Hand hold - DH likely to die in next few days

[Bahemoth]

My DH went to hospital a month ago with seizures that wouldn’t stop. He was resistant to all medication so they had to put him in an induced coma on ICU to try and stop them and reduce swelling on the brain. This last option hadn’t worked, as they don’t know the underlying cause for the seizures and they’ve now told me he’s unlikely to survive.

We have two young children and I’m not sure how I can face life without him or how I would break the news to DS9 when the time comes. My other child is 4. I’m in bits, he’s only 39 and was fit and healthy before this.

I'm so sorry for you and your family OP. no help but sending you a virtual hug x

My goodness I’m so very sorry.

This is awful, life can be so cruel. I'm so sorry for what you're going though. My prayers for a miracle are with you 🙏🏼💔

Oh sweetheart :( much love to you xxx

Might not be appropriate for your youngest but consider letting your eldest DS go and say goodbye (if there really is no chance of survival). The wife of my DH's friend died last week and their children went to say goodbye, just before she died. They are all older but the youngest is still only 11. It helped them.

I'm so sorry that this is the card you've all been dealt.

This is just horrendous, I have no words, sending you and your family lots of love.Life is so cruel and unfair.

Im so sorry this is happening to you, its a very scary place to be.
Ive been there, and telling my child was the second hardest thing Ive ever done in my life behind the funeral.
The only thing you can do is what you feel is right, but I urge you to be honest and open. Some advice I was given is that children have active imaginations and if they ask a question and you arnt honest then they will fill the gaps and what they fill it with could be worse. They will more than likely mask, we're 2 years in and have still had no tears. Use the child bereavement resources when the time is right but for now include them in saying goodbye and be honest. Sending you love and strength at this time, you will cope, even when you think you cant, you will x

I'm so sorry. It's just a horrific time for you all. You will get through this as unbearable as it seems. Do it miniute by Minute.
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I'm so sorry, what an awful time for you & your children. I echo what other have said re being honest & open with kids, say whatever you need to say. I have worked in ICU & they'll do absolutely everything they can for your DH..
Thoughts are with you...life is so precious & it's a stark reminder to us all.

I'm so terribly sorry. I wish I could be of more use than that.

Praying for you all

I am so sorry to hear this. It must be very frightening. Take everything one step at a time and make sure you take time to look after yourself as well. I would like to pray for your husband, you and your family if you are okay with this, and ask my church to pray. Please let me know if that's okay.

Hand hold from me.

Will keep you all in my thoughts.

Hi OP, words escape me and there is nothing that will lessen the emotional rollercoaster of what lies ahead. Even though this is primarily your journey, you need to gather as much emotional support as possible to get you through.
The advice given by others re accessing Winston's Wish for the kids is right.
As incredibly surreal and torturous as it is, your children will need to be prepared.
Please seek their advice. Moment by moment. Please take care of yourself as best you can.

Sending best wishes to your family.

I'm so sorry to hear that @Bahemoth , is it encephalitis? Sending you best wishes, hope you do get a miracle.

Sending love to you and your family. I hope your husband pulls through this 🙏

We are here for you

OP I'm so sorry.

My husband also had seizures and passed away a couple of days after his 40th birthday. My boys were 5 and 8 at the time... so I've a bit of an idea of what you're going through.

Much love x

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So so sorry to hear this. What a terrible shock, life is horribly unfair. Please take all the help and support offered and be very kind to yourself.

I am glad you have your sister with you. This must be such a shock I send you my best wishes and hopes for strength to go through the days and months ahead

Oh OP this is unbearably sad, I am so sorry for you and your children. Sending so much love and strength.

Sorry you and your family are going through this OP. Fingers crossed for a miracle.

This is heartbreaking, i’m so sorry OP ❤️