Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 26)

[BlackFLAMECandle]

Oooh brand new thread!

Lol Lou :o

lilac - wow - you look fantastic

sponge - do you think WM would drag you down if he's a bit negative?

Is your interview for your current employer? Sounds a mammoth task.

I had one night off this week (last night) exh bringing the boys to me at work tonight -have to work till 6.30pm

Looks like his 'furious' p has decided not to respond to my email - he has probably talked her out of it. He has been very crabby with me though - I think I must have put the cat amongst the pigeons.

She did grill my dcs last w/e about what they thought - unfortunately they clammed up as they don't feel that comfortable with her.

Not at all related, but MY BABY STOOD UP!

Yay for Strawberry!

Your poor boys, scl I don't blame them for clamming up with her.

Don't know what to say about WM, Sponge, I think I would have been beyond irritated a long time ago

Fingers crossed for elasta's sky diving chemist too!

Great news, flame :)

Cyclist can't make it tonight :(

Have put a 'free tonight' on Lovestruck and will see what who crawls out of the woodwork...

aw flame that is lovely news :)

i think you must have the patience of a saint sponge, i dont think i could be arsed if i were you, by now!

i have nothing to report, i am officially dull now

In the spirit of moving swiftly on, off to meet a soldier for a drink :)

ooh have fun

my last serious bf before dp was a soldier,. he was a lovely lovely guy

exh has just sent me another video, this time of the older three as teenies dancing

he says it is to cheer me up?

didnt know i needed cheering up but at least this time it isnt creepy

it wiped my essay!

how very dare it!

lou - words fail me (v rare i'm lost for words!) re your exh!

flame - hurray for standing baby :)

lilac - hope date with soldier goes well. and agree you v v much don't look 42!

scl - good that exh's p didn't send the email. possibly she'll leave it there.

got through assessment thing in the end - drinks after with interviewer, who is also my work crush had half a bottle of wine on empty stomach, quite giddy after and def still in mindset that wm is too much hard work. and doesn't deserve me!

Hello ladies - might I crash your party to ask for dating advice? As a long term single Mum, i no longer know what is reasonable.......

Be warned though - it is a bit tedious.....

Ok - here we go:

1. A bit of background: I have been single a long time, and never meet any fit, interesting or available men! About 6 weeks ago, a female friend called to say she had bumped into ex work colleague who divorced a few years ago.

1. After getting caught up on news, friend asks the man if he would be interested in meeting/dating someone, and man says yes. He talks about loneliness and the divorce to my friend for at least an hour.

1. Friend sends introductory email to me and man with contact phone numbers for each of us (with my consent), suggesting we should meet.

1. After 24 hours with no contact, I send a light-hearted, funny, chatty email to man

1. He replies a day later with very brief note (almost curt) saying he is very busy with work atm, and then having a few days off/away, but hopes we can meet when he returns.

EB stops to draw breath........

right.

Pmsl @ lou's mad XH

i would have given up on wm too and i am stubborn!

when do you hear about interview sponge?

fast going lilac... await info! still gonna meet cyclist at some point?

EB hopes she isn't talking to herself........

1. Seems a bit of 'brush off' , but decide not to take it personally. Wait a few days, and write again in a friendly way asking if he is going anywhere nice, and tell him about an upcoming trip I have planned with dd. Again - friendly, chatty, not too long or serious.

1. After another 24 hours, he writes back saying he is very busy (on night shift), and hopes we can meet when he is back. Not chatty or even particularly friendly.

1. I think I've definitely been given the brush off, and feel a bit peeved. Show my friend (who introduced us) the correspondence, and she agrees. Neither of us can think why he said he wanted to meet someone, when he seems not really interested and/or available.

1. Almost 3 weeks pass. Friend calls to say she's bumped into the man in question, and asked him if we'd managed to meet (knowing we hadn't). He said he'd come back from holiday and completely 'forgot' to call, and asks for my number again which she gives.

So far not liking the sound of Mr Forgetful

I'd stay single tbh. If he is too busy to bother with common courtesy of calling when he says he will, then he is too much of a knob busy to treat you well.

Grr much of a knob

hmmm he sounds like hard work tbh

I am so far out of the dating scene (and a bit nervous and apprehensive), so don't know if I am being too demanding.

But, my gut instinct is that I am putting forth too much effort to even meet the man. And fwiw, I'm awfully busy too - but I'm able to make a plan!

Would you say anything (via phone or email), or just ignore?

i would just let it die off

lou33, you are so experienced with this stuff. I'm all at sea. You just wouldn't respond?

Even though I've done nothing wrong, I feel rattled. TBH, have tried to give him benefit of the doubt because my friend knows/likes him.

She is mortified by his behaviour, btw.

no i wouldnt, because you have made an effort and if it is already like pulling teeth then i would be thinking why bother?

esp when you havent already met

Welcome earlybird, I'd give him the brush off too. It can only get worse...

Sponge, hope the interview thingy went well.

Back from date with soldier - he was lovely. Oops, another toyboy, not sure how that happened...

He is 30, a sergeant, lives in barracks and has a 3yo DS with an exGF, sees him every weekend. Got on v well, and like me, he does not drink at all. He is Northern Irish but his accent is a bit faint, that is something he should work on as it's an accent I quite like.

Cyclist still texting me, wonders if I can meet on Monday - I can't really, parents are staying and DD2 has guides and if he didn't b*gger off to Bath every weekend things would be a lot easier. And although he is much more the sort of guy I feel I should end up with I wonder if it will always be this hard to meet and so what is the point?

Not-so-nameless guy has resurfaced after more than a week, admired the new pics and said he hoped I was having a good half term and nothing exciting to report as he's laid up with sciatica (I know this was troubling him the last two times we met). So I offered to come round and make him coffee and pass the remote and said hope he feels better soon. If he is only going to send one message a fortnight, he will probably be completely recovered by the time I get a reply

So many men, so little time....