Hand hold - DH likely to die in next few days

[Bahemoth]

My DH went to hospital a month ago with seizures that wouldn’t stop. He was resistant to all medication so they had to put him in an induced coma on ICU to try and stop them and reduce swelling on the brain. This last option hadn’t worked, as they don’t know the underlying cause for the seizures and they’ve now told me he’s unlikely to survive.

We have two young children and I’m not sure how I can face life without him or how I would break the news to DS9 when the time comes. My other child is 4. I’m in bits, he’s only 39 and was fit and healthy before this.

I'm also so sorry you are going through this and I'm sending you my deepest sympathy. I hope you have a good support network of family and friends around you. Cherish these last, precious moments with your husband, and try to be as honest as you can with your children. I will add my voice to others to encourage you to ensure your children get the opportunity to spend time with their dad and to say goodbye when the time comes. Be sure to include them in everything, including the funeral if that is what they want. They may seem too young now, but I promise they will thank you for it when they are older. Accept all offers of help, even when you don't think you need it! Lots of love to you all xxx

So very sorry that you are going through this. Nothing to add to the excellent advice already given but I wanted you to know you are in my thoughts.

Holding you and your children in my thoughts

So very sorry this is happening to you. 💐

So sorry. Sending love and strength to you, your family and your husband's family

I'm so sorry for what you're going through,OP.

My advice is to talk to your dh as much as you can, My dh died a few months ago and I am so thankful that I was able to spend time with him in his last few days. I told him I love him so much, that he will live in my heart forever and I thanked him for all the love he gave me. I said we would all be OK, that. I would cope and be there for our dc. I am sure he heard me even though he seemed unconscious. I went on talking to him for a little while after he died as well.

I will hold you and your dc in.my thoughts.

Handhold ❤️

https://www.childbereavementuk.org/when-someone-is-not-expected-to-live

so sorry to hear your news op. Child Bereavement Uk have so much useful advice and support. They were a life line for us when we needed them.

I'm so sorry OP, I can't imagine how difficult this is. Sending you love and strength 💐

Sending a prayer and a virtual hug 🩵

I’m so sorry, it’s an awful situation to be in.
Lots of great advice and links from pps. In time get all the support you can for yourself and your children, it does help. 💐

Sending you lots and lots of love, and I'm so very sorry💕

That's absolutely tragic.

So sorry for him, you, your children and your Husband's family.

I lost my Mum as a young child {Physical Illness} - It hurts.

Life can be so unfair.

There are no words. So sorry and sending every best wish and sympathy to you and all the others who have lost someone so young.

Life is so cruel sometimes. I'm glad you have support.

I'm sure your Husband heard you.
What a poignant and beautiful message.

My deepest sympathy for you and your children OP, I am so sorry you are going through this

I am so sorry and thinking of you xxx

I went through this with my girls, it's the worst and all my thoughts are with you and your DC's.
Speak to him, let him know you are there and also to the teams at the hospital.
We have hand prints framed which the ICU team did for us

Holding your hand @Bahemoth , one foot in front of the other. A second for WAY, my sister found them amazing when she lost her husband.

Sending you strength OP 🩷

I'm so sorry.

I don't really know what is helpful to say. Life can be so unfair.

I can only imagine the turmoil and emotions you are experiencing right now. I hope you have enough support around you. Sending much love and hugs to you all 🫂🫂🫂🫂🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍

I'm so sorry OP. Life can deal some horrible unfair hands. I had to break similar news to my children, though they were a little older. I found just straight honesty was best. If you have a little time, the hospital should have some resources to support you with talking to your children.