what do you do about overnight stays if you cosleep?

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some advice from any of you with very little ones, with sporadic dad contact, if you please :)

dd is 20 mths, we cosleep which suits us both. she sees her dad one weekend a month but as he's never lived with us, she's never spent the night with him.

he's putting major pressure on me for overnights, but as she doesn't seem to remember him very well in between visits (doesn't say dada yet) and as we're cosleeping, i've said not for a while yet (at least until she's talking more, so can express herself)

anyone any thoughts on this? would you do the same? or differnet?

dad is a good guy, not v hands on tho (crap at changing nappies, has never looked after her when she's poorly, etc)

I have always coslept with DS (now 7), and he is fine when sleeping over with others, whether it be granparents, friends etc. It is only with me that he demands to sleep in my bed. In fact when he has friend over to stay he also sleeps in his room with them.

Don't worry, kids are very adaptable and as long as they feel loved and secure, your DD will be fine with her daddy. He is an adult, he is her parent, she can settle down into a routine and he can learn to deal with it.