Der Herbst ist da - wir wollen aber kein Regenwetter: Life in Germany cont/d

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Too lazy to scroll through the other long one.

Here for Obst und Blaetter - guess what d came home from school singing yesterday?

All welcome, Austria & Switzerland & any German-speaking Leute too

FInk - LOL at you drooling

Admylin - Xmas stuff sounds fab. We have our village market this weekend. Really looking forward to it.

Yes, I suppose I appear mad for not stressing about redundancy but the thing is, there is loads of contract work available in DH's area at the moment. Plus I know I can always go back into London and find temporary work if I need to so I suppose on one score DH should be able to get temp work and on the other, I am quite excited about the prospect of doing a bit of proper work again! I suppose if I am brutally honest with myself too, we have wanted to go back for a while now and the excitement from the thought of it is blocking out all potential problems too.

Plus of course the UK is full of family and friends so we won't be completely up the swanny.

We are going to drive back with caravan and dog (who has his passport) so no worries there either. Hopefully going to take a week and have a small holiday in France on the way and we have the bonus of always being able to live in the caravan for a bit if we have to when we get there.

Cravings...are you sure you're not...? Sounds quite bad! Get yourself an order put in with foodfromhome. I'll be ordering a load of stuff from them soon to get me through the German festive season and sod the extra cost!

go on, order now finks!

Admylin! No, lol, not pg.
Hi Gabster!
Go and post on my mince pie thread, please? It looks so forlorn and in need of a warm mince pie feeling.

Wish me luck at the school!

Ooh I do love a christmas market or bazaar. I could spend ages just looking at every stall. Unfortunately I´m the only one who feels that way. Dh is only concerned about making it to the nearest glühwein stall and the dc just find it boring.

Not much into mince pies or Glühwein myself. I was with dh for 3 years before he realised mince pies were filled with fruit and not meat. I´d wondered why he´d always had this terrified look about him when anyone offered him one.

Hope you´re feeling better soon admylin.

TheGabster - very brave of you to consider camping in December. When will you know for sure when/what´s happening with dh´s job?

Same here hupa, no one likes wandering around the markets in my family either and it's a shame they don't open 'til 11am so I still have to rush round by myself before school's out. I went to the famous Nurenberg market one Christmas and it was so freezing cold thatit wasn't even enjoyable with glühwein. That's what puts my dc off too ,they just keep saying 'mum, Germans are nutters!' - integration hasn't been going well as you see.

Catastrophe on the school thread, please go and advise me.

Had the most horrendous row with DH this morning. Might be able to post about it tonight, no time at the moment and I am sure to get upset. Will wait until the dC are in bed and come back to MN for advice.

ML is the new job very stressful for him? Could it be that he is extra tense because of that, havign to get established etc?

Do you see any chance of getting a babysitter in and going out just the two of you for a nice meal tonight or tomorrow maybe where you could talk and listen to each other in peace?

MmeLindt
Hope you're OK. I would guess too that the stress of the new job and the move is affecting both of you.

If your dh is anything like mine then he can be unbearable to live with when he is bogged down with stuff at work. Luckily for all of us he doesn't have a particularly stressful job but he is very busy atm so I feel I have to tread very carefully around him at times.

hope you are ok mmelindt

and everyone else too

ps

dh got his doctoriate .....

Congrats mr cinders

My laptop has just died. So dh is out, I have no tv, no pc, no MN :-(

This morning I did a terrible thing. I checked dh's txt messages. There was a txt to his colleague (who is in geneva today and staying with us). He wrote "hallo suesse. Wir waren grad bei die nachbarn. Freu mich sehr auf morgen. Dicke bussi.

I was deveststed. It is the one thing that I have always been sure of. That he would not cheat on me.

I showed him the txt and he said that they are just friends. That he speaks to both his female colleagues like that. He looked me in the eyes and promised me there was nothing going on. I believe him. He is a very honest person and is not good at lying. He is also too honest and decent to bring his OW into the family home.

