Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 27)

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part 27? good god

And meant to say, Elasta - am really sorry to hear your mum's getting worse but good that's she's on good form - hope the weather clears and you manage to get to see her soon xx

Elasta, sorry to hear your mum is so poorly. :( Hopefully the bad weather will clear soon and you can get down to see her.

I'm in Edinburgh (as is FLF) so we have lots of snow.

Unfortunately I am also in a very high up bit which gets more snow than the other bits. So it's extra snowy.

DS was amazing, snow came up to his waist but he was completely unfazed!

Am currently trying to find out the situ re: schools tomorrow but website with info on keeps crashing (and no twitter updates).

Hmmm, wonder why!

Thanks all, had a bit of a 'moment' this afernoon in sainsburys. Was on the phone to my friend who said 'you sound a bit down, are you coping?' and I just started to cry.

Am very good at just keeping calm and carrying on, but everything is starting to get to me a bit. Then she said, that it was a shame that I was still on my own and didnt have anyone else to lean on - that really helped!! - ah the wisdom of the smug married friend

I'm being unfair as she is one of my true friends who has stuck by me and calls nearly every day, but I think that unless you are a LP you have no idea what it is like to face everything alone and spend your entire life caring for others

Right - am off now in my big 4X4 to brave the weather and pick my little darlings up from school. Theirs has lots of borders as well as day pupils so it never shuts. They are not happy

You wouldn't be human if you didn't have moments at a time like this elasta. Fwiw I think you are coping amazingly.

You're so right about the doing everything on your own - it can feel...relentless is the word I think I'm looking for.

I am currently boring f&f silly with texts/updates on the weather here. I expect they are thinking ffs not Janos AGAIN

ate being stuck indoors so much!

*ate? I mean HATE

Relentless is right, have just had dinner and got back in from walking the dogs again. I do sometimes wonder why me? Dont I deserve a break sometime?

BUT kids are happy, we are all healthy (except mum) and I am managing to keep us all, so I have nothing to complain about really

I'm reminding myself of all that atm elasta; and feeling much the same (and I don't have as much to deal with as you). Today, I don't want to be a coper. I want someone to swoop in and take care of everything.

Right now its just me and DS 24/7 (schools still closed tom due to weather so I can't get to work - no time to myself at all) and by the end of the day I am going stir crazy and practically throwing him into bed.

Some days I would just love to have someone by my side to give me some support.

Have just got the kids into bed, so am going to pour myself a glass of wine have a bath and go to bed myself. Tomorrow will be better

:)

Sleep well elasta.

Elasta I am thinking of you- you have such a lot to cope with that it's not surprising that you're feeling overwhelmed

I wish you were a bit closer,or that the buses between us were better, then we could meet up

No school here tomorrow, I am going to make DS leave the house tomorrow, he's spent all day watching tv and playing wii today. He did make dinner, but that's about the only time he got off his backside

So much snow! Think I'm gonna go into hibernation.

lou - hope ds1 was ok for his appointment today.

Hi All,

Thanks for your kind thoughts, have recovered my equilibrium once more this morning. My kids are in school, throwing snow at each other as it is open, and I have just finished doing the horse, so am now having toast before I start work.

No word from radioman. Had a long think last night and am rapidly coming to the conclusion that with everything going on in my life I am not in the right place to be dating anyone. So this morning I have deleted my internet profiles and will not be going back there until well into the next yr. If Radioman dosent call soon will pack up his boots and post them to his office!!

Might still bob along on the thread though, and if there is space on the single sofa will be in there with my glass of sherry

hello all, elasta i'm very much with you on the single sofa as I'm not even actively looking for a man any more. sometimes I think its all just too much hassle!

Fun and games with the snow/travel, there are no buses running at home and barely any trains. Took me 3 hours to get home last night (we were allowed to leave work early cos of snow but still not home til after 6!) and another 3.5 hours to get in this morning. Am leaving at 3.30 today ...hopefully will be home by 7 but who knows!

Hi

Elasta, big (((((((((((((((((())))))))))))))
You do an amazing job. You are spot on with feeling justified in wishing there was someone else to share the load at times, yet recognising what a good job you are doing. Even the best friends can be smug-married at times, they can't help themselves!

not sure that sentance makes sense.......

Trying to think when I last posted.

DDs went to XH place for the weekend which was broadly successful. I made a mistake not factoring in the England match at Twickenham to my travel time dropping them at his in Richmond, so a 40 min journey took 2 hours.....grrrr.....but once I got them dropped off that was that. Spent the rest of the day in the West End with TLM seeing the lights and window shpping, with a bit of tapas for dinner. House unbelievably quiet without the girls so we got cracking on some jobs Sunday inc tip/charity trip for all the rest of XH stuff he said he didn't want, which was cathartic. Also changed the locks! I had asked XH for mis house keys as he no longer needs them since the Fridays stopped, got 'no' as a response. So, changed locks and alarm code - is all a control thing for him - he says 'Still my house until after the divorce', so I decided to let him think he's in charge and just get on with it. Will be funny if he comes over here and tries to let himself in!

Nanny ill this week so have been juggling work and childcare. Can't wait for tomorrow eve as have got Friday off which I really need. With the snow and ill nanny have been having flashbacks to super-stressful time in Jan/Feb this year when previous nanny was ill all the time and school was closed and I was still raw from the separation, just horrible. As it happens, feel completely different this time around, much more in control, which just goes to show how far I have come in the time

Anyway, enough waffling

mily - that sentence makes perfect sense and good on for you for changing locks - it's about time too

elasta - (((((((())))) sorry your mom is so poorly, hopefully the weather will clear enough for you to be able to visit xxx

hi to everyone

Hi everyone

MILY - go glad all going well and that you had a good time.

And Elasta and Sponge - budge up and make room for me please - I have just about had enough. Think I will keep my date with Mr Manchester - if that even happens - and then hibernate for the foreseeable.

Just had this guy check me out - his about me reads 'Aer person is an adventure. Love is the union of real life imagination and courage. I am looking for someone who I have enough in common to be comprehendable enough that is exotic about them to be fascinating enough guts to make a life with another person something that exults rather than diminishes and make a partnership greater than the sum of the individuals. So there you go. '

And that's me told ....

Crickey KDK, sounds like a complete loon

Looks like the single sofa will be creaking by xmas!!!

Well done MILY for changing the locks. Have just taken my exes keys off him after he refused to pay his half of our school fees bill. Have told him it is not appropriate fo him to have any access to my house whilst we are in dispute. Has made my life more difficult as he cant pick the kids up from school and get their stuff unless I am here, but he needs to understand he doesnt have a 'right' to be here. He is not happy

And it is MY house, he has no stake in it anymore, much to his annoyance

the way I see it, I do not have a key to his new place so the other way works too. He made it clear the last Friday he was here that I could 'chuck the stuff in a skip', i.e. all his stuff that I had packed up, so he has no other reason to need keys to the house - it would imply he wants to be able to let himself in here when I am not around, which is just not happening grrrrrrrr

god it was good chucking his stuff out at the weekend and changing the locks made me feel I am finally doing the right thing rather than endlessly bending myself out of shape to accommodate him.....

KDK what are these men on by the way???

Mince pie and cuppa after v fresh snowy fields-and-woods walk with the dog all improving my mood

for both elasta and mily then

@ Mily - god only knows - had a message on girlsdateforfree from some idiot (I presume a not terribly bright scammer) calling himself sweetdennise .... wonder how many replies he gets?

maybe he wants replie from 'both sides of the fence' so to speak .... gawd kdk you don't half find them

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