Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 26)

[BlackFLAMECandle]

Oooh brand new thread!

Lol Lou :o

lol, that's the attitude lilac!

I agree with the others, earlybird, he really doesn't sound worth the effort, it sounds to me like there's a very good reason that he is single...
(definitely listen to lou, she is very wise even though she's virtually married and boring now

Oh and I suspect most of us agree with you sponge, you're too good for WM!

Have had the worst morning ever.Ex waited outside my home this morning to confront DG.He reckons i let him meet the boys too soon having only been together 5 weeks and wants to make sure he isn't around them anymore.It felt right for me and no way was i let exp dictate.

They were out there for a while and in the end i called the police.I'm not sure i did the right thing.But i wanted Exp to know he can't threaten me and i was also worried about DG getting to work.

Haven't heard from DG yet so worried that i've lost him now.My Exp just doesn't want me to be happy he says it is about the boys but it isn't.I've been crying all morning

Oh Beuat what a horrible start to the day and what a prat your exP is. I think you did the right thing, I know it feels extreme. Did the police come and sort it out, or did he go away when he knew you'd called them?

Don't worry about DG, everything you have said about him on here makes me sure he is not so easily put off.

Keep us posted.

(((((BNM)))))

Earlybird, he sounds like hard work but you haven't yet met so don't take it personally. I would tell him that he seems to busy and to contact you if and when he is free and leave it at that, don't give him another thought, unless he comes up with a firm date.

Lilac, can you tell me about your photo shoot. I want to do this with DD after christmas. I've seen the sessions advertised on the net at about £20 and realise the photos will cost, can you give me a ball park figure on what to expect price wise for the photos. Did you take your own clothes? Lovely pic btw. I want to do it soon before I get anymore wrinkled and it will be a big birthday treat, although it not until next summer.

eve, mine was through this company:

here

I paid £50 for 2x deluxe on a special offer from a saleswoman in my local Tesco! The photos are horrendously expensive, and if you get only the prints included in the deal they cannot be photographed, photocopied or scanned. To buy the copyright, you have to buy them on CD which costs at least £100. In fact, 20 or more prints were quoted at £1400!! I said no thanks, we'd rather have a family holiday for that, we went through the photos again, reduced it to 17 shots and ended up paying £450 because I bargained hard. I went in there saying I was absolutely not buying any of them, so they saw me coming

I figure that if I meet the man of my dreams on Lovestruck now that I've got my amazing pics up there, it's money well spent! Also my 13yo DD, who is a bit tubby and doesn't have a lot of confidence, looked amazing and it did her a lot of good.

What a tosser Beaut!!! :( I can't see dg being put off that easy though.

Sent Carrot what was meant to be a humorous text saying "we need a chat...." then a big gap when i proceeded to tell him it was his bloody fault I am now watching the Apprentice. Had a concerned text back asking what the chat would be about . Kinda thought he would realise it was all related!!! Now had to explain...

Unless he didn't scroll down...

Beaut, well done to you, he needs to know he cannot do this to you. Hopefully he will realise this now. Tell DG that this shouldn't happen again. I'm sure he will be a bit shook up but OK about it.

Lilac, [hshock] at the prices. I was thinking about £100!!! Might have to think again now. Shame as it's something DD would benefit from too.

beaut i think you def did the right thing re police etc. i really sympathise as i've had lots of trouble with my ex in past (making nasty phone calls to someone i was involved with, as well as starting a fight with someone just for talking to me! :( ) he used the line about being concerned re our dc as well, which i think is just a convenient excuse.

as to dg, i'm sure all will be ok, expect he is probably a bit shocked by the confrontation. nothing my ex does surprises or shocks me now sadly, i'm used to it, but i know that most people who haven't been around someone like him are pretty horrified by stuff he does. Am sure you will hear from him soon.

don't know if this will help but whenever my ex acts like a total tosser, i remind myself this is why we're no longer together, and how much happier i am without him than i was with him :)

Thank you everyone for your kind words they have made an awful day better.The police saw Ex off.He had been drinking as well they said.

Heard from DG he says he wants me to get an injunction as is worried and feels i'll never be free otherwise.He isn't coming around today as planned which is understandable.I offered him the option of ending it there but he said he loves me.I'm not sure what to think i mean i don't even know if i could be bothered with all the hassle if i were in his shoes.

Exp has continued to call me swearing at me most of the morning.Sorry to have taken over with my dramas.

Thanks for your advice.

I agree that it seems wise not to waste my time with this man who cannot commit to meeting up due to an unpredictable work schedule (he's a photographer fgs, not the Foreign Secretary or the Mayor who understandably might have tricky schedules ).

It has been hard work, and a little up to be pulled in by someone who says he wants to meet, but then repeatedly pushed away with scheduling/work excuses. I was hopeful as my friend knows him, and says he is nice and interesting.

I rarely meet men, and those who I encounter at work (usually married/involved), or through dd's school (married and if single, going for the real 'babes' - you'd be stunned at some of the women they bring to school social events).

I don't seem to 'fit the mold' for many of the men 'round here. Almost all are divorced, and going for what you'd expect from men in the midst of a mid-life crisis.

Anyway.....onward and upward. Thanks for listening.

Totally ot but can i just say how bloody delicious hazelnut baileys is?

Thank you. As you were.

Lou I agree i saw it advertised the night before it came out and was straight the shops the next day.The big bottle is £15 in sainsburys and i've had two already Yummy

Sounds like a good night in, lou...or a precursor to a night out?

Just me and a box of After Eights here :)

A night in with me myself and i. Have forced dp to spend an evening with friends and come down tomorrow

ooh I always get baileys at xmas- perhaps I should have an early present

Update - just me and an empty box that used to contain After Eights here

Hope you haven't emptied that bottle Lou!

No i havent but i have been tempted
I have to be up at half seven which has helped keep me in check

Mmmmmm may try some.

Spent the day baking as Psycho decided yesterday to throw a Halloween party tomorrow. Came home about half eight completely exhausted planning to crawl in bed, but got a text from carrot saying he had to go to the shop for milk, did I want company. He turned up with no milk and said he forgot to buy it!?! Just left. Invited him to party tomorrow but knew he'd say no (which tbh I wanted... proper meeting of kids AND some of my friends in the same night sounds scary).

Oh... need your take on this... on Weds we were having conv about various things, then he randomly started telling me where his work people were going for xmas party, how many etc. Completely unrelated to anything else we had talked about. I wasn't sure if he was just mentioning it or I was meant to make some sign towards wanting/not wanting an invite or what! I don't DO subtlety and he seems to go for round about ways of doing things. (the girl who broke him made him believe he was too clingy/needy which could be part of it).

Can I join u on here?

ello!

tis flamesparrow btw

Welcome Kat

Flame, the carrot reference gave your identity away!

I would ignore the xmas party reference unless it comes up again.

Am fuming

ex was meant to be here by 9am this morning to collect ds2. i'd made arrangements to go into work and earn some much needed overtime, and was going straight from there to get ready for party.

still no sign of ex.

got a text 2 hours ago which said he'd be here shortly! ffs!

have mentally waved goodbye to ot money now. just hoping he shows up in time for me to get to party :(

lol that was for sparkly assumed the rest of you would know!

Argh Sponge