It does show how far apart we are. We have been having problems for some time. He says we have grown apart. I feel he is expecting too much of me. When he comes home from work he just complains all the time. I am overweight. I don't keep the house nice. I spend too much money. These are the points that come up again and again. Oh. And lack of sex. How the hell am I supposed to feel sexy when I feel his disaproval the moment he gets in the house?

He never shows affection. He never tells me he loves me unless I say it first. I am so fed up. :-(

I don't know what to do. I am not a super hausfrau. I never have been. He knew that when he married me.

thank you for the congrats, it is one thing out of the way

you always come across as so in control, and assured. Unlike me

the text is a very hard thing to comment on as I only know you from reading your posts.

but I wish you the very best of luck

ML - hang in there sweetie. Its so easy to get into a rut. We all do it.

I reckon Zzzen is right - get yourselves some quality time to talk things over, and know that we are all here whenever you need us.

Fink - I'm on my way over now - anything for mince pies. Yum scrum

Congrats to Cinder's DH!!!!

Bloody hell, MmeL, I don't want to frighten you but
'hallo suesse. Wir waren grad bei die nachbarn. Freu mich sehr auf morgen. Dicke bussi' is not good, methinks.

Even if it's just affectionate, I don't think it's at all appropriate language for a colleague or even female friend.
If you don't want to hash it all on MN I'm in my study all bleeding night probably, so email me if you like:
g u s s i e @ l i n u x - b o x . d e

Do, please, you must be tearing your hair out. I know I would be.

Thanks fink. I have a thread in relationships where I am hashing it out

Thank god I have mn or I would be on the phone to my mum and I don't want to worry her.

You are right. It is not appropriate. I tlod him so. I asked how he would feel if I were exchanging txts like that.

Oh Mme L - hope you get the opportunity to work this out, take care.

Next Friday we are going to an Austrian friend's house for a visit from St Nikolaus and the very scary Krampus. She said her girls had already sent their letter to St Nikolaus, but I forgot to ask her where they send it? Up the chimney? In the post?Anyone?

sorry for you mmelindt, great time of year to be having this sort of thing to sort out eh.

Debinaustria, thank goodness my 2 have discovered the truth and don't do Nikolaus and letters! Have you tried google - you might get an address!

Debinaustria
There is a tiny village near wuerzburg called Himmelstadt. They get lots of Santa letters.

It is the most lovely day here. Sunny and not too cold. Despite it still being November I have succumbed to Yuletide feelings. Hard not to with 1. Advent tomorrow.
There is a huge tree in the centre of the village and lights along the cobbled streets which are imo so much nicer than the motley coloured light bulbs you often see in the UK. Here there are only white stars or bells ringed by greenery.
Only went down for Advent candles, my sole annual Basteln activity with greenery from the garden. Am hopeless faced with C'mas decorations, I cannot resist them. Bought d a star for her window and before I knew it I was listing all the things I vaguely remember we needed more of as some were broken last year but I may well have been inventing it all as I haven't even brought the decorations up out of the cellar yet.
57 euros later, both bike baskets were full!

At 5 we're going up to the castle for the tree lighting and Glühwein, and while out I bought more Glühwein for tomorrow's hike. H won't come to the castle, but I figure he came often enough when the children were little and the whole Nikolaus thing was so exciting for them so now I go with friends.
Plus he brought me a Turkish pizza for lunch, hmmm, I used to have cravings for them when pg (no, I'm not), was impressed he remembered.

Hi finknottle.

Turkish pizza is yummy.

Lovely here too. Christmas market in full swing as well. We went there on Thursday for the opening as dd was singing in the school choir but I didn't actually see her until half way through the performance cos there were so many people in front of me and I'm not very tall.

Glad it's a bit warmer today. The sub zero temperatures were making my teeth hurt.

Which castle are you going to?