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Jan/Feb locals chat

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SJ99 · 22/01/2008 18:10

How exciting to be starting thread

Yay, thanks Sfx, am already looking forward to banana bread, mmmm!

In Sweden they had Noise Police (everything is so formally governed over there) but what a great idea, they used to go and put a stop the noise polluters, no messing.

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SushiMummy · 12/02/2008 15:10

Oh QC, so sorry. Self soothing story brought tears to my eyes. I'm so glad your DS got over it all thanks to your dedication and love. Again, aplogies for my ignorance.

Kewcumber · 12/02/2008 15:27

oh no apology necessary at all Sushi. Thankfully attachement problems and self soothing mechansims are not something most parents ever have a need to know about - no reason why they should. People (even sometimes adotpive parents) genuinely don't understand that RAD (reactive attachment disorder) is brain damage. Children form pathways in their brains through the need/cry/fulfillment/trust cycle (my paraphrase of the attachment cycle) if those pathways don't form normally and they cry and aren't attended to or don't learn to trust one carer to provide for them then their brains don't develop normally. In severe cases it can present a little like autism - severe lack of empathy violence difficulty controlling moods etc.

Rule of thumb unless children are severely neglected (like in the Rumanian orphanges) is that the process is often salvageable if the child is remved from an institutionalised setting under 2yrs. Obviously it depends on the personality of the child, some are more or less resiliant than others.

SushiMummy · 12/02/2008 15:43

Thanks QC. It made me want to give my DS lots of cuddles and kisses right now!

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SJ99 · 12/02/2008 18:09

Aww, QC that is really sad I read that a lot of babies in orphanages don't cry basically because they know it won't get them the attention they crave, hence the self soothing. So sad. Glad Gherkin has overcome all of that, he has lots of kisses to look forward to each day

Nice to see you earlier Bunyan, it is one of my fave parks. We didn't stay much longer as it started to get quite chilly!

We got home and after his tea, DS asked to go to mini-Ros house to play Glad he's ok after his injuries yesterday

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Kewcumber · 12/02/2008 20:13

that is true of the less good orphanages SJ and also of the childrne who are more prone to attachement problems even in good institutions. It was one of the reasons why I wasn;t unhappy that DS wailed like a train for an hour when he met me and was very suspicious of me for a good amount of time - shows a healthy and normal reaction. There was one little boy who was 1 yr old in teh sick bay, beautiful child who had obvious attachment problems. I used to have a little chat with him and stroke his head whilst I was wiaitn gfor them to bring DS out from his nap. He used to cuddle into me like I was his mother. Heart-breaking and very worrying as 1yr olds really shouldn't be prepared to seek affection so indiscriminately from anyone. I'll never forget him, I really wish I had got a photo of him.

fitfox · 13/02/2008 17:49

QC - that makes me want to fly over there and scoop him up and bring him home

Was that the little boy who had his 1st birthday while you were there?

Kewcumber · 13/02/2008 20:13

yes that was him - I always assumed he was not available for adoption, I can't beleive he wouldn't have been snapped up by someone before.

Oh dear think I have dragged the mood down with my sad tales!

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SJ99 · 13/02/2008 20:49

Tis a really heart breaking tale Let's hope the little boy got a happy ending and someone saved him

Hello Foxie - glad to hear DS2 on the mend

We have been out all day to Strawbery Hill then Kingston, hectic day. Then DH back early so have had some company midweek which feels like a treat.

No one else about today?

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SJ99 · 13/02/2008 20:56

On a happier note, BF in Oz gave birth to a baby boy. Labour was 2hr 6mins for first time birth, unbelievable, lucky woman

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rosmerta · 13/02/2008 21:13

Kew, am always so when I hear your stories, like foxie I just want to go scoop them up!

Foxie, how's ds2 doing?

Sj, that's so cute he's asking for ds! I take it you & Bunyan had a nice time at Marble Hill?!

Ds definitely has his molars coming through, he gets really grumpy & clingy, especially just after his nap and has the telltale teething rash all over his cheeks! Unfortunately, they don't look like they're anywhere close to breaking through so think we have a way to go yet.

rosmerta · 13/02/2008 21:29

congratulations to your bf sj

sfxmum · 14/02/2008 09:02

good morning all

SJ congrats on your friend's baby am very of that short birth

hope you are all well, looks like a very uninspiring day might just end up at lollipop or maybe just a walk to the park

SushiMummy · 14/02/2008 11:14

Morning all.

Foxie - glad DS2 is on the mend. BTW, where did you find a house for me?

SJ - congrats on your BF's baby.

