...because DS's mother continues to refuse to take him over night.
Today has been rather typical of my current situation, 4 years ago I took custody of my ds as my XW was planning on moving to New Zealand with her H and new DC's. Overnight our roles reversed, she took him on alternate weekends and holidays, having him stay overnight on a saturday.
At that point she had 1 DD with her H, but since then has had 2 more. When ds came to live with me XW and her H turned his bedroom into an office for him, leaving ds with a mattress on his sister's floor. This didn't bother him at all until 2nd dd arrived, now XW says she can't take him overnight at all as they have no room. So for the past year or so ds spends 9 hours a fortnight with his mother.
This means that for me, unless I can beg my mother or father to take him overnight, I have no social life at all. The only time I get to see anyone at all is if they come to my house, which isn't great as I would love to have a night out, a meal, some drinks whatever.
So here I am, on another saturday reading about my friends socialising on their fb pages and wishing I was out there with them.
I've tried insisting that XW takes ds overnight, explaining that I need a break too, but she's not willing at all. "It's inconvenient" she says. I mean seriously, what's "inconvenient" about having your own child stay with you once a fortnight??? She can have a break whenever she likes as her Husband will babysit.