Should I relocate to Monaco with 16 year old twin boys

[Enna0105]

My partner and I have been together for eight years. He recently moved to Monaco for tax purposes. We have a five-year-old daughter, and I also have 15-year-old twin sons from a previous relationship. We're currently managing a long-distance relationship with regular visits to Monaco. My primary reason for staying in the UK is to allow my twins to complete their GCSEs next year. However, I'm considering relocating the entire family to Monaco afterwards. My twins are resistant to the idea, but I'm increasingly concerned about safety and the overall quality of life in the UK. I believe Monaco, with its better climate and international schools, would offer them a more secure and enriching environment for their college years. Would it be selfish of me to prioritize this move despite my sons' reluctance?"

Stay put til they finished school
Then you can do as you like
Keep your independence
Put them first

get advice but maybe don't move unless married

If he so wealthy he can afford to fly in and out to visit dd
Your sons stability comes first
Unless they can stay and live with their dad if he around?

@Enna0105 what does the father of the twins say about moving them to another country?

What would 16 year olds do in Monaco? How will they continue their education? Do they speak French?

He moved to another country, away from his daughter, because tax?

Why would you follow him? He moved abroad away from his young child.

What are your partner’s good points?

I’m pretty shocked that you are considering leaving the UK for a DP that left you and his daughter to move to a place for tax dodging purposes.

definitely stay in the UK until your twins are old enough to go to university. You could move with your dd then potentially, though I wouldn’t move to a place like Monaco.

I just can’t get over the fact that he’s left his partner and HIS FIVE YEAR OLD DAUGHTER in another country just so he can avoid tax.

The issue with your sons seems almost beside the point.

He moved away from his own child?
You are considering uprooting your sons for the sake of a man you're not even married to?
It would be a horrible thing to do to your sons.

I'd stay in the UK until after your DSs have done their A levels or whatever educational options they choose for 16-18. I have a 17-year-old and he'd have absolutely hated to be ripped from his school and friends at 16 and taken OS to a place where he knows no one. Social life and friends are so important at this stage. If your DP is a keeper, then he'll wait.

Well, he's clearly rich!

They are so close to flying the nest I wouldn’t do it. Ripping them from all their friends, family and what they know. Assuming they’ve never moved before it’s all they know and their life. You could do real damage to your relationship with them and their education forcing it.

not to mention this is just for a man who (to quote another poster) doesn’t want to do what’s right for society. A society that has brought his child upto 5.

Have you taken your lads to look at schools there? Would they be doing A'levels or IB or something else? I wouldn't rule out moving just because they said they didn't want to before looking at the options more carefully. They might change their minds if they knew more about it,
You'd be daft to do this unless married unless you are massively wealthy.

I had a quick look at the main international school where they only offer the IB, fees would be around 70k euro's for both boys. So not crazy for an international school.

So not paying tax is the priority?

I think you need to reassess your relationship and prioritise your children's needs.

He has one good point, and that's being far away.

Or stingy.

Should you move? Only you can answer that because what other people would do is irrelevant. It's probably smart to look out for yourself first. If you aren't married and the relationship doesn't survive either a long distance scenario or a major move you are very vulnerable if you aren't financially independent.

I agree staggering. So he abandoned his family and difficult decisions re education and childrens well being and buggered off to save a few quid. Unbelievable. Yet the OP is the one fretting about being selfish etc. Unbelievable.

I'm increasingly concerned about safety and the overall quality of life in the UK.

Give over. You want to go to Monaco for your feller. Don't dress it up as some beneficial strategic move for the boys' education and welfare. Not a chance you'd be moving to Monaco for any other reason if the DP wasn't there on his tax-avoidance. Honestly, he's put his financials way above being with you, yet you'd put your DC below him??

Then how do you imagine you are going to make them move to Monaco? Don't be daft.

Prioritising your love life over your children’s education. Lovely!

Don't do it, I see so many famiies where people prioritise their new partner over existing children, top way to alienate your children forever. Marry the guy and move when your twins have left home. Oh, and don't dump them in a boarding school as someone suggested.

Did he live with you all before? How was he with all the kids? You all really aren't his priority. I'd let your sons finish A levels then consider if you really want to.

Do you work op? If you don't then i think you and your children should move to Monaco because why should you benefit from a life in the UK with money that has been taken from what should be tax money and not contributing to society here.

You had a baby with a very rich man without marrying him?

He really is all about the money.

If you split up Your youngest will (presumably) benefit from Child Maintenance ( though only if he volunteers it, I doubt CMS can enforce payment from a tax haven). He is highly unlikely to leave any of his estate to the Dc of an unmarried partner.

They really are expected to sacrifice themselves on the alter of his tax-free wealth accumulation.

So glad to hear that you will put their interests first OP.

Without sense of pressure, guilt tripping or martyrdom, I hope.