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This is going to sound really stupid, but ....

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MrsMorgan · 10/09/2010 00:13

I start my job on monday. I am scared to death and one of the things that would make it better is that someone was there when I got home, to say 'hey, how did it go'

No one will be though. I will get txts and emails but thats not quite the same.

So sick of never having anyone there, just for me.

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Kewcumber · 10/09/2010 00:52

we will be here though so come ans tell us how it went. Or do you have someone you can ring when you get home?

Flamesparrow · 10/09/2010 07:30

Not stupid at all.

One of the things that made me sign up to a dating site was coming out of hospital with DD2 after she was ill, and no-one being there to ask how I was and give me a hug. I had loads of support via text and for the children etc, but that someone who cared about just me was what I missed horribly.

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MrsMorgan · 10/09/2010 09:49

Yes that's exactly it Flame. I feel the same when my dc have been ill.

I will definitely come on here and tell you all how it went Smile

My mum will ring me, and probably my dad too, so there will be people interested.

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Kewcumber · 10/09/2010 10:53

what job are you starting on Monday?

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MrsMorgan · 10/09/2010 11:47

Housekeeper in a children's hospital Smile

Not 100% sure on exactly what I will be doing yet, but it involves checking and ordering stock, general tidying up and some admin.

I am looking forward to it, just nervous. Ds cried this morning because after today I won't be taking him to school anymore.

I did explain to him that he is lucky that I have been able to take him for this long (he is 7). I said it isn't really going to be that different, because whereas he was at school and I was at home, I will now be at work while he is at school, but will be back in time to fetch him.

He said yes but you will be so much further away ! Bless him lol.

I am trying to remember that this time next week I will be a couple of hours away from finnishing my first week lol.

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Kewcumber · 10/09/2010 13:16

it sounds like a lovely job and one you are perfectly experienced for! And very helpful to be home in time for pick up.

Miley10 · 10/09/2010 16:40

MrsMorgan I know how you feel. When I finished my first day (2 weeks ago) I didnt think I would be able to cope with the job and there was no-one to talk to when I got home. And now things are going well with the job I still have no-one to share that with.
Kewcumbers right, come on here and let us know how it went. Good Luck Smile

marcopront · 10/09/2010 18:57

Could you ask your parents to come over that evening? Or a friend to pop round?

Then at least you can get a hug, and I'm sure your son will ask you.

teahouse · 10/09/2010 18:58

Just to add another voice to 'know how you feel camp'. I've been ill too and had no one here to help me out, and make me feel better.

Still, these odd times are nothing compared to the living hell that being in a poor relationship can be. Hold onto that thought.

bottyburpthebarbarian · 10/09/2010 19:02

Oh I know exactly how you feel.

Come on here next week and let us know how it goes

I start uni on Tuesday and I feel the same

Antalya1 · 11/09/2010 00:36

Mrs Morgan, on the day that I found that I still had my job after a consultancy period, I so missed having my, (not that he would have cared) 'significant other' to tell...but I shall be waiting here at 6 o'clock on Monday to find out all about how it went, including who you went to lunch with...loads of luck for Monday, you'll be great and they must think so cos they gave you the job Smile x

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MrsMorgan · 11/09/2010 09:30

Thank you all so much Smile

The reality is, that even if I was still with xp, he'd have not been happy about me working anyway, so i'd have come home to a miserable moaning, grump.
I'd much rather have it this way lol.

My parents won't be able to come over on the day, but I am sure they will ring me, and my friend is also going to try and ring me from work to see how it went.

I now have to spend today getting everything organised for Monday lol.

Anyone know if I can get one of [http://www.organised-mum.co.uk/Magnetic-Family-Organiser-p-52.html these] or similar on the high street ???

Good luck for Tuesday bottyburp. What will you be studying ??

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MrsMorgan · 11/09/2010 09:31

organiser

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bottyburpthebarbarian · 11/09/2010 18:47

MrsM - Law.

Am having a mad cleaning day today - have stripped all the beds and am making sure bathroom etc are all cleaned.

My Ex was never happy about me working either - and he never helped in the house

That organiser looks class btw

mylittleboy · 11/09/2010 20:12

mrs morgan, good luck for monday, tell us how you get on. im new to mumsnet and a new to being a single mum and can relate tolots of what your saying. think it must take a long while to adjust to being alone (we're never alone with our gorgeous bubs) but i dont know about you but i mourn the future i thought i was going to have. i am now after a 10 yr relationship found myself on my own with athen 7 mth old baby :( men can be so so selfish, do whats best for them and always put themselves before anyone else. take care, good luck with the job. make sure you tell us howyou get on, chat to your parents and friend and tell your son all about it and then sit own with a big fat glass of wine :)

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MrsMorgan · 12/09/2010 17:40

Mylittleboy - I do still sometimes mourn the loss of how things were supposed to be, I promise it does get better.
There will always be times when something will make you feel lonely, or wish that things were different, but I think this is true for most peope, whatever their family situation.

Bottyburp - I was reading about an OU law course the other day. Was surprised how interesting it looked as someone who has never been remotely interested in things like that lol.
I hope it all goes swimmingly for you.

I have spent all weekend tidying the house, washing anything that moves and I even made an organiser chart instead of buying one lol.

I am not going to go to bed especially early, as I know I will just lie there awake for hours then. Going to do some ironing whilst watching tv and just go when I feel tired.

I know that when I wake at half 5 I am going to feel absolutly terrified and sick to my stomach, but I am going to make myself think positively and just do it Smile

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gettingeasier · 12/09/2010 18:06

MrsMorgan I know how you feel too but much as you say if I was coming home from day 1 of a new job it would have gone like this :

Me " Hi etc"

Exh "How did it go ?"

Me "Fine"

Very small pause while I wait for a question or think of what will be of sufficient interest to mention

Exh "Good. See you later then"

Exh exits to the pub.

So there you go !!

Seriously though its hard sometimes I hate coming home to an empty house when the dc are with him overnight.

I agree I think about how things were meant to be , the loss of all my assumptions and dreams . However 8 months down the line I think about it less and less and tend to think more of how much nicer and at ease my life is Grin

Good Luck tomorrow and post in when you get home x

TimeForMe · 12/09/2010 18:47

Good luck for tomorrow MrsMorgan Smile and well done you on landing the job!

elastamum · 12/09/2010 22:06

Good luck tommorow Mrs M. We will be waiting to see how you got on Smile

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MrsMorgan · 12/09/2010 22:35

Thank you all Smile

I am starting to feel a bit nervous now, so trying not to think about it too much. Not sure I will sleep very well tonight though.

Will report back asap tomorrow.

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MrsMorgan · 12/09/2010 22:59

Suddenly worried that I might have forgotten something Confused

Have done lunches, uniforms etc. Have arranged with xp what time to meet to hand over dc, and have got my bag ready.

Nothing else is there ??

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LIZS · 13/09/2010 16:40

Hope it went well.

gettingeasier · 13/09/2010 18:20

How did you get on today ?

bottyburpthebarbarian · 13/09/2010 19:56

how did it go???

Tippychoocks · 13/09/2010 20:00

She's gone for a drink with all her lovely new work friends hopefully Smile.