Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 26)

[BlackFLAMECandle]

Oooh brand new thread!

Lol Lou :o

Eeuw lou! That's almost enough to put me off dating altogether!

Depressing internet non-dating experience of the month.
I couldn't think of a nice easy get out so I told the truth and explained that I was not comfortable about his background with drink. I wished him well finding miss right but it wasn't going to be me.
I got a reply back calling me pious and judgemental. He said he is glad he never met me and that I am a snob.

I hold my hand up, I am a pious, judgemental snob for not wanting to get involved with an alcoholic but he is nowhere near as glad as I am that we didn't meet.

Next time I will just lie and say "Its not you love, its me."

Back to pof for me, is it ok if I come back to ask your sage advice occasionally?

Ask away, although I'm not sure how much sage advice you'll get from me... I can give lots of sympathy though!

It sounds exactly as i would have expected him to react. Dont take it to heart and keep posting here :)

Yup just ignore.

We're lovely stick with us :o

Oh lou, your poor DD2 and DS2 (and poor you too with the migraine).

trop - looks like your instinct was right about Mr Drinky. What is it with these over-entitled types?

trop - you are not a pious, judgemental snob.

He, however, is a twatty twatty twat.

Thanks guys!

Janos you make me laugh!

He is a twatty twatty twat.

trop.

TBH, if he's going to act like a precious princess/over entitled buffoon every time someone knocks him back then he should take up needlework, not online dating!!

I think it's important to trust your instincts, as elasta says upthread. God, imagine if you had ignored your instincts and got involved with this loser...?

Hi everyone

Lou - sorry about mimi, hope dc's are ok.

Janos - Rofl at Mr Drinky

Venue is good for me next Friday, I should be there about 5.30, but I'll need to leave about 8.30.

I was getting a bit confused there with all the names.

I can prob get there for about 5.30

anyone with alcohol probs would be big no no for me as i lived with a very heavy drinker in my 20s - we went out for seven years and bought a house together. His drinking was a big downer on our relationship. As I enjoy a social drink myself would not want to take up with ex alcoholic nor would want one round my dcs tbh.

lou - they had a feature on adult babygros on radio today - Vanessa Feltz has one !

Hi SCL - looking forward to seeing you (smile]. I think Kdk and Sponge and going to get there about then too. I'll email PMG and let her know venue.

Heavy drinkers are a no no for me too. Was really fond of Guitarman but his drinking habits were great fun for a few hours down the pub and all that, but not for any more deffo. As Janos succinctly put it, 'not rellie material' lol.

:)

and are obviously

Surprise visit from Carrot. Damn him. He makes me far too happy. The mixed texts earlier invited him to parents evening told him that he's let off going there and he said "I think that would be a step too far in our... um... whatever this is". Love that he has no idea what to call this either!!

@ flame - does it really matter what you call it - after all, as wotsisface said a rose by any other name would smell as sweet - or to put it another way, you can call a spade a sharp-edged digging tool - but it's still a bloody spade!

Or as my mum would say... a fcking shovel

But no. It doesn't matter what this is called. Been trying to make him realise lately that he focuses on the destination rather than just enjoying the journey. I know it is one of my own biggest flaws, but i realise that and am working on it... he's a few steps behind.

Yay - good for you! Move up you lot on the marital sofa - one more coming on board ...

Kdk - are you going to phone that fit interesting and available man???

hi all, Have been lurking a bit - looks like the marital sofa might be getting a bit crowded. Flame - looks like carrot is hanging in there

Well good news for me is I have a new date and he only lives a few miles away. Have had a couple of long chatty phone calls and he is arranging to take me out to dinner next week if I can get a babysitter. Am really looking forward to meeting him - he soounds lovely

I refer you to my answer above ... and also when I have plucked up some courage! May message him to say that I will phone/text him when I have some available time - or see if he would like to do a daytime meet ...

Kdk - you need to keep him on the burner tho

He might be on some forum talking about this really fit and interesting woman who hasn't used his number . Will jolly you along on our date . That was a good idea of yours going somewhere with food, although I'll be eating later so don't let me pick! Mind you, the last place we went to does food, but I think we might have had too much wine to remember we were hungry lol.

I'm looking forward to hearing about your jollies, hope you had a good one .

KDK good idea to text him soon then he knows you are interested.

Have messaged him to say am a bit busy at the minute but maybe could do coffee during the week or will call/text to arrange something towards the end of the week - is that okay?!

Also, was exchanging messages with a guy off one site before hols and sort of agreed we would meet when I get back - should I message him to say I'm back or not? Not sure that his sub may have ended so not sure he can message me anymore. He did give me his mobile no but was on chat and I forgot to make a note of it ...