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Pamela thread 5 - Bile Duct Cancer, chemo begins

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WilsonMilson · 12/07/2023 15:51

New thread - can hardly believe it!

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Words · 14/07/2023 06:18

Good Morning Pamela

So glad to hear the pain is more under control. Hope you had a good night.

Pamela thread 5 - Bile Duct Cancer, chemo begins
Mylittlepea · 14/07/2023 06:27

So glad you are finally on the cancer munching chemo xxx
have been following still even though am now away for a few days. Sending you some beautiful nature from the Greek islands - one day soon you’ll dip your toes in the sea again x 💐🌻🌺

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Museya15 · 14/07/2023 06:33

Hi Pamela, hope you had an even better night last night!xx

Mummyoflittledragon · 14/07/2023 07:14

I hope you’re feeling ok today and are managing your symptoms and tolerating the chemo well. With any luck you’ve had a really good nights sleep. Thinking of you. Xx

Toothiepegg · 14/07/2023 07:20

Morning, just checking in. Thank you for the updates.

Love as always, Isabella xx

Iloveringos · 14/07/2023 07:24

Good morning Pamela and Kerr, hoping for a good day for you xx

HaveYouHeardOfARoadAtlas · 14/07/2023 07:25

Hope the discharge went smoothly yesterday and you’re settled at your friends house.

MonkeypuzzleClimber · 14/07/2023 08:04

Lovely Pamela, I hadn’t realised there was a new thread, and with not seeing the updates I was worried you were having a difficult time. So pleased to find you here and see you’ve started your chemo and are feeling positive. You really are an amazing woman.
Here’s a picture of our beloved ancient, one eyed cat making sure she’s my daughter’s best birthday present yesterday 😻

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uncomfortablydumb53 · 14/07/2023 08:06

Morning Pamela and Kerr
Were you discharged yesterday?
I hope you're comfortable at your friends
Much love
Judith in Wiltshire

WilsonMilson · 14/07/2023 08:08

Morning all. I am sending this from a very comfortable bedroom at my heaven sent friend’s house. She is an absolute gem of a woman, we have been friends for years. Although she is quite a bit older than me, we have always been on the same wavelength and talk a few times a week. The house is so calming and peaceful, very elegant and yet incredibly welcoming and homely. I’m glad to be here. Kerr is in a bed next to me - we had a twin or double option, and given my current needs we thought twin beds right next to each other were the ideal solution. We also have an en suite, honestly we are so blessed. I don’t want to out my friend by name without her permission if you don’t mind, but safe to say she is a wonder. She made the most delicious chicken soup for me last night which is exactly what I can eat just now. It’s very difficult to eat actual meals with lots of chewing and effort and resultant painful bloat and lack of capacity. So we try little and often.

As for my health, well I can’t lie, I feel like total shit. Less of the terrible night time ‘please just kill me’ pain, which is good, but I’m just SO SWOLLEN from boobs (oh they have fully disappeared) down. 5 years pregnant and carrying on both front and back, bum has gone, but odema on hips awful. Legs so painfully swollen - raising then and doing massage, can only walk a few steps but trying to push myself a bit. Have to walk upstairs here and it takes forever and leaves me breathless and exhausted, but I think it’s good for mento keep doing that.
Chemo affects starting to hit - too exhausted to hold a conversation a lot (writing here actually easier). Shaky and weak all the time. No hair fall yet, but desperately need to wash my hair, dry shampoo can only go so far and I feel disgusting. On bed baths because of the bag and general exhaustion (thanks Kerr). Brain feels a bit fried and I’m not sharp and switched on as much, I’m making lists so I don’t forget things. Still jaundiced which is totally freaking me out and no doubt adding to all the physical feelings, trying not to have too high expectations from one chemo, but keep waiting for a sign (less yellow) that things are going in my favour. Feeling emotionally very up and down, I can go from positive ‘yeah, let’s kick cancer’s ass, to ‘how can endure another day of this torture’ in an hour or less. It’s not so much good and bad days as good and bad hours. We take the good when it comes, which is more consistent when my pain is manageable,
The lining of my mouth seems to have sort of peeled in the last couple of days which is making things again a bit tricky. Not sure if it’s chemo mouth or oral thrush from all the endless antibiotics.

So, yesterday we left the hospital at around 3.30pm with a host of medicine to last 2 weeks. We have had to temporarily register with a GP near my friend in order to get repeats of things I’m going to run out of. That’s been surprisingly tricky and they haven’t been the most helpful, but I think we have got there.

Kerr is still sleeping beside me, bless him he is exhausted. I don't want to wake I need him to get my morning meds in though and I’m kind of stuck in this position until he helps me up. I need especially the MST which is slow release morphine. I try to keep the timing a really accurate for that am and pm so as to have no possible breakthroughs. I have the rest with breakfast as some are hard on the stomach. I find that the 20mg MST twice a day with a top up of 5ml liquid oramorph and 2 paracetamol just before bed does seem to help a lot pain wise. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not a cure all, but it allows some sleep. 2 x laxido or equivalent sachets seems to keep things moving reasonably. I have so many other pills to take that it’s quite scary. But, strange times call for these strange measures and I’m doing what I’m told - which is not like me at all, but none of this shit is like me.

