Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 26)

[BlackFLAMECandle]

Oooh brand new thread!

Lol Lou :o

oh why not Lou - won't be the same without you . And you couldn't make the last one either ...

btw flame, st G isnt on my fb anymore, she must have booted me off lol, so if you want to find me by my email then look for me using morticiatsf at googlemail dot com and i can add you that way :)

i know

the timing of the meet and the fuckery about getting there and back is an issue but also dd1 is most likely doing overtime that evening and therefore i would have noone watching the kids, as if dp did he wouldnt be there for hours after i had to leave
and whilst i wouldnt mind leaving them for a short time if i was local, i wouldnt feel happy leaving htem for a couple of hours with noone close in case of an emergency, esp as ds2 cant walk

lol most likely not booted Lou... just remembered she sent me a text saying her fb account was gone for some reason. no idea if she's still on mine!! Will add you now.

Will accept when i can boot dd2 off the pc

i got you!

:o

Wish you were coming!

Waiting for Carrot for a dvd night. Shall we take bets on when/if we stop being "friends"? i am thinking between xmas and New year. I am not making the change so my guess is as vague as yours.

do you mean stop being friends and become something more, or stop being friends and lose touch?

?? Mysterious!

Oddly enough, just as I decide I might like to start dating again, up pop two interesting looking chaps on OKCupid.

Could go nowhere of course but I shall take it as a positive sign.

How is everyone this eve and kdk - did you phone your carpenter?

details woman!

Well one is good looking and looks like he could potentially be good fun.

You know, 'fun'.

Other one was very quirky and funny (also attractive) and I liked his profile so had to reply to that one :)

thats not enough detail

we need age, decsription of looks and height etc

Either way Lou!!

Also wanting more details.

Really should have found out what 500 days of summer was about before we decided to watch it together!!! V good film but a bit too near to the bone.

Please may I have your honest opinions ( I prolly already know the answer)?

Joined a dating site, exchanged messages with a guy who seemed great, bit of a shit job atm but is studying to improve himself. Some texts and a phone convo down the line I find out that he is a recovering alcoholic. 10/10 for 'fessing up and being 'recovering' but it is putting me off big style.

My last relationship was with a man with anger issues and I got out before we (ds and I) got in too deep and I'm hearing alarm bells ringing over this one.

I'm about to tell him straight that I'm not interested in getting involved but feel like such a bitch.
However, my instincts are to just leave well alone.

WWYD?

i would be running fast the other way

Yup yup. I hear you. Its not just me being a bitch is it?

Nope. aLWAYS listen to instincts. He could be recovering for 20 years but imo you wouldn't mention it so early if it wasn't forefront Iyswim.

Yes, this is true. Thank you for the reminder.

Trop. Just remember. this is a dating site and you havent even met him yet. You dont owe him anything but politeness. Always go with your gut instincts when dating.

I never now meet anyone I have the slightest doubt over. If I ever have done in the past my gut feel has always been spot on.

having left my alcoholic h i would never ever go within 100 yards of anyone else with any kind of alcohol related issues

Yes, thank you. You are so right but I was just doubting myself.

I know I shouldn't. My instincts are usually pretty good too but I have a habit of ignoring them when they relate to my own love life.
My mates swear by my advice but I seem to have a smoke screen when it comes to my own situations. Doh!

alcoholics can be v good at manipulating the truth, so go with your gut on this one , for sure

Another one who agrees with trusting your interests.

I'm just back from a date. He was really nice, we had a nice night, but there was no 'phwar' on my part... I think he's just too nice [sigh]

no chance of a slow burn?

Oh I don't know lou, I'm rubbish at this stuff! When he stroked the back of my hand there was no... anything really! I wasn't repulsed, but normally I would expect some kind of reaction. I just don't think i fancied him at all.
I don't exactly have a type that I go for, physically, but there has to be some kind of spark or chemistry, doesn't there? He'd make a lovely friend, but that's obviously not what he's after.
The problem is that then I start worrying that I'm only ever attracted to gits...