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Pamela thread 5 - Bile Duct Cancer, chemo begins

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WilsonMilson · 12/07/2023 15:51

New thread - can hardly believe it!

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Pansypotter123 · 12/07/2023 20:35

Amazing updates. Thank you for sharing. I hope you have a restful night and that the chemo gets to work on your body! Lots of love xxx 💕

FatCatatPaddingtonStation · 12/07/2023 20:41

Another lurker delurking. I have followed your threads from the start and I am in awe of your optimism, fighting spirit and faith in goodness and humanity. You also write beautifully and paint pictures with your words. I think you are incredible.

Jmaho · 12/07/2023 20:57

Gettingonabitnow · 12/07/2023 19:28

Hi Pamela. I’ve read all your posts and I’m rooting for you every step of the way. One of the biggest things that’s struck me is just how much private health care has played a part in all of this. As a mum of two little ones it’s made me think about a private healthcare plan - and I say that coming from a family of NHS workers! If you’re able, are you willing to share what type of plan you are / were on? All the best of love and luck. Also - you still look very glam! Xx

I totally agree. The difference between the care she has received in Belfast and now is incredible. I'm so glad she had the option to go to London. I am definitely going to start looking into private health care for myself and my family. We've had a very recent cancer diagnosis in our family and I so wish we had private health insurance so we could go down that route. The NHS care so far has been OK ish but very slow and frustrating

PoliticallyIncorrectHitchling · 12/07/2023 20:57

Good luck Pamela

HelpIcantfindaname · 12/07/2023 21:03

I'm glad your chemo went well.

I remember the steroid nights well. I'd be really tired after chemo, then as soon as we went to bed I'd be talking non stop. I'd get up & tidy or change the furniture around downstairs.

I hope your pain team managed to help today, & you have a much better night.

Sending love & strength.

Photo of my Daisy Dog when she was a puppy 8 years ago. Xx

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herbaceous · 12/07/2023 21:07

How you write so eloquently amid the maelstrom of everything you're going through is astonishing.

I'd been fretting about where you'll be staying, etc. Are you still at the private gaff for the time being?

stellaRey · 12/07/2023 21:16

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loulouljh · 12/07/2023 21:16

I love the idea of Pamela the pony! Hope the other Pamela has a restful night...x

Lookitaahhh · 12/07/2023 21:17

It’s lovely to hear you sounding so positive today-I really felt for you when I read your earlier update. Am here cheerleading for you all-go team Pamela!!! ❤

Missingmyusername · 12/07/2023 21:18

Those last few updates were a scary roller coaster, felt like you were losing hope and clearly in excruciating pain. I’m so sorry you’re suffering, you are so brave, I know you probably don’t feel like it but you are.

Lovely photo of you both at the end of the last thread. I’m so glad you opted to have your treatment, again so brave.

Keep fighting, stay strong.

StartupRepair · 12/07/2023 21:33

Cheering you on Pamela (and Kerr). There's a chink of hope in your post which is beautiful to see. Keep slaying!

Pegsmum · 12/07/2023 21:34

A lovely update Pamela, thank you for keeping us posted. The welcome you received back at your hospital made me smile, you are obviously a lovely patient! I hope you managed to enjoy some takeaway and fingers crossed for a more restful night than the last. Faith, hope and love x

Devgov · 12/07/2023 21:36

Pamela your update is the best news I’ve heard all day, so pleased you’re feeling more positive now. The photo of you and Kerr is fabulous, how you manage to look so glamorous going through all your treatment is amazing!
Enjoy your takeaway and hope you have a peaceful night.
Faith love and hope ❤️
love Lynda xx

Orangebadger · 12/07/2023 21:37

CrotchetyQuaver · 12/07/2023 18:56

I am so glad to read you're feeling more positive Pamela. You're right, you have nothing to lose, and you have held in so far, managing to look glamorous and beautiful. I am in awe.

Here is a picture of my New Forest pony filly foal, I have waited 12 long years to get a girl from one of my mares!

Still to choose a name for her, I am considering making an exception to my usual has to begin with a H and naming her Pamela in your honour xx

Pamela would be lovely ❤️❤️😍

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WilsonMilson · 12/07/2023 21:40

Well, I never thought I’d have someone consider calling her beautiful foal after me, but I love it! Along with all the animal pics, the tales of cancer inspiration often accompanying them, the check ins, the sheer level of willing and spitting me on. It’s almost tangible, honestly, I feel it. We had a little walk down the corridor to try to help the leg swelling and general inability to walk far. Was shattering, but managed out to the patio area for a seat and back. Amazing Kerr (he’s going to get well deservedly big headed) is currently massaging my legs toe to thigh to try to help the odema a bit. I’m lying on the bed and he was working away and the doctor walked it. Thankfully she knew we were not up to any funny business - which is exactly the last thing I think either of us would even think of right at this point. Operation fluid be gone is in motion. God I hope I sleep, it’s about now the fear creeps in.
We had a Thai takeaway, was quite nice but my taste is a bit off and I can only eat little bits at a time, so I’m the slowest eater in the world. Good change though. Jacob is SO HAPPY that I had the first chemo, he feels like the fight has truly begun. Going to FaceTime him and mum soon.

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Littlemissprosecco · 12/07/2023 21:43

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namechange998 · 12/07/2023 21:44

I haven't commented before but have been following your story from the start. Here are some pictures of my delphiniums. I never thought I would be the sort to take photos of my plants but here we are. I am proud to have managed to grow something and they are such beautiful and unusual colours. I hope tonight is easier on you x

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Thatwouldbeme · 12/07/2023 21:49

Keep checking your updates, your are doing so well, keep strong and you are in so many of our thoughts

SlightlyJaded · 12/07/2023 21:50

Evening Pamela

Was about to start watching a film with DDog (DH has already fallen asleep and both DC out being 'teens') but something made me press pause and check in with you. The fact that you even ordered and attempted a take away is a world away from how you were feeling four days ago. I know you have a long battle ahead and that nothing is promised, but my goodness London was the right move.

I have so much hope for you now. Cheering you on and sending love to you and your lovely family, from West London - so not a million miles away... x

Mixedmixed · 12/07/2023 21:51

Sending all the strength and positive thoughts & prayers your way. Hope tonight is better for you x

Lougle · 12/07/2023 21:55

That's fantastic news. Planning step by step is definitely a good way forward. Don't be alarmed if you don't sleep well tonight. Steroids are notorious for disrupting sleep.

HAVEnotOF · 12/07/2023 22:02

Hope tonight is a better night x

StellaJohanna · 12/07/2023 22:06

That's our girl , Pamela! Keep moving forward!

You're looking beautiful.
Prayers are sent up this evening for you, Kerr, Jacob and Mum.
This is the East coast tonight.

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sayitkindly · 12/07/2023 22:07

Hoping you and Kerr manage a good nights sleep tonight. Glad you had something to eat tonight and a little walk. I continue to hold you and your family in my thoughts. 🙂

Leafytrees · 12/07/2023 22:08

@CrotchetyQuaver your filly is GORGEOUS. She's just perfect, congratulations.

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