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Pamela - Bile Duct Cancer (last thread pancreatic and liver)

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WilsonMilson · 30/06/2023 18:19

Hi everyone, I’ve created a new thread as I am overwhelmed to see that the last one is full. You have all filled me up with your hope and encouragement. I’m keeping going as long as I possibly can!!

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NuttellaAndPuppyLover · 30/06/2023 21:54

Still here with you. You're absolutely gorgeous and have a beautiful smile.

Still praying. And still wishing cancer would fuck off!

guestusername · 30/06/2023 21:55

Hi Pamela. Another stranger here! I couldn’t read nigh on 50 pages and not post and tell you how amazing I think you are. I lost my little brother 3 years ago to a different, but “rare for his age” cancer but your story about delays and pain really resonated with me. He was totally unable to eat or drink without a stent and so many times I had to advocate for him so hard, I’m sure that I made people cry (not deliberately!). But he was in pain and literally starving in front of us and it had to be done. However, our hospice were fantastic. Within an hour of me calling them, they were sat in our living room sorting everything out and sending me to the pharmacy with a handful of controlled drug prescriptions.

the stent will make so much difference to you. So will adequate pain relief. My thoughts are with you and your beautiful family ❤️

AnonyHB · 30/06/2023 21:58

So very sorry to read this, impossible to know what to say other than I’m so sorry and hope you can make the most of the time with your family ❤️❤️❤️

Coldbit · 30/06/2023 21:58

Hi Pamela, I'm so sorry this is happening to you. You sound such a lovely person and your family photos are beautiful. Sending you all best wishes from Glasgow xx

Sunmachine · 30/06/2023 22:00

I’ve just come across your thread and wanted to wish you love and strength. Hoping that you can start treatment very soon and feel a bit better x

FabFitFifties · 30/06/2023 22:00

I hope you have a restful night Pamela,and I will be thinking of you and your boys. ❤️

FlamingoQueen · 30/06/2023 22:04

You have such a beautiful family. Thinking of you and sending gentle hugs x

wineoohh · 30/06/2023 22:05

I have been following your threads and am just delurking to send you and your family lots of love and hoping that things start to improve for you x

HelpIcantfindaname · 30/06/2023 22:06

Hi Pamela
I've only just come across your story for the first time & have just read all of your posts. You are a remarkably courageous lady.

I am so sorry you are going through all this, & sorry for how fast it has spread, & the medical delays.

I was diagnosed with Stage 4 bowel cancer in June last year. I'd put off sering the gp as I thought it was just my IBS getting worse. I also felt like it took a long time to the start of treatment, but my cancer isn't aggressive & hasn't spread fast. I had 6 months of chemo, then a bowel resection. My liver mets are spread all over so inoperable but they are stable just now so I'm on a treatment break.

I totally understand the fear of leaving loved ones to have to cope without you. My husband is amazing, but he lost his last wife to breast cancer 12 years ago, it's so awful for him to have to go through it all again. My youngest daughter is just 14, my stepson is 16. I also have 3 grown up children, 10 grandchildren & 3 great grandchildren. My family are everything to me.

I will be thinking of you & your family lots. And I'm sending you lots of love & strength. Xxx

Letsgoforaskip · 30/06/2023 22:12

Sending so much love to you and your beautiful family. Your love and pride in them shines through. So sorry you’re all going through this ❤️

allmyliesaretrue · 30/06/2023 22:15

Pamela, I know when my mum got proper medication, she felt so much better. She didn't think to begin with she would even get chemo, and I remember like it was yesterday the day the oncologist said that he would treat her! She was so elated, it gave her so much hope!! She bought expensive handbags for herself, me and my sister in a lovely shop that used to be on the Lisburn Road in Belfast! She loved bags and purses and had stopped buying them as she reckoned she wouldn't be there to use them.

The oncologist also showed her a pile of case files where treatment had worked for people. It's so important to hold on to hope xx

Brunonononooo · 30/06/2023 22:15

Hello Pamela, I don’t have much to add but wanted to send all my best wish from Manchester to you and your lovely family. Really hope that you can get a treatment plan in place soon. Kirsty x

Bs0u416d · 30/06/2023 22:21

Nothing to add except love and hope to you and your family xx

morelippy · 30/06/2023 22:21

Isn't cancer such an utter utter bitch. Picks on the best.

Much love to you Pamela xx

pontipinemum · 30/06/2023 22:23

What you are going through sounds so incredibly tough. I'll probably sound crazy but I often talk to the little robins in my garden as if they are 'something' so I will ask them to drop a look in on you and help in any way they can x

Athen · 30/06/2023 22:24

Pamela, I’ve been a lurker on this forum for 7 years (since before my daughter was born) nothing has made me want to leave my comfort zone and post until now…

I recognise so much in your post from when my husband was suffering (also with bile duct cancer) last year. He was in so so much pain, the drugs you are on now didn’t touch it, he moved to Oxycodon and that helped immensely (although sometimes he still needed to take 3 tablets when the pain was at its worst). He went grey overnight (both hair and skin), became skeletal and I used to watch him breathing laboriously at night thinking that he looked how I expected someone at the end to look. The reason I am telling you all this is because now he’s just finished cooking me dinner, he’s back to office a few days a week, back to enjoying a glass of wine with me on a Friday night - in short, after a lot of treatment, he’s back to how he once was despite there being a time both he and I could never have imagined that. Never ever give up hope, no matter how bad things seem now, we are proof that they can get better… I’m thinking of you and praying for you and your family x

bunny2023 · 30/06/2023 22:24

Hi Pamela,
I just came across your story, you sound like such a brave and amazing lady.
I teared up looking at your beautiful family, you look so happy together.

I am so sorry your going through this, I really hope things get better for you.

I will say a prayer for your and your family.
Sending you all love, strength and gentle hugs.
Xxxxxxx

WhiskersPete · 30/06/2023 22:27

I have been following you since the beginning. You are an absolute queen.

Psalmbodytolove · 30/06/2023 22:30

Oh Pamela, I’ve been following your thread since the beginning but just wanted to comment and say I’m praying for you, I don’t know what to say other than that, but I really am praying ❤️

Aurea · 30/06/2023 22:32

Sending lots of love and hope to you from Scotland. xxx

Blueskiescoming · 30/06/2023 22:32

Never give up hope. You are a wonderful strong woman. Wishing you well x

Jasminesmellingcandles · 30/06/2023 22:39

Love, strength and hope to you and your beautiful family 💜

anewbook · 30/06/2023 22:42

Mumsnet at its absolute finest.

Just wanted to add strength, hope, hugs to all the others here tonight and am so sorry you are going through such an awful ordeal.

We are all here with you, holding your hand.

x

Goldbar31 · 30/06/2023 22:43

Thinking of you, gorgeous lady! Xxx

OnSecondThoughts · 30/06/2023 22:44

After reading this, I went into my room and spent 15 minutes praying for you, Pamela, and I'll keep on. ❤

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