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Pamela thread 3 - Bile Duct Cancer, off to London!

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WilsonMilson · 05/07/2023 22:51

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daisychain42 · 06/07/2023 11:43

Hold on to your courage today Pamela. It must be very frightening. I am thinking of the biblical reading on faith, hope and love. You have the love, you have the hope of medical expertise, hold on to your faith, your destiny hasn't been written yet. Every time I am faced with a challenge I remember that I am a mother and that I need to be an example in how I handle myself during each event. You are such an example to your son on how to be brave, hopeful and assertive in everything that life will throw at him.

Jennalong · 06/07/2023 11:45

I'm not an overly emotional person but just want to say - I should imagine every person you have in your circle of Family and friends are very lucky to have you in their life , lovely lady.

Sweetashunni · 06/07/2023 11:50

daisychain42 · 06/07/2023 11:43

Hold on to your courage today Pamela. It must be very frightening. I am thinking of the biblical reading on faith, hope and love. You have the love, you have the hope of medical expertise, hold on to your faith, your destiny hasn't been written yet. Every time I am faced with a challenge I remember that I am a mother and that I need to be an example in how I handle myself during each event. You are such an example to your son on how to be brave, hopeful and assertive in everything that life will throw at him.

Fantastic post and I agree with every word x

Daisychainsandglitter · 06/07/2023 11:51

Pamela sending you love and strength for your operation tomorrow. I'm praying that the outcome for you is positive so that you can start your chemo.
I'm so pleased you're now in a place where you a being well looked after and there is a plan in place.
You, Kerr and Jacob are in my thoughts. Lots of love to you all xxx

sunglassesonthetable · 06/07/2023 11:54

Onwards 🌠🚀

frecklejuice · 06/07/2023 11:55

It sounds like this hospital are really on the ball and giving you everything they think will help.. If you can’t face going for food how about borrowing a wheel chair and getting Kerr to take you out for a nice walk? Regents Park isn’t too far and you can grab a drink and watch the world go by, get out for a tiny walk if you fancy it or just stay in the chair.

Thats just an idea, sorry not telling you what to do!! xx

loulouljh · 06/07/2023 11:56

Bupa can take while to get through to which will explain the time!!!!

I agree re looking back. There is a time to do that...it is not now. Reserve your energy for the positive steps ahead. When everything is on an even keel then you can consider how to address what should have happened. There are some people who truly should be hanging their heads in shame...

Enjoy the lunch even if you cannot eat much of it! and the new flavour tea...!

Morticia27 · 06/07/2023 11:57

Hi, I have been following this and can only second what everyone is saying re your strength and courage.
At least things are happening now and you are in the right place.
Sending as much love and positivity to you and your family, stay strong xxx

Bobsbees · 06/07/2023 11:57

I don't feel I can add much to what else has been said, but just wanted to say that I am another who has been following your story and is willing you on with all my might. Hope is a precious thing. It feels that you finally have some after the horrendous ordeal that you have faced with such courage.

I know others have said this, but please do ask for help if Bupa don't cover everything. We would all love to help in what ever way we can. Cancer is so desperately unfair and you shouldn't have to shoulder this alone. Love to you all. xx

countrypunk · 06/07/2023 11:57

Excellent news Pamela. I'm so glad you have a plan with a fast-moving team who know exactly what they're doing.

Thinking of you often and sending all good things your way.

DollieBantrysPantry · 06/07/2023 11:59

Pleased to read its so much more positive for you and wish you all the best for the op tomorrow Pamela, hope too Kerr has sorted everything with Bupa so its one less worry 💕

Summer19 · 06/07/2023 12:04

Pamela well done I am thinking of you every day. Bupa will cover it, if it says it in your policy. Don't worry. Otherwise we will crowdfund it. You are in so many people's thoughts and prayers, I am so thankful it is all action now, you deserve it x

HarrisJu · 06/07/2023 12:04

Best wishes.
I really hope that you get some luck at last. X

LongTermLurker · 06/07/2023 12:05

Dear Pamela, I just want you to know that you've had a significant affect on my life over the last few weeks. I'm a stressy person, and I keep catching myself worrying or getting pissed off about something relatively inconsequential, and thinking how very lucky I am, not just that my worry is relatively small, but even just to be alive having the experience of worrying. I hope that makes sense!

