Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 26)

[BlackFLAMECandle]

Oooh brand new thread!

Lol Lou :o

that msg is absolutely fine (although what would I know, my track record speaks for itself!)

as to other guy, I'd send him a quick message, hopefully his sub hasn't run out just yet :)

I may have a small crush on my mate's 20yr old work mate.

The sponge speaks right.

elasta yay for New guy.

i chopped off all my hair. Think i like it. never been this short before! My neck is cold!!!

Photos, Flame?!

((crushes))

and

((nice new men))

I am soo tired and it's not even six pee-em. The reason? 6 year old son's birthday. Just about to fish birthday tea (home made lasagne) out of the oven.

This reminds me I said I would send my mum the recipe and forgot.

As soon as i get on proper computer :)

I really need a decent Carrot distraction. I am in too deep and need to back away and regroup. Don't want to go on the sites but at the same time feel i need a date Iyswim.

Although I say that as I don't know how he feels about me, yet at the same time he was "on his way to the shop for milk" before he came round last night and walking past my house... the is another milk selling shop before you reach my house from his. He clearly wants to see me as much as I do him doesn't he? Or am I reading too much in?

hi all

yay elasta, go for it.

flame, you're not reading too much into it, he is clearly making excuses to see you.

My parents have been here since Sunday so I haven't been around much, dad has completely stripped and redecorated DD2's manky room and now it looks fab :)

Still exchanging daily texts with soldier and I can't wait to see him again.

Almost met cyclist tonight, and then didn't...but don't mind too much because I am v keen on soldier even though I've only met him twice

Looking forward to next Fri - I'll be there at 5.30 if that's the plan.

Have just pissed off a 70-year-old who seemed to think I was joking when I offered to pass his details to my mother in response to his message - no, mate the joke is you thinking I'd be interested in you, prat!

Also for anyone on OKC, check out jono14 - tonight's paranoid weirdo!

Ok dodgy pic up.

Will look up the weirdo in a min :o. Urgh at the 70yr old!

Aww for lilac :) Two dates and soppy is good.

Glad you don't think i am reading too much into carrot. We have an ongoing thing that i text more than any normal human (i do... with everyone not just him), and i complained that he hadn't commented about my text rationing today. He told me not to stop texting as he finds one whenever he checks his phone and that was a good thing. I've now been grinning all night .

Oh and i think the errant period is on its way. seriously. i nearly made it to the weekend home and dry and NOW it comes???? . Far tmi but I am assuming that the general deal is not doing the deed during? I don't recall it ever stopping things with XH but we were teenagers...

think it really depends on the bloke - it's never bothered me - in fact I tend to get (even) randier than usual when I'm on - but some men are a tad squeamish! Could use a condom/cap?

And I love the hair!

:) thanks

I think knowing it is the only childfree time i am home all November may override squeamish. I'll investigate where the box of disposable soft cups are. They are meant to be suitable.

KDK I do so hate it when really old blokes seem to think you will want to date them. I mean why would I date a pensioner when I have two children in primary school

Big wave to everyone.

Well my hot news is I have 2 dates next week!!! One with the chemist - works at the universtiy and the other is the guy who lives near me.

And have also been contacted by old friend from uni who I havent seen for 20 years. Was a bit surprised and it turns out he is also single - hence the internet trawling for me I suspect. He sent me a lovely message including 'you am still the prettiest girl I have ever taken to a ball'

Mind you he hasnt seen me for a fair few years, might be in for a shock

good morning everyone

trop - how about 'it's not me, it's you'? some men get so insulted when nobody wants to date what is obviously god's gift to remind women to stay away from certain types!

lou - eww at hand comment. am sorry about mimi.

von - that is a lovely pic the new haircut really suits you!! and no, he is making excuses to see you

elasta - brill news and what a lovely thing to hear

i'm ok here and will be even better at half 7 when i actually get to see vimes in civvy clothes or out of them depending what time it is

hello all, am in TFI friday at present...this has been a long week!

flame, hair looks fab! agree with everyone else, he is definitely making excuses to see you

elasta wow re 2 dates, v impressed! and nice compliment from uni friend as well..assume you will meet up again with him at some point too? :)

