Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 30)

[lilacisinlove]

Yay! I did it again!

I was worried. Sounds like he is messing with your head...

Have had a good day. I had another really lovely message from GW last night, so this morning I plucked up courage and rang him on my way to work. Had a long chat and have been txting during the day. Am smitten - just hope it is going to last

sorry flame - was it all my rantings about exh?

Sin - My DD was coming back from her dads saying she wanted to bring toys back and he wouldnt let her. I had quite a few goes at him about it. He assured me he wasnt stopping her and she was playing us off.
Turns out, thats what she was doing. We brought her a joint bday present, and i kept saying to her, why didnt she take it to daddys... she told him i told her she wasnt allowed.
Shes only 5. Not saying thats what your Ds's are doing.. but????

Elasta - sounds like its all going so well ;)

Flame - why is he being confusing? are you officially 'seeing' each other.. or does he just have a different expectation of the relationship?

Snape - any train man or PM updates?

11 days Mr big free. Almost broke and emailed him last night. But didnt. Well done me :)
Boatman is superkeen to meet, as am i actually... but going to see the non dating period though. its very nice.. im liking it.
Not replied to buddists email yet. Not sure how i feel about that??? anyone help??

Sponge - stick with the weightloss. it is worth it and you will feel better.. You should be doing it for youself not any man anyway...
I rather enjoyed my month of so of stuffing my face :) but sat i felt and looked pretty awful and really bloated.. so its time to lose some. I want to lose stone and a half.
I lack motivation.. i dont know if you fancy checking in here.. or starting another thread in lone parents.. and check in food diary thing. help keep us ( and anyone else in lone parents) going and motivated about it?

Grrr. The ONE time I decide to do things in writing rather than by phone... Job centre apparently had no idea I have moved house, for some reason a letter they have sent me hasn't turned up (despite redirection), so they have kindly stopped my money. Yay.

I have no idea if we are seeing each other or not tbh. He isn't intentionally messing with my head - he is dealing with some massive stuff, and I don't think that whether or not we are an "us" is really on his radar. He has a week. I am hectic all week and weekend anyway, so I am giving it a week to work itself out one way or another. Last night was a more "normal" chatty night, but not any mention of actually seeing each other.

DD1 plays us off against each other too. She announced that Daddy sat them down and told them that whore his friend was his girlfriend. He has done nothing of the sort (it was obv when I mentioned talking to daddy about it). The same with she tells me she is miserable there, but he says she is absolutely fine, and when I pick her up she is bouncing so I tend to believe him now.

yay for blooming job centre flame (((flame))) if ound out today that they'd stopped my winter fuel payment as well, ever so kindly not telling me until i queried it today there's been loads of complaints, i wonder why .....

Bloody job centre.

In other news... I was brave, and asked Smurf if he intends to see me again.

He does indeed :o Says he is just sorting his shit out and hopes to see me soon.

Well done flame! Much better to be brave than keep suffering. Hope you are now feeling much

Am at home this week, still lusting after GW, roll on Friday week when he will be back from his travels. He'd better watch out

beaut says hi to everyone and she will post when she can

well done flame! I hate asking questions if there's a possibility of an answer I might not like...but great that you asked and got a positive response.

My date this Fri has cancelled, allegedly because he has to go to his daughter's bday meal. This is second time he's cancelled He said he can make an evening next week, but I can't. and I have no free time for the next 2 weeks other than on Sat/Sun which is when he (allegedly) sees his daughter.

So I've suggested maybe we shouldn't bother (albeit not quite in those terms!).

Just call me Miss Havisham :)

she is in court tomorrow but will tryand post after when she gets home xxx

Hmmm, two cancellings in a row would bother me too.

It took a hell of a lot of guts, but I was there still confused, and as much as I had been planning on leaving it a week, I want to enjoy my weekend without trying to work out crazy men. Figured I was best off finding out before going out for a meal with my mum and friend as at least that way I could be distracted for an evening with bad answer.

hi Sponge, sounds like he is messing you around a friend of mine said to me that when you first meet a man they are on their best behaviour. If he isnt very reliable then, he wont get any better. Sad but true...

Well, I wasn't impressed, hence my response to him. It's not as though he's in WM's league (or the other one who shall not be discussed) either so not worth getting upset over.

good news, flame...bad news, sponge...

I've been wondering about beaut, looking forward to an update.

elasta, sounds like things are going great for you. I'm glad you're giving him a chance despite his home situation. I was in a very similar position and it's far from easy. If he's right for you, just focus on that.