Wheelchair being delivered today at some point - was easy to order one online, took it for 2 weeks for now. Grateful for a solution to get outside.

Thanks again for your pics, animals, flowers, beautiful children - especially your beautiful smiling survivor of cancer, so precious. For your prayers, compline, thoughts, landscapes. Basically for just being here and reading my meandering thoughts. Your good wishes for Kerr, Jacob and my mum. Jacob and my mum are always in contact, always willing me on, FaceTiming.

So, let’s see what today brings. ❤️

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Star0Fire · 14/07/2023 08:14

You're so brave and strong, I admire you and am rooting for you from Yorkshire. Your friends home sounds lovely and she does too

Sewingdufus · 14/07/2023 08:15

Good morning. What a wonderful friend! I’m glad you have a haven and you can get some quality rest. Love and prayers to you and yours xx

SquirrelSoShiny · 14/07/2023 08:20

I'm glad you're somewhere nice Pamela, just keep on top of the pain meds x

Willmafrockfit · 14/07/2023 08:20

lovely to hear about your friend
try natural yoghurt for the possible thrush

hope and faith Flowers

meisafairy · 14/07/2023 08:22

Lots of love and healing thoughts xxx

OnTheRunWithMannyMontana · 14/07/2023 08:23

Your friend sounds wonderful, I'm so glad you are in a place of comfort to give you that much needed rest.

As for the hair washing - I am disabled and have periods of time where I'm too weak for the shower or bath so have used these before... may be an option for you and relatively cheap too.

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Also totally understand about feeling bad to have to wake Kerr for your meds. I can't take mine until DH gets up to help me dress and get downstairs so I get that feeling too. Can you have some on your bedside table so you can just take them when you wake?

As always I am keeping you all in my thoughts and sending love and light ❤️

Here are some gentle head bumps from Alfie cat (B&W) and Cathy (black cat who was diagnosed with cancer last week and having palliative care) xx

Captainhook3 · 14/07/2023 08:24

Good morning. So great to hear about your wonderful friend. You reap what you sow in terms of friendships.
Every hour seems like a rollercoaster for you now and I pray that you continue to find the strength to ride it out until you start to feel better again.
We are all here with you every step of the way
xxx

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HelpIcantfindaname · 14/07/2023 08:25

Good morning Pamela,
Your friend sounds like an absolute angel. It's so much nicer to be 'home' rather than hospital....they are such busy places it's hard to rest properly.

Maybe Kerr could set an alarm for your meds, then it's not you actually waking him.
It's good that your pain is under better control but a shame there isn't a drug to take it away completely.
Sending a photo of my Daisy dog at the beach.
And sending lots of love & strength. Xx

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daisychain42 · 14/07/2023 08:29

Good morning Pamela, you really are a warrior queen. Wake Kerr, he can doze again once you have had your meds. I am imagining you sending a huge army into battle. Guess who is going to win?

Rainbow1901 · 14/07/2023 08:47

Good Morning Pamela

It's good to hear that you have settled in at your friends along with your shed load of medicines. That is a side effect of chemo - all those pills!! If it were possible you would think you could rattle!!
I'm glad too that you have a handle on the pain - it's all trial and error until you find something that works for you and then you can stay on top of it.
As for your mouth - do ask the doctor for a prescription - can't remember what I had now but it certainly helped. My local GP's receptionist was my angel in disguise when I needed extra meds or help - a phone call was usually all it took.
It will be 2 or 3 weeks before you'll notice any hair shedding but any little thing such as a hair wash that makes you feel a little more human is a positive thing.
You make looking good so easy if your pictures are anything to go by no matter how you may be feeling. Your smile says it all!! 🙂
Have an easy and restful day 🌻

Notaclue252 · 14/07/2023 08:47

Good morning Pamela, hooray for lovely friends! I’m including this little army here on MN too. All of us sending positive (pac-man shaped) energy your way.
You could try a warm salt water mouthwash to help with the mouth.
Faith, love and hope again from this small corner of Essex. X

Cornishclio · 14/07/2023 08:50

Lovely to hear from you and so pleased you have a nice friend to help take care of you. A support for Kerr too.

I love that you are being totally honest on here about what a crap disease cancer is and having a no holds barred journal is good for you to look back on at some point hopefully in the future and know you did everything you could to survive.

Keep talking to us so we can cheer you on when you feel up to it and I hope you manage to get outside today. I don't know what the weather is like in London but some exposure sunshine will surely help you feel better. Xx

StellaJohanna · 14/07/2023 08:52

HelpIcantfindaname · 14/07/2023 08:25

Good morning Pamela,
Your friend sounds like an absolute angel. It's so much nicer to be 'home' rather than hospital....they are such busy places it's hard to rest properly.

Maybe Kerr could set an alarm for your meds, then it's not you actually waking him.
It's good that your pain is under better control but a shame there isn't a drug to take it away completely.
Sending a photo of my Daisy dog at the beach.
And sending lots of love & strength. Xx

This is Blue Merle isn't she? What a gorgeous dog.

StellaJohanna · 14/07/2023 08:53

HI Pamela,
Your friend sounds like a real blessing. Thinking of you and Kerr.

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