Ok . . .
I met a guy on match.com who seemed to tick most of my boxes. We have been emailing each other for 5 weeks, talking on messenger and on the phone.
He told me he lives about 40 miles from me and works as an engineer finding fertile soil, gas and oil underground for companies.
He said he is currently working in Malaysia and that his contract is due to finish any day now.
I really like this guy, he is funny and clever and has a lovely way with words and he seemed to like me too and was always telling me about how hard he was working to get his contract finished asap to come back to the uk to meet me.
However on Saturday I woke at 4am (midday where he is) to a phone call from him telling me that he couldn't return to the UK until he had paid the workers he had hired over there to work for him and could I please send him some money 
He said he would pay me back next week when he got home.
I told him in no uncertain terms that I wasn't able to send him anything as I was a lone parent and that I couldn't believe he was asking me!
He apologised and explained that he won't get paid for the work he has done til he gets back to the UK and he can't come back til he has paid the workers.
I was gutted to say the least 
as I felt that the last 5 weeks had been a complete waste of time as money was all he was really interested in.
I didn't expect to hear from him again and wondered how many other women he had who had been taken in by him.
However yesterday and today he has been mailing and phoning as usual and didn't mention the money until I asked him if he had booked his flight home yet and then he repeated that he couldn't come home until he had paid his workers.
Please ladies, as I said in the title I am completely useless at judging people, I see the best in everyone, am I being taken for a mug?