Ros - Poor DS. Hope it's not causing too much pain for him. Bonjela?

sfx - enjoy lollipop/KG. Are the crocs/daffs out, yet?

Have a nice day, all.

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SJ99 · 14/02/2008 14:30

Ros - hope DS not suffering too much with teething. After nearly a mth of it we seemed to have turned a corner as DS seems much brighter this wk although fingers still in mouth. Marble Hill was really good, glad we enjoyed the sunshine while it lasted!

Been to art class today and DS really enjoyed it, made a jigsaw puzzle and some Valentine's cards

Just realised I have tons to do as my parents are coming tomorrow. We are going to a do in Essex on Sat but DS & DH are staying at home. First time I'll have left DS all day & night so am slightly worried. Then we're off to Wales for a week so need to pack on Sunday. Will try and catch up when I can, see you all soon

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Kewcumber · 14/02/2008 14:44

I'm planning to take DS to the saturday art class on 1st march as they're doing mothers day cards. Thought he could make one for my mum. if anyone else fancies tagging along we could celebrate St Davids day at the same time. Something very quirky about a kazakh/Russian boy living in London celebrating St Davids day

bunyanvillas · 14/02/2008 19:20

Evening all. Kew, those orphanage stories are so sad I wish I could win the lottery and make a difference with the money. SJ, it was good to catch up the other day and a novelty to actually be able to chat!! - have a rocking time in Essex on Sat - and don't worry about DH and DS, they'll have a male bonding session and be fine! And have a great hols in Wales - am sooooo envious! Hope everyone else is ok. Am knackered here so celebrating St Val's with a tv dinner for two!!

rosmerta · 14/02/2008 20:49

evening all,

bunyan, how's the house going? Or don't we talk about it?!

bunyanvillas · 14/02/2008 21:03

Ha ha, Ros - just mindful of the fact that I've been boring everyone witless with the whole saga! Things are coming along and upstairs will be signed off on - more or less - as of end-next week. Downstairs is a wholly different story - and it's half term next week, yikes! We will be going cold turkey on the telly as of Sat morning so expecting dd to throw a complete wobbly. But am actually pleased as I need to wean her off her beebies dependency. Quiet on here tonight, expect people are wading through their cards/ enjoying romantic trysts So - anyone around next week? Any tips for child-friendly venues that won't be complete hell

rosmerta · 14/02/2008 21:07

I wish! Dh bought me a lamp, that's 10yrs together for you

Am planning on avoiding most places next week except for maybe Kew Gardens, though I will steer well clear of C&C!

Kewcumber · 14/02/2008 22:02

my tip bunyan is to come over to mine and park oth DC's in fornt of the telly whilst we drink coffee Though that only really works Fri-Sun due to that boring work stuff I have to do.

Kewcumber · 14/02/2008 22:08

oh and did I share (cos I can;t remember) that DS can now open the car door from the inside whilst strapped into his car seat. And this I discovered the hard way whilst driving home from CM's one evening, when a click and a whistling breeze through the car alerted me to the fact that all was not well. DS merrily chortling at the BEST trick he's come up with for ages. I'm not normally much of a screecher but as I was whizzing down the mortlake road at the time....

Need to get the manual out to work out how to put the bleedin' child locks on.

MrsRecycle · 14/02/2008 22:12

I've been stood up - had to cancel the restaurant as dh is ill in bed. Poor thing. At least I get to watch what I want on tv tonight.

bunyan/ros - we're going to the Toy Museum on Friday 22nd not sure if you've signed up, but hope it won't be too busy (mind you its big enough so it shouldn't matter).

KC - would love to come to the card making session but am away that weekend. When is mother's day anyway?

I've had a busy week this week - it was dd1's 10th birthday (where does the time go?) and she had some friends to a Pizza making party at Pizza Express. She was telling me about Snakes & Ladders, apparently its closed down as someone tried to snatch a girl from there. Her friend was there when it happened.

Kewcumber · 14/02/2008 22:15

yeah I cancelled too. Perce Brosnan rang but I told him to bugger off and stop harassing me.

I have the delights of a social worker visit on 22nd - what fun.
Mothers day is 2nd march - quite ealry this year.

MrsRecycle · 14/02/2008 22:16

oh no KC - just wait until he manages to climb out of his car seat then the trouble starts. The childlock will normally turn off with a screwdriver turning it round (on the inside of the door) or else you can you just central lock yourself in as you drive off.

MrsRecycle · 14/02/2008 22:18

oh so he did call you - I gave him your number when dh wouldn't let me go out with him

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