Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 26)

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Oooh brand new thread!

Lol Lou :o

yeah. I've not gotten my emotions involved.

this is how not my type he is:

mixed race (although barely noticeable, and I wouldn't have guessed if he hadn't told me)
has tattoos
is 6ft 5 (I'm 5ft 4)
seems almost as broad (I'm size 8)
is 27 (I'm 42)

not sure what else I could add to the mix that would make him further removed from what I thought would fall for

Hi All, Have been away all week working, now at mums as boys with their dad. After lovely lunch date, not heard fom doc all week. Guess he has lost interest

oh elasta, it's horrible when they do that...just leaves you guessing and wondering and uncertain.

Hi Lilac, My intuition says he has found someone more interesting closer to home, up to now he has been really keen, then suddenly nothing, Guess I am not surprised, as we live so far apart, but it is hard when people simply disappear on you.

Hi all was wondering if I could get general opinions on something? I've meet a really nice guy, we've been on a few dates and he ticks most of my boxes. He came round to mine tonight when the kids where in bed, cooked a meal and when I went to give Baby her night feed he washed up :-) He was fine with me BF and on one date when I had to cut in short as the LOs wanted mummy he was completly supportive. We talk for hours and connect on most levels.
However 'the catch' is that he is a virgin - I know its shallow to worry about something like that but it makes me feel like a harlot! He's 24 (same as me) and says that he feels that sex should be part of a committed relationship and he's just never met anyone he feels committed too. So would you date a virgin?

If you are both really keen then it should'nt bwe an issue at 24. I might wonder a bit more about that one if I was dating a man who was a virgin - but I am 46

Hi All

Well everyone was right DG wasn't put off in fact i was feeling really rubbish and had some study that i had to finish so he cooked for me,washed up,gave me a foot massage,ran me a bath and then we went to bed He seems too perfect at the moment i'm sure there must be a flaw somewhere.

ParrotandBubbles I don't think him being a virgin should put you off.Lets face it some men with a few years of experience still don't get it right plus will be fun teaching him

Elasta Doc may still text.Men are strange.Earlier this year i was seeing a guy and after our first date he took almost two weeks to contact me.

Sponge When is the party that WM will be at is it soon?

Sorry to anyone i forgot

Placemarking. . .

Hi to everyone

Mily is your new name something to do with Miley Cyrus? sorry if I'm a bit old slow.

Got a shock last night, walked into a shop and someone was hammering on the window of the flat above. It was that captain guy I went out with a couple of years ago. Only Lou left from back then. He text to say he's moved and I'm welcome to visit. Probs won't.

morning all :)

elasta :( re doc, hate it when men do that disappearing thing after you've been getting on well, far better if they could just be honest and say what the reason is - if in this case if he has met someone closer to home for example. hopefully he will have the manners to contact you soon at least then you will know for sure one way or the other. especially given that he knows your situation re your mum and how stressful that must obviously be.

parrot - I think given his age it's not necessarily a major issue, different if he was in his 30s or older (mainly I think because by that age I would find it odd he had not been in at least one serious relationship, whereas I find that less surprising for someone in their early/mid 20s)

Bnm - DG will have the odd flaw (no-ones perfect, not even me ) but am sure it will only be something minor and nothing to put you off him :)

party is next Saturday...will have to ask you to send me good vibes for then. There are lots of single men going apparently, so at this rate WM's loss could be someone else's gain

eve - dont know the story re captain...am guessing if you're not going to pop round you're happy to leave him in the past?

Still waiting for the nasty email from exhs p.

He says that no positive channels of communication will be available between her and I ever as she is so livid.

My initial email was not nasty just pointing out the arrangement that exh and I agreed on paper. I suspected he hadn't told her the full details due to barbed comments she had made to the dcs.

He doesn't want to be 'stuck in the middle'. I will wait to see what she writes but was not intending to start WW3. So may not respond or will at least try not to rise to the bait.

Sponge Have you decided what you are wearing to th party yet.I would flirt insanely with some other men see if that jolts WM in to action Will be sending good vibes for you.

SCL I would try not to worry about the email.You had things you needed to get off your chest and that needed to be said if exhs p can't appreciate where you are coming from that is her problem.It just proves more so her level of maturity or rather immaturity.

I have had some shocking news from Exp he is having a baby with a woman that isn't his girlfriend.So once again he cheated.I'm so not for him or because he is having another baby(will be his fifth)but for my ds's as they are going to have siblings everywhere.I feel such a fool for ever getting involved with him.

Funny thing is he is being extra nice to me at the moment as he blabbed the news by mistake i think and i'm apparently the only person that knows.He hasn't told his girlfriend yet.

Hi all

Well, developments continue re XH and OW

Having had his holier than thou response about me seeing RAF, guess what turned up in the post?? Only a letter to MR X-Mily and Ms OW!!

So, as I always do, I left the pile of post for XH to see this morning (spends fridays with DDs) and he then had no choice, since he knew I must have clocked the names, but to 'fess up.....they are moving into a new flat together next week...........

He tried to imply that this relationship has only just kicked off, which is somewhat at odds with them moving in together, but I decided not to delve any deeper for point-scoring purposes since I am about how fast things are moving with RAF

but OMG

Sponge, that party is a golden opportunity

BNM, yay re DG, re XP

Elasta, re Doc

Eve, need details re Captain

Sin, disarm her with your reasonableness and she won't be able to stay 'livid'. As you say, she prob had a very edited version of the arrangement from your X

tra la la only 3 hrs until I stop work for a week (although going to France is looking unlikely) and start getting ready for mess dinner

ooh, am liking this (I wasn't on MN this time last year, hence fresher enthusiasm) [hsmile] [hhmm]

Mily Sorry but at your ExH how can he not have realised you have him all figured out.Men.Sigh

Ooh is the mess dinner tonight.Remember to post a pic if you can.That dress sounds beautiful although i'm certain you would look lovely whatever you wore having looked at your pics.

I am at how fast things are moving with DG too.We have our villa all booked for May now.It just feels so right like we have known each other for much longer and in fact is now only a month.He has even cancelled some of his weekend as wanted to see me so we are going out for a meal and then drinks tonight.I don't know about you but because of past experiences i always have that feeling that it could all go wrong at any minute and have to remind myself to not question it and just enjoy the moment.

Oh and agree about Eve we need details.Why would you not be tempted to visit was it not worth it the first time?

Nothing worth telling really, not sure why I even mentioned it, maybe because nothing else going on. I would pop in for a coffee but don't want to go there again.

Beaut, how are you feeling about the news?

BNM, IKWYM re enjoying it for what it is and trying not to question too much

thanks for the lovely compliment, will post pics

XH is really not very bright is he? He had to give this address for flat rental credit check.....didn't occur to him they would send post here.....

Eve I don't know to be honest going from his previous track record it's hardly suprising but i really thought that he had maybe changed a little bit.I feel so bad for my ds's as he hardly bothers with them now.I also just feel completely stupid that i ever got involved with such a man.Its awkward too because i don't want to know his secrets he shouldn't put that on me.I hate feeling that he still has a small amount of control over me and i never know how to take anything that he says as i know how deceitful and manipulative he is.I can't even believe i told DG about him although not everything as i find it so embarrassing to admit to people what i put up with for all those years

in case I don't get a pic, dress here

Mily, love the dress.

Mily that is gorgeous love the colour. wish i had a nice occasion coming up to wear something like that.I do have a wedding to go to in december goodness knows what i will wear to that.

How weird, clicked your link, then went to check my emails and a coast ad came up with all their dresses including yours. Is that targetted advertising or just a coincidence?

A santa outfit of course.

Beautiful dress mily