WHERE'S BEST TO LIVE IN NZ AND WHAT DO WE NEED TO KNOW:PART 3!!!!(HOLY SHIT!)

[AngryBeaver]

Can you believe we've finished finished off another thread? Jeez we can talk!!
Just an update..we've found a nice double glazed,4 bed house,with nice garden. So that's one stress off the last.
Hilongwhitecloud

You poor woman. I hope you get news sooner rather than later. xx

Sorry to hear this AB.

I just have to try and stay positive I think.But then I don't want to set myself up for a fall. I want o hear 1:2000 or something like that,but what if she says 1:10 or worse.
I should stop this...I have been reading the Antenatal tests/choices threads and I swear,some of the things these poor poor women are going through are horrific.
I don't want that to be me. I don't think I'm strong enough for that

Remember that even if the number sounds high, the percentage risk can be low. When I had dd2 my downs syndrome risk just based on my age (38) was 1 in 117! That was without any tests or scans, solely based on age. It sounds high but it is actually less than a 1% chance of having a baby with downs.

Oh, AB, just seen your posts. Hope you are doing OK this evening. Just wanted to say I am thinking of you and your family. Xx

Still thinking of you AB. Hope Friday comes round quickly for you

Thanks. The phone rang before and I nearly ploughed into the kids who were in the way. It was just a well wisher C'mon midwife...RING

Oh god. It's 1:5 chance. Got to go all the way to bloody to Aukland for amnio

Oh crap AB. more ((((hugs)))) for you all. If it's any help to you at all, I know a lady who had to have an amnio for all three of her children because of bloods results - none of the children had Downs. Will remember you in my prayers.

Oh god AB. I'm sorry it wasn't more positive news

If you are coming up to Auckland and there's anything a total stranger with two mad kids can do, please just shout.

Sending you lots of love and hugs xxx

Oh so sorry to hear your news AB - thinking of you and sending lots of support and hugs - I know nothing we can say will make things better, but we are all here in cyber world for you x

So sorry AB.

Is there anything we can help with while you're in Auckland?

I'd really like a hug right now,I'm on my own. Just put the kids to bed.Didn't want to cry in front of them. Just want someone to tell me it's ok. I keep looking at the scan picture on the fridge...it looks normal,fine...beautiful. I want my baby to be ok
Thanks for the offers re Aukland but it's probably not when I'd like to meet anyone for the first time.
I can't belive I have to go all the way to Aukland for this.Hot to prolong the agony

AB I went through quite a similar experience with DD2 so can completely understand how you are feeling. I had to take a day off work while waiting for the amnio results as I just couldn't concentrate or think about anything else. In my case it was compounded by a truly horrible ob/gyn at the hospital - so horrible in fact that I ended up making a complaint to the hospital and received an apology from the head of dept. So really hope you receive truly compassionate, kind and thoughtful treatment.
Nothing much I can say will help you right now but one thing I will tell you is that the amnio is quite painless.
Do let me know if I can answer any other questions you have.

DD2 does not have DS by the way. She is now 4.5.

Where do you live AB?

Be good to yourself tonight - go and have a relaxing bath if that is your thing - it is definitely mine when I am feeling bad.

Have as many hugs as you want

HUGS. thinking of you. When will the trip to Auckland be. Again anything you need while you're here please just get in touch.

Thanks buzybee...I'm glad you results were clear. But I have just spoken to my bf in the uk who is a gp...she has told me "realistically to expect the worst,but you never know" .I just think it's going to be bad news.
Just sitting here having a cry and getting angry...and having a glass of wine.

bobbish..cambridge...don't have a bath in this house. Sitiing with a hot water bottle and a wine...wondering "why me?" AGAIN. Fucking again.FUUUUUUUCK

sorry,I'm angry and wallowing

Thanks Lolly,I don't think Ive ever needed a hug more. Wish dh could come home

When is he home? He knows doesn't he? Look not trying to be glib at all but remember you have 80% chance that all is fine. You have to hang on to that a bit. We all look at the worst - human nature but remember the 80%. when is the amnio?

Can't begin to imagine what you're going through, AB. Can't believe either that you've got to go all the way to Auckland, what madness. Have you got people who can look after the DCs while you go? Oh, hugs, hugs, hugs.

He'll be home about 11/30 .I rang him earlier,he just did a big sigh and said "right"...what could he say. The midwife will get on to the hos tomorrow and sort the amnio. Jesus I hope it's soon. She said they might make me go up to discuss it and then fucking BACK again for the amnio? I will kick off if they try that.

scroob...apparantly they have just move foetal medicine up to Auckland...absoloutely bloody ridiculous.As if there is not enough to deal with.
And you're supposed to have bed rest/stay as still as poss (apparantly) after an amnio.I'll just bump alomng in the car for 2 1/2 -3 hours shall I?Great idea

So sorry it wasn't better news AB.

Thinking of you tomorrow AB. Hope you have an OK journey to Auckland and back. X