. only contacting them when they are bored/desperate/rejected by a new partner?

personally i wouldn't like to be either of the pair.

the one who no longer wants to be naked is a user.

the one who wants to be naked is being used. it demorilising and only gets you down.

have you talked to train man yet? if not we need a cunning reason behind your introduction. lol

Yay beaut!

I disagree. Although I am hopelessly besotted with Carrot, I feel that our friendship is a friendship that is going to stand the distance regardless (now - it has taken a long time to get us this way). It is unbalanced in as much as I would rather like to see him naked again, but not in a use/being used way. I know he would drop everything for me just as much as I would for him if we need each other, and we both "need" our Sundays equally.

Download suggested that I may have type 2 bipolar (I didn't even know there were types). After having a go at him for calling me crazy, I did research. He may have a teeny point. I have been forced to use the "s" word. Grr.

flame - friends dont want to see each other naked. we will have to agree to disagree. we must have a difference in what a friend is..

although... you are in the situation i was discussing, except it sounds like you are both using each other as a support mechanism. I would place a hefty bet if either of you got themselves in a full time serious relationship they would drop the other as they no longer needed that support mechanism to get through the week.

if you are indeed bipolar this type of relationship would draw you. the will you/wont you thrill feeds your manic tendancies to go through highs and lows.

you dont need to listen to me though. if you enjoy this kind of drama then go for it.

Its great fun when your up, if you dont mind the crash when your down.

god, no. i would fall into a pit of 'gahghHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! if i spoke to train man without being (1) really vodka'ed up to the eyeballs and (2) i take it we're talking about talking to trainman outwith the periphery of - 'after you' and 'no, it's ok, i'll stand'.

oh, bipolar. yeah. ups, fucking terrible downs, but i reason that the ups negate the downs and it's better than a flat line...

I have a couple of friends I am quite happy to see naked

I can see our friendship evolving as we get relationships, but not going completely, in the same way most friendships evolve depending on whether or not there are partners. The majority of the time the naked wanting doesn't cross my mind any more which is a huge step. I dunno. I know it is a weird set up. We've tried stopping contact a few times but it never works out. Being around him actually stabilises my mood which is one of his most appealing aspects.

These things all grow and change regardless. I wouldn't expect any friendship to stay the same with time, regardless of gender or desire to see naked.

I have a couple of bi polar friends, and seeing them made me convinced I was just sort of weirdy depression, but then having read up on this type 2 thing, it has hypermania rather than mania so it is less manic iyswim. It does fit me well. Especially as I have always said my low points are due to my brain whizzing too much and I either drop completely or focus on one thing obsessively. The ADs control the lows, and yes, I quite like the highs tbh so I can't see me getting any extra treatment even if he is right.

Anyway. Insanity and non-platonic friendships aside... I am done with talking about Carrot again for a while. He is in my life, he's not going anywhere, he isn't making me particularly angsty anymore except for the odd pang when he says just the right thing at the right time and I think "DAMN YOU!!"

Really looking forward to my night out on Saturday. I shall look hot. I shall be with friends. That is all that I really need this week. Next week I shall consider POF again.

snape - bipolar is extreme ups and downs though. not just your typical drama queen.

its sending an ex a message saying he is the son of satan and being all "woe betide",
and the next day acting like it never happened and the word is fantastic and "will you come and meet me for coffee" type.

bipolar are also sexual extremist. they do things we dont consider acceptable. they need to keep pushing as they need new higher boundaries for them to hit the sexual high.

usually very premiscious also. many lovers over their lifetime, quick succession. usually sleeping with them very quickly too.

I couldn't be in a relationship with someone who is bi polar as a partner.

snape - so... we need a plan. what have you actually discussed other than get out of the way? do you sit together or stand together.. paint the image for me?

oh i know, god - sorry - realy not meaning to belittle anyones condition - its a chemical reacion, can;t be helped - just is.

we occasionally sit or stand together, but we're not realy beyond nicieties. 'no! after you!' i'm not great at flirting unless i'm half cut - and even then, it's debateable!!

have you tried asking him about himself? you know "we;ve been getting this train.... for x time... where do you go? but make sure its when you are next sitting. it's more chat conductive.

Oooh NMN is far too proactive

squeak!