Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 27)

[ninah]

part 27? good god

Here is a sample of our discussion ... apologies for length
have u ever had depression?

no, not really

are u sure

yes

is it not something u like to associate with does the idea frighten u

:I have friends who have depression - and no it doesn't frighten me

what frightens u

i am not saying I have never been depressed but depression, no - there is too much in my life that gives me joy

:joy is linked to i tu cant expereince joy without hte other side agree? so what frightens u?

like I said, I have been depressed, not to say absolutely devastated - but generally am a contented person
:spiders

people ever?

:frightening people

:i really find people's vulnerability more interesting than strength many women now reject their own gentleness and secretly hate it in men

they reject all adjectiives

:you appear nervous

:nervous of your own self, and are fighting hard to reject this side of u

oh absolutely'

bloke pisses off! What was that all about - and why do they pick on me?

oh god, i would rather get no reply from winking men than questions like that!

i cant imagine why he would ask about it at such length.

concerns me a bit - I just wonder what his intentions are - ie to find some 'fragile' woman and, I don't know, victimise her?? Just a bit suspect somehow - claimed to be be a university lecturer but didn't want to say what or where ...

Mz, you don't half attract em!

Flame, don't blame your friend . Gawd I've had a few ONS, in the past, nowt wrong with them!

How odd Mz!

Lol def can't blame mate. She was against him based on a slightly dubious jacket. She was soooo wrong.

Fussy cow, so the jacket might have been dubious but who cares.

On my works night out we took a very young lass into town, she said it was the best night out she had had in said town ever. Told her that us oldies still had it going on. Also pointed out DD's dad and the comment from the young girl was 'fit'. .

Does you good to let your hair down now and again.

agree letting hair down always good :)

couldnt sleep so have been doing some snooping on facebook. never a good idea. found someone from my (recent) past. he seems happy now, which is good I guess. just a slightly poignant reminder of what might have been a couple of years ago :(

off to bed now. hoping to feel better in the morning.

Hope your feeling better today sponge

thanks flame.

just got this email on match (from one of yesterdays winks) 'hello, I like your profile and photos, you're really sexy'

Jesus. The man is 41 FFS. You'd think by that age he'd have a better approach than that one line email.

This is not helping to distract me from my FB discovery.....

There really are some morons out there aren't they?

Saturday night made me realise that I would like a man properly, but that at the same time this whole internet thing is just so much hard work. Obv ONS aren't the answer either, but just the whole meeting people naturally and chatting thing was so nice. I should probably do the chatting before the sex next time .

Everyone I speak to online just makes me feel like they aren't as easy as it was with Carrot, but rl people I obv don't have that comparison with so it was easier for them to not be compared.

Unless I start spending every weekend in bars though I don't know the answer .

Bring on the new year when I will see less of the dwarf and hopefully move on slightly better.

well its snowing here again and i have enough food to last til weds or thurs, but no longer, and i havent been able to finish xmas shopping

so at this rate they will have no stockings and we will all starve

dp called me at 8.30 this morning to tell me on no account to drive anywhere cos the roads are lethal

he has been flat out since 6.30, and last time we spoke there were 60 jobs backed up waiting for repair or recovery

he is meant to finish at 5.30 but i suspect it will be more like 9

seriously i have no idea why anyone with anything but the most urgent reason would be out and about in these conditions

its stupid

Flame, I prefer meeting in RL, not keen on internet dating. Don't go out much so not sure what the answer is.

Sponge tbh I would be a bit at that message but might have replied by asking some question and seeing if the response was better. Depends what he looked like.

We had a fair bit of snow on Friday night, but less that a couple of weeks ago. It hasn't moved from the pavements so difficult to walk around but driving is OK.

My niece is travelling up from your way Lou. She couldn't make her works do but had said they will look at trains if it's too bad. Good news is that my DB is definitley coming up to cook our Turkey.

I've cancelled my trip to mum's, the M5 looked horrendous. She didn't want me to risk it but was almost crying with disappointment. We're planning to go on Boxing Day instead.

I'm going over to a friend's soon, the main roads are ok apparently. The TNT man who delivered something earlier says it's much better than it was on Saturday. My car hasn't moved since Friday evening and has about 15cm of snow on it.

flame, persevere with the online stuff if you can bear it. There are enough loved up people on here to make me think it can work! I might even be one of them soon

sponge, send him a message and see what you get back. Maybe he doesn't want to put a lot of effort into a message that might be ignored.

lou, hope DP gets home safely.

thanks lilac

i will raise my hand to being one of those who met the right one online

yes I am beginning to panic about dcs stockings as Im not going out in the car atm there is a limited amount to what I can get in any one trip.

I haven't got anything yet either for me and dcs xmas lunch which we are having on Boxing Day as they are meant to be going out for lunch with exh and his new family on Xmas Day.

I am at work today with ds2 we have had Secret Santa, been for a hot chocolate in the Ice Bar at Someset House with a visting academic who is going home soon. And he wants to visit Hamleys before we go home - aaaargh don't fancy it myself.

Our Xmas tree only has one bauble on it as dcs don't seem that keen to decorate it.

Bah Humbug

ds2 wants to visit Hamleys not the visiting academic

Sorry one last thing - I had a message from someone on Smooch who liked bbw - he looked oK but am a bit put off by his preference - not because Im in denial about my weight but because hmm just having that so high up his priority list is a red flag doncha think?

What's bbw? I read it that the academic wants to visit Hamleys.

Big women - I mean I am overweight and curvy/voluptous but not mahoosive (I hope Im not too deluded) (hopefully those who have met me in RL will testify)

Ive seen articles who about men who like BBW and some of them are feeders and like really really large women. So I would sort of worry about a man who's into that.

I've seen photos so know what you look like. There are plenty of men out there looking for a 'slim' woman, no-one would think that strange for some reason. It's a strange thing to say though isn't it, if he has a preference he should have just looked for someone who he likes the look of rather than spelling it out.

Sin - I know what you mean - a guy messaged me and said in his message something like 'I like largish women as I like something to get hold of' - needless to say for many reasons that was a delete and block moment ... wouldn't mind as I know I'm not Kate Moss ... but he WAS what I call a fat bastard - and to make an assumptions about getting hold of me made me quite angry anyway.

Meanwhile I've got date with Mrbetterbeworthitafterfiveyears tonight - and got no idea what to wear. Would normally do jeans/heeled boots/nice top but far too bloody cold and getting bus as not risking driving so having to do sensible walking type flat boots ... at the moment am wearing a (sparkly!) thermal vest, grey cashmere jumper and a sparkly cardi with black trousers. Not sure I can be bothered to change but what do you reckon?

Sounds fine Mz, I hate flats on a date, I'm only 5ft 2 but if I had to walk in this it would have to be sensible boots.

not prepared to break my ankle on a first meet ... second maybe! And I'm only 5' 5"

I think in this weather flats is the only way to go. Better safe than sorry :)

Mz, look forward to the update later on Mrbetterbeworth it...

in the meantime, has anyone got any ideas what to send back to the Match bloke? Have decided am going to reply and see what he comes back with - if its more of the same then I'll bin him definitely!