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Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 26)

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BlackFLAMECandle · 15/10/2010 21:10

Oooh brand new thread!

Lol Lou :o

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mummyilubyourtoffeeapples · 22/10/2010 16:19

Eve, spooky [hgrin]

hatesponge · 22/10/2010 17:19

mily thats a lovely dress :) hope you have a fab time tonight as well.

cant believe your Exh...or BnMs. Our Exs are a right bunch aren't they. Mine denied for months he was seeing anyone when I knew he was (probably because he was still unsuccessfully trying it on with me Hmm). hopeless.

while we are on subject of dresses, this is mine for the party....hopefully WM will be impressed as I twirl around in that batting my false eyelashes at him...[hgrin]

witcheseve · 22/10/2010 19:39

Songe, sexy, knock him dead in it.

lilac21 · 22/10/2010 19:53

mily, love the dress but it made me want to go 'woof'!! Could they not have come up with a better name?

So since no-one is going Grin, Shock or even [hshock] at my list of rugby guy's attributes, I am assuming you have given me the virtual go-ahead, which is just as well since he is coming over tomorrow and staying the night Wink

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BlackFLAMECandle · 22/10/2010 19:54

Will catch up later. carrot due soon and no kids...

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witcheseve · 22/10/2010 20:24

lilac, go for it [hgrin].

elastaghoul · 22/10/2010 21:06

Ohh some lovely dresses sponge and MILY. good to see you all getting out there.

Have been down to dorset to see my mum. Mum is doing really well considering. Her condition seems to have stabilised a bit, as she is being so well cared for, and she isnt going downhill nearly as fast as everyone thought. she is also on pretty good from ATM, so I have a lot to be thankful for.

Have just got back home picking my lovely boys up from ex en route. 6 hours in the car, horrendous traffic. Ex was actually nice when I saw him. He is a bit shellshocked atm, having just found out that his kids didnt actually want to go to his for the week and it has made him pull his finger out and make an effort with them. hopefully it may continue.

But this evening, completely unjustifyably, I am feeling just a tiny bit sorry for myself. Doc has dissapeared into the great blue yonder. After saying he couldnt wait to meet me again I have not heard from him all week and he didnt reply to the txt I sent him mid week. He is the second disappearing man I have dated in the past few months and it is all wearing me down. I feel there must be soemthing wrong with me, for this to keep happening. Its not doing my self esteem any good at all and I am thinking maybe I should just give up dating alltogether until I feel a bit more positve about life and have less on my plate Sad

lilac21 · 22/10/2010 21:16

elasta, it's not you, it's him.

Repeat to self: I am a truly amazing woman and I deserve better than that

Say as often as you have to until you believe it.

I'm with you on the traffic, btw - 4 hours from my school to eldest DD's boarding school and back home via my friend's to pick up DD2. Distance total? About 90 miles!

witcheseve · 22/10/2010 21:18

Elasta, good news about your mum.

Don't let the buggars get you down. Honestly, whilst it can seem as though everyone else is meeting Mr Right on these sites, there are many people who arn't, me included. By all means have a break but there is absolutley nothing wrong with you, OK?

elastaghoul · 22/10/2010 21:37

Thanks eve, lilac, I dont really think I am anything but normal, although I do sometimes feel I will be on my own forever. It is over 2 years since my ex left and I havent even had a wiff of anything that looks like it might become a real relationship.

My whole life is taken up with looking after and providing for others and when I look in the mirror I am starting to see myself becoming rapidly middle aged, rather than the blond girly I used to be. Not surprising I only get hit on by blokes approaching retirement Hmm

witcheseve · 22/10/2010 22:14

Lilac, I'll see your 2 yrs with my 5 yrs out of a serious relationship and see your rapidly approaching middle age with my half century next year.

Sorry can someone tell me how to say that properly. Never 'got it'.

witcheseve · 22/10/2010 22:20

I should have said 'I see you your and raise you my' or something like [hgrin]

elastaghoul · 22/10/2010 22:34

OK Eve, I think you win and I will just stop whinging and throw my hand in [hgrin]
am off to bed now. I'm sure I will feel more positive in the morning. Night, night!

lilac21 · 22/10/2010 22:40

Eve - oy! Twas not me, twas elasta lamenting the lack of suitable men and rapidly approaching middle age.

Apparently that woman who put the cat in the wheely bin was middle-aged and she was 45 Shock, only 3 years older than me.

