Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 27)

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part 27? good god

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thanks MILY

Eve - perhaps I should remind exh that he doesn't hve a right to see his son but his son does have the right to see him IYKWIM.

Also try controlling a 14 year old. The tactics you use with a younger child just don't work. When I came off phone to exh yesterday I was upset and ds1 (whose school was closed) saw it - although he sometimes teases ds2 even he thought that drawing attention to his weight may not be the best way forward.

Hi SCL, Eve, Mily et al

Just place-marking ... and wanting to add that I also find this time of year hard - though my pet hate is the enforced jollity of NYE in particular - have to say I'm quite grateful these days that my mum has a standing arrangement to go to friends for the evening so I don't feel bad about not being out if that makes sense? She's offered to stay in should I wish to go out - but am quite happy to usher her out of the door!

And Elasta - hope your mum is okay and that you get to spend as much time with her as possible while enjoying yourself with RM!

Have been asked on a date to see a Shakespeare play - not what I would normally choose to do but quite fancy seeing the production so have said yes ... now just trying to arrange a mutually convenient day.

Hey Mz a date!!! Fix it up quick.

As I have spent the last 2 NYE's out on the town, I really don't want that this year. Doubt DD will be out, I'm sure there will be parties but she doesn't often get invited . A friend has invited us to hers.

Okay - I am going to see Anthony and Cleopatra on Friday week. Blokey has booked the tickets ... now, how do I broach the subject of paying for my ticket? Certainly don't want him to pay for it ... any ideas ....

Hi all,

Just back from another day trip to see mum. 200 miles each way and 7 hours in the car but worth every minute to just give her a cuddle,hold her hand and tell her how much I love her. She is so pleased to see me, it makes my heart melt, she is such an amazing woman, still positve, but getting very frail.

Am in my office tomorrow and then supposed to be out with radioman, that is if he lets me know where we are supposed to be going

quick question. when you see someone you like on a dating site, and want to get in contact. what do you say? there are a few on POF taht i would liek to get in touch with but I'm struggling with what to say.

I never initialise contact. I hate it when I get a message that just says hi etc, so if I wanted to get someones attention I would say a bit more. Read their profile and ask a question about something in it.

Will say that from a messagees POV if I don't like the photo/or they are too far away etc and they sound like they have taken the time to read my profile, I still won't answer but often feel slightly more guilt than the 'hi, want to chat' variety. I don't do IM anyway. Hope this helps.

MZ, just mention that as this is a first meeting you wouldn't let a guy buy more than a coffee so how much was the ticket?

hi BHH, dont stress about it too much. Just say hi! something about their profile that you liked and then something interesting about you. If they like your profile they will reply.

If they dont reply dont get offended. Internet dating is very much a numbers game

thanks. i have made contact with one of them but only because he said something inhis profile that i could ask him about. will go and look at the others to see if i can aske them anything too.

Are you talking about me, elasta? I have four on the go at the moment!

morning

Elasta, your posts about your mum are fab - I am always so impressed by how you cope and make it all so positive, you are life-enhancing .....sorry, that is probably not a very MN phrase but hey ho

MZ, what Eve said

Bhohoho I'll second the numbers game comment - I sent masses of messages and it paid off eventually. I got rather disheartened in the early days but the FIA gang soon put me right about growing a thick skin

Lilac, you are an inspiration

Elasta, fingers crossed for Radioman date

Hiya,

Not abandoned you - MN not working on my phone and too lazy busy to turn on laptop lately.

On a Yes Man phase which has resulted in me agreeing to see Earl again next week (a week of saying yes to anything pretty much). Not entirely sure of the wisdom of that, but meh.

Hopefully able to properly catch up soon.

morning everyone i joined a couple of the free dating sites, had two dates (each with different 'men') and got fed up with them. cancelled them and met vimes he is turning out to be one (if i can get my head round the fact that allmen are not cheaters) and he was also on the same sites i was!

afternoon, how are we all?

i have nothing to report, i havent been online much

i wasnt feeling that great on saturday , and ended up being sick in the night, and sleeping in late on sunday

i was woken up by dp bringing me breakfast in bed with a cup of tea, and found he had tidied the house including the washing up, done a trip tot he dump and given ds2 a bath, saying he wanted to give me a break as i was feeling ropey

then he took a couple of the kids out for a bit, and collected dd1 from work

i bloody love him i do

Lou - am very jealous - am also very bored and have just responded to an obvious scammer with the following:

'gosh - what can I say! I'm amazed that anyone like you would be interested in someone like me - a widow with three children. I am not working at the moment so have no money and can't get out much so would love to be friends particularly with someone like you who is kind, trustworthy, truthful and loyal.

I look forward to hearing from you'

Anyone fancy a bet on how long it takes for him to reply?

hey all, it's been a long long while, but thought i'd stop by for a xmas hello & see how you all are. Things are going v well with soldier still, not seeing v much of each other/talking too much but we're managing. Looking forward to xmas.

anyhow how's everyone? I see lou's still loved up & know juicy is, how's sin/eve/ & the old crowd?

Hi Belle, I'm OK thanks, looking forward to christmas and having the time off. Not loved up yet!

Glad it's all going well.

nice to hear form you belle, glad everything is good with you :)

one here...lol - Widow who just joined as I need daughter advise :-)

hi belle glad you ok with soldier he will be home soon (((())))

i am getting nervous now - it's vimes' christmas work party tomorrow i know what i'm wearing and so on but i'm still getting nervous

bollocks it.

I thought I had plenty in my account. I am in fact, screwed.

I feel for you Flame - have to say I am too scared to look at my bank balance atm and have been shoving my statements at the bottom of my to do pile unopened. Stupid I know but I will deal after xmas ....

meanwhile have had chat message from an eejit scammer who is trying to persuade me that we have loads in common. Asked him who his fave writer was, he said Shakespear (sic), asked which was his fave work and he said 'I love all his novels'. Should I tell him he needs to hone his research skills?