Must be a day for compliments though as I was told today by one of my colleagues that I'm the most intelligent person they know which was rather nice to hear, even if clearly not true, especially given that due to recent work goings-on, have been starting to doubt my capabilities!

also feel I have turned something of a corner - for the last few years I've had a tendency to be v negative about my looks, in particular in relation to my weight. However, since last Sat although have been hoping to hear from the 29 year old (still haven't incidentally!), at no point have I thought that the reason he hasn't called etc is related to my appearance. whereas a few months ago that would have been my first thought. I do still wonder where I go wrong with it all, but am trying to adopt a its not me its them approach!

apologies for the self indulgent analysis :)

mate has just been mean about my hair... ok so it doesn't look exactly as i planned today due to wind and rain but still... :( feel crappy now.

Will catch up when i stop sulking.

hey

fab hair Flame VonU

Sponge, no apols needed, this is just what we are here for

Elasta - great news re dates and compliments. Doc, what Doc??!!

kdk ewwww at 70 year, what gets into them?

I have just had a diffcult (but not as bad as I feared) chat with XH about him starting to have the DDs at weekends and not doing the Fridays at my house any more. I had the guts to finally point out just how hard it is to have him here in the circs and that I really want him to have quality time with the DDs....

i managed not to say that his whole 'I have to work to eat, feel sorry for poor little me' spiel has worn thin on me since he moved in last week with OW to a flat in v v v v chichi part of Richmond and rocked up this morning on a new motorbike........

it was a year ago on Tues (2nd) that he left and I cannot believe how far I have come since then. I remember so clearly last year how I fell apart and now look at me

off to a fireworks thing tonight with DDs and Raf, can't wait for 5 to arrive tbh

Flame, how are your plans for getting to me next Fri coming? If you like, you can dump your stuff here early and head into town for the 5.30 kick-off and I will follow on after I have dropped the DDs - I just can't finish until 5 unfortunately , then the earliest train I am realistically going to be on is the 5.45, hopefully at the bar by 7

flame hair is lovely. your friend is clearly visually impaired. and you have to trust my opinion, bearing in mind what's been said today about my intelligence

mily - good for you re difficult chat with ExH! am sure you feel better now for having broached it with him. Sadly, I cant conceive of Ex and I ever being on speaking terms for any conversation, let alone a difficult one. hope you enjoy the fireworks tonight with RAF and your DDs :)

hair looks good flame

Hi all

Elasta So sorry about your horse .Good news on the dating though sounds good.

Lou So sorry to hear about the hamster.This is why i'm so reluctant to get a pet as i fear ds1s reaction if anything were to happen.

Kdk You are in demand.I would go on as many potential dates that you are intersted in.

Flame Love your hair have just had mine cut in pretty much the same style.I wasn't sure at first but now i love it.It's so easy to manage.

Sorry haven't been on in a while.I have had a terrible ear and chest infection.My ear is still very painful.I went to a solicitor today have waited all week for appointment only to be told he had represented Ex before so couldn't help me.I now have to wait until mid week to see someone else.So i have to feign pleasanturies until then.

DG has been great very supportive.We were supposed to be going out next friday as he wanted me to meet a load of his friends.I don't think i can get a babysitter now though

Thank you all. I am not going to initiate contact with her again. I don't know what I will do if she contacts me. As a general rule we get on well, but today I felt like I did at senior school - my "best friend" eroded every bit of self worth I had during those 5 years. I have worked f*cking hard to like myself this past 12 months and I refuse to let anyone make me feel like that again, regardless of past friendship.

Woohoo for two dates Elasta

Yay for being intelligent Sponge :o

MILY - still trying to work out my plans. I am on the sorting the cross over care between school and XH finishing work iyswim.

I am far too hormonal and have been overthinking Carrot again . Assuming I am not seeing him tonight, so hopefully I will be more stable when I see him tomorrow. I want to be less besotted dammit. It would be much easier to separate things if he would just keep to the rules too.

He's back on POF. :( And I am done with trusting men....

carrot is back on pof?!!

as for your friend, i would make a guess that she possibly feels a bit jealous and insecure?

even so i will never understand why people feel the need to do that kind of put down

why would you deliberately say something that you know will upset someone who is meant to be a friend?