I'm on holiday in Spain at the moment, and have been carrying you in my heart, looking at the beautiful sea, feeling the warmth of the sand, or gazing out to Africa and have been trying my best to send you the energy of every experience. I'm not a particularly woo person, but I do believe in the collective power of well-wishing.

I was also thinking of you trying not to feel bitter about the appalling (lack of) treatment you had, and totally get you not wanting to waste your precious energy on it. But if you find yourself caught by that wave, maybe you can channel it into powerful, protective anger. Anger can be such an enlivening emotion, and when steered by a steady and graceful hand (which you most certainly have) it can serve you and yours well. It's there to restore and protect the things that you value, which I imagine for you is your life and your lovely family.

Much love to you xx

Rainbow1901 · 06/07/2023 12:06

Bombard us all you like!! We are all rooting for you and are happy for any updates you feel able to give us. Your courage and optimism are inspiring!!
I hope you can find something to tempt your appetite as that will give you some energy and help you feel a little better. When you said local I had visions of you popping to the pub next door!! 🍸🍦🍻but hey whatever takes your fancy!! 😀

Brainstorm23 · 06/07/2023 12:07

You are amazing. I definitely wouldn't have had your strength to get to London. Onwards and upwards.

Pegsmum · 06/07/2023 12:07

Bombard away! We are here for you. x

Izzy24 · 06/07/2023 12:08

So glad to read your update Pamela. You may find the blood transfusions make you feel significantly better very soon. I hope so. Sending love along with the rest of Mumsnet ❤️

PhoenixIsFlying · 06/07/2023 12:18

Pamela, I can assure you your updates are most welcome. What a relief you have care at last. I live with my Mum she has Alzheimers and my 13 year old daughter on the edge of London. I am in the park at the moment walking the dogs. You are in my thoughts pretty much continually at the moment. Your courage and strength has blown me away.
Maybe at some point consider a go fund me page, I feel that anything we could do to help we would do gladly.
I hope the treatment starts to have positive effects soon. I am sure it will.
Sending so much love to you and your family ❤️ xxx

winteralready · 06/07/2023 12:23

So glad to hear your updates. Good luck and happy birthday for tomorrow. May it turn out to be the most positive birthday you've ever had 🤞🏻

Lougle · 06/07/2023 12:23

I'm so glad they're treating you well. Sorry that you need more extensive surgery, but if they can optimise you now (fluids, blood, etc.) then you'll do better afterwards.

Keeponkeepigon · 06/07/2023 12:25

Pamela, your update has made me extremely happy. I’m so pleased for you and can hear your positivity flowing through your words. It sounds like you are in the right place being looking after by the best people. Why don’t you order a takeaway tonight and enjoy it alfresco on the patio! Get Kerr to rustle up a candle and don’t forget a blanket for your knees. Sending you love and positive vibes.

PlanningTowns · 06/07/2023 12:27

I’ve been following your posts and haven’t been able to find the right words to respond.

Im so glad you are in the right place and being taken care of. I’m so sorry you’re not at home in beautiful Northern Ireland (don’t tell beyond though, they will all want to visit!).

Your braveness is inspiring, use your fire to get through the next few days. When the time is right battle the NHs trust, but not yet, that’s for another day.

my thoughts and well wishes are being sent your way xxx

DyslexicPoster · 06/07/2023 12:29

Absolutely everything crossed for you x

Iloveringos · 06/07/2023 12:29

Hope the phonecall to Bupa went ok and all is well. Enjoy your lunch, whatever you decide to have xx

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