However, I read a book about Martin Luther King to my class last week in which Rosa Parks was described as a 'little old lady' at the time of the bus incident...she was 42!!!

lou33 · 22/10/2010 23:00

i dont mind being middle aged, i find i give less of a shit about lots of stuff as i get older and i like that

good to hear about your mum elasta, and agree with the others about it being him not you

you are bound to feel more down on yourself with everything going on atm, you are allowed, but it doesnt mean you are right to iyswim :)

i had a shouting match with exh earlier, but miraculously have got him having three of the kids fomr 8.30 am tomorrow until sunday morning

witcheseve · 22/10/2010 23:06

Soz Lilac meant Elasta and she knew it! Oh no dementia is setting in as well as the wrinkles. Good news though, the meno has stopped bothering me.

Reckon it's time I retired from this thread. Have more chance of being struck by lightening than finding a bloke.

Hi Lou, agree with you. In fact not the least interested in men or care about getting older atm. Reserve the right to change my mind.

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BlackFLAMECandle · 23/10/2010 14:27

so much to catch up on!!

I hope the mess do went well... beautiful dress.

Shock@ the various tosser exes and their exploits.

I asked XH to have kids overnight last night to get some uninterrupted carrot sleep as he has the next two weekends off and i was impatient tired. I got sod all sleep not through excessive shenanigans but due to not being used to sharing a bed. Blush Poor guy was heading home today to get some sleep! Not entirely sure if the f+ck buddy is meant to spend the night snuggling .... Hmm When i asked XH he said it was fine but ?ow was going to be going round and was i ok with that. For the first time I genuinely didn't give a sh+t what he does with her. Woohoo for that set of emotions being more sorted... now just to deal with the next lot of emotions that can't happen.

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elastaghoul · 23/10/2010 15:29

Ohh Flame, good for you Grin

Am at home today with my boys, diverting myself from work by trying to buy a maltreated horse off someone. I know the last thing I need is another pet FFS, but the poor thing is so thin and poorly it just needs looking after. Girl wants to put it down as she wont fork out the vets fees. Have offered her £300, for it. am waiting to see if she takes it Hmm

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BlackFLAMECandle · 23/10/2010 16:03

poor animal :(

I've got to sort my head. So pleased the XH situation is clearer but I am sooo bad for Carrot and I know it isn't going to happen atm, if ever. Part of me wants to embrace feeling happy but the other part is kicking me in case I get too used to it.

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lou33 · 23/10/2010 16:13

i dropped the 3 youngest to exh this morning but dd2 has been on the phone saying he has been snapping at them on and of all day, and favouring ds2 over them all, but they dont want me to come get them or call him about it , as they think it will make things worse

apparently he snapped at dd2 when she was laying the table because one of the plates was dirty, and she wanted a clean one, and he told her to just deal with it because "that's life"

and called ds1 a pompous prince for also wanting a clean plate

they asked me to let them take their own mugs and breakfast bowls with them to his, because every time they stay they get given filthy "washed" ones , and they get told off if they rewash them

ffs

how one earth does he think its ok to eat from dirty plates and drink from dirty mugs (dirty with bits inside not outside btw)?!

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BlackFLAMECandle · 23/10/2010 16:47

Oh Lou :(

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lou33 · 23/10/2010 16:54

the sad thing is the kids are trying to put on a brave face cos they think if i say anything i will end up arguing with him

he barely has them ffs how can he be snappy and tell them off for wanting clean plates and mugs

surely thats just basic hygiene?!

and shouldnt he be able to not get pissed off when he is only having them 24 hours ?

i mean of course i get fed up with them and can snap, but i have them all the bloody time, so am bound to have my moments, but not if i only saw them once in a blue moon

sincitylover · 23/10/2010 17:44

can I join in - took dcs to meet exh at lunchtime - he looked very unhappy and said he was - apparently its all to do with the email I sent his p. He had his sucking lemons face on!

Hope dcs will be ok. They don't like going at the best of times. They know nothing about it but maybe the atmospher won't be good.

I did tell him that if she hadn't made remarks to my dcs about what my responsibilities were during 'his' time with them then I probably wouldn't have sent it.

elastaghoul · 23/10/2010 18:07

Our poor kids!! I do feel sorry for them with all the baggage they get from their thoughtless fathers. My ex is just coming to terms with the fact that his youngest doenst want to visit any more, at least not for any length of time. I have no idea why he was surprised, given how little of his attention they get.

Anyway, on a completely unrelated topic I am now the - proud?? - new owner of an emaciated horse with a terrible infection. Said horse is now in a nice clean stable with plenty of food and water - vet will be out on Monday - probably the stupidest thing I have done so far this year - at least the stupidest that didnt involve taking my clothes off Grin But at least this time I think I have done the right thing Smile

sincitylover · 23/10/2010 18:33

Yes Elasta I also feel sorry for our dcs.

Good on you for taking on the horse. Poor thing I am sure you will be able to nurse it back to health

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