Not much going on here...my class assembly AND school trip tomorrow, dreading both . I'm going to tell DD1 about TLOML when she's home from school at the weekend. It's been four months since our first contact already and we're planning on spending the rest of our lives together and it's time she knew of his existence. I'll see how she takes it and then have another think about telling DD2. Current plan is that we all go out for my birthday on 27th and they meet him then. I would be a lot less bothered about it if they hadn't reacted so badly to exH telling them about his GF. He told them in JULY last year and they still haven't met her! Will let you know how it goes, keep your fingers crossed for me.

Wave to tookool, scl, mily, aurora, snape and anyone else I haven't mentioned. Where's ninah these days?

Flameboy has snapped the ball thingy in the toilet cistern. Have rigged it with a hairband. Gonna see how hard it is to fix myself as I can't be doing with the plumber hitting on me again!

morning all, gosh it has taken me ages to catch up on the thread and I can't believe how long since I last posted

Elasta, great news about GW,

Flame, re job centre and loo but re bravery with smurf

Sponge, what the others said about cancelling twice

Aurora, hope all ok with you healthwise and moving

Took, well done on the Mr Big cold turkey, right thing to do but blardy hard

Snape, mid-20's definitely allowable

hi to everyone else, SCL, Lilac, MZ, Monty, Ninah, Eve

Meanwhile chez Mily just v v busy with life. Getting on with planning the wedding, which is fun, trying on swishy dresses etc etc

I will see if I can post a few so you can see where my thinking is going

oooh yes. lets see :)

Lilac - good luck with telling them all.. hope it goes really well.

sponge - two cancellations. yep. not worth it.

13 days no mr big contact. Am doing well. but not so well that im not counting the days.
Boatman is becoming more and more interesting. Still on msn at the momment, but chatting to him is nice.

Though i am bored. And skint. I should be paiting the garden fences this weekend. hardly enthralling. My house is spotless too ( bar the room of doom, aka the office)
Even my mother commented at how amazing my house was looking. The woman is insane and hoovers twice a day ( and she works full time!) so, if shes says it looks amazing...!!!
Surely a sign im bored. last year it was very much lived in... because i was out with mr big. meh.

i can't see the pics mily if you've already posted some

all ok with me, dp bought me a dozen red roses today they're be-oooooo-tiful

hello! back from Poland! (for work, with DXILs looking after the boys) Would have been nice to be met on my return - lots of couples hugging in terminal 1, bless them. they looked happy :)

revised OKC profile at weekend to remove giant mention of kids (they're still there, i just don't gush on and on and on about how great they are ;) ) and removed mention of not being up for a quick shag. . no interest. at all.

no TM this week, as been away and missed my train spectacularly on monday.

no PlatMan since tuesday - nowhere near as good as TooKs 13 days (very proud! high five!) but changed my phone on tuesday and his number hasn't transfered across. have shoved iphone holding number to back of knicker drawer and let it run down. ha! lets see who cracks first PM! and i didn't send the postcard i wrote him from my trip either.

aurora! :) at flowers. lovely!

Mily! DRESSES!!!!!!!

Lilac - good luck for the weekend. :)

Hi All

Im just posting quickly before i read back through what everyone has been up to.

I have obtained a non-molestation order against exp am so so happy Although going to court again was awful i was so nervous and upset.When it goes to court in a couple of weeks i will be also requesting an amendment/variation to the contact order for my ds's.

I'm going to see DG this weekend all funded by him

Hi All,

Have just packed DS1 off for a weeks skiing with school so its just me and DS2 next week. Watching comic relief tonight with a bottle of

GW has gone away for the weekend, but he did phone me late last night before he left and txt me from the airport this morning. Am not used to the attention, it is very . He is coming up to see me nxt Friday. One of the upsides of his home situation is that he gets to travel to me! It is a really nice feeling to know he is keen, just hoping it lasts.

MILY, NICE to see you again. Want to see more dresses!

Snape, want to hear more about TM next week! also, do you live in the East Mids too?

Lilac, good luck with your DD and TLOML

DG is back on? When did I miss that?

I am done with Smurf I think. I really really like him, but this is starting to piss me off now. If he wants me when he has sorted out his stuff, then fine, if I am still available then I will go for it, but I'm not sitting around waiting for him.

I am tired, tearful, v low, and just want someone to snuggle with. :(

Woah, DG is back??? Glad to hear you are ok BNM

Flame, ((((()))))

Lilac, good luck with the GCs and TLOML

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