WHERE'S BEST TO LIVE IN NZ AND WHAT DO WE NEED TO KNOW:PART 3!!!!(HOLY SHIT!)

[AngryBeaver]

Can you believe we've finished finished off another thread? Jeez we can talk!!
Just an update..we've found a nice double glazed,4 bed house,with nice garden. So that's one stress off the last.
Hilongwhitecloud

Glad you've got the appt now and fingers crossed they can get the placenta bit tomorrow.

Good luck AB. I'll be thinking of you. My consultant works at ADHB and he was wonderful. I hope you get him. All the Drs I met there seem to be UK trained.

I don't mean to derail, but does anyone have any experience of weaning kids off dummies? DD (3) lost her favourite at the weekend but we had two fairly good nights. Last night we took another off her and she was up every 2 hours. Add a wailing cat and we are both shattered. She has two left and the dummy fairy will take those tonight.

I've got a big week ahead- first day back at work today- and need some sleep!

Can't help re the dummies, neither of mine would ever take them despite me trying on several occasions...

AB I had extra scans at Auckland hospital when they were concerned about calcium deposits on dd1's heart ( it can be a soft marker for downs) and all the staff I saw were great. I can confirm a huge amount of staff seem to be British, when I was having an emergency c/section with dd1 virtually every accent of the 10-or-so people in the room was British.

Good luck AB. Will be thinking of you.

No experience re the dummies - and actually went out and bought some today for 10 month old DD, who is still waking every hour & using me as a soother. So thought we'd give the real thing a bash, as a last ditch effort.

But the very nice lady I was chatting to in the chemist said they only managed to convince their daughter to give it up by giving it to the monkeys in the zoo

(I did have a friend who used a specific 'plan' for getting rid of the soother - will see if I can find it)

Monkeys at the zoo.... Now there is an idea!

Vivvola- have you seen the sleepstore website? It has a fab advice section.

www.thesleepstore.co.nz/sleep-information/infant-sleep

I actually did a course they ran at Greenlane Parenting Place which was wonderful. Mainly it got DH to do what I wanted and I on the same page.

It's a woman,Dr deverall.I plan to ask how many cvs's she has performed,but I don't know what I'll do if she hasn't had much experience?Demand someone more senior? Probably noone else available. I'm just fretting as apparantly the cvs is not performed as regularly as the amnio,so dr's often less experienced.And in my case it sems things will not be straight forward anyway (friggin' typical) suppose I'll just have to get on with it. I'v eheard it can take up to 2 1/2 weeks to get the results...I'll be nearly 17 weeks then. So just makes things more difficult if I get bad news. Apparantly they can only remove the baby medically up to 16 weeks,after that you have to give birth.
Just a horrendous prospect. It would break my heart to have to make that choice.
Anyway,stop being maudlin AB...just get on with the next step.

re the dummy just my 1st one had a dummy and she was so attached I swore never again! We told her that Father Xmas came to take them to the new babies around the world (yuk!)So on xmas eve she left it out and in the am it was gone,but replaced with lovely prezzies.
Unfortunately,ds2 uses my bottom lip for a dummy,I will look like Angelina Jolie soon (good!)

Is she a consultant or registrar AB?

Not sure,I'll google

I could be completely wrong here but - given the small population of NZ I would imagine there are only a few hospitals that do CVS's - Auckland, Wellington, Christchurch, maybe dunedin? So Auckland probably covers everybody in the top half of the North Island who needs a CVS - so hopefully they are pretty experienced at doing them. I'm just speculating though - I don't really know.

I think I read that the miscarriage risk is lower after CVS than amnio? And you already know you need to rest completely for the 24 hours afterwards. Is your mum having the dcs? So dh can be with you for it?

Yes,mdwf just rang and said it is far less common a procedure here than the amnio.She said it's been a long time since she has had a patient that has had one. She also told me the lady that rang her said "your patient does realise that she is very high risk and you have warned her that things will probably not turn out well" I couldn't hold it together after that so just said,I know,bye

Don't be nice to me justabout I will cry and Im scared I wont stop

The odds ARE still in favour of a healthy, normal baby AB. Your midwife doesn't appear to understand statistics.

So, following the trivia theme, loads of people I know (okay, 3) have seen orca in the Auckland harbour in the last ten days. I'm thinking of taking DD to Devonport tomorrow in the hope we get lucky.

Sounds good justabout, I 'm thinking of going for an ahh bra...theyre not very pretty though are they?! I'm busting out of all of mine. It's good to know that vicars wear pink frilly underwear
littlest I just can't help feeling it's going to be bad news...and then the midwife rings and tell me the hospital have more or less told her to prepare me for that!

Thinking about you today AB. What time is the test?

Cheers,lolly it's all feeling a bit surreal today. I'm booked in for 2pm, hopefully be on the road back home around 3.30 before the traffic kicks off.

I have just said this to my bf inEngland : I know,I sound so negative. But I think I was just so caught off guard when I was given bad news about the last baby,the impact was far greater. I just feel like if I tell myself it's bad news now,it can't hurt me as much...although I know I will be crushed regardless. I have a little glimmer of hope that I'm too terrified to reveal. I'll keep it in my pocket and hold it tight

Good luck for today AB

Keeping you in my thoughts today AB.

And in totally frivolous irrelevancies... I bought my calculator for the statistics element of my course today. And promptly went into a panic attack about the prospect of studying again, especially as I can't even understand the "this is what this calculator can do" blurb. 3 weeks and counting (with a baby that doesn't sleep and won't take a bottle, and a 4yo that has been exposed to chicken pox but hasn't yet shown symptoms). I must be nuts.

Good luck AB.

another one popping in to say thinking of you AB

They couldn't do the cvs without risking puncturing my bowel.So have to go all the way back next week for amnio.The scan showed that the baby was small and the consulatant said that there was fluid on the spine.He said "sick babies" sometimes collect fluid. She also warned me the next time we go there may not be a heartbeat