Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Life-limiting illness

Mumsnet doesn't verify the qualifications of users. If you have medical concerns, please consult a healthcare professional.

Original poster

Pancreatic and liver cancer

1000 replies

WilsonMilson · 17/05/2023 22:49

Diagnosed today. I can’t believe it. I thought I had gallstones. The liver tumour is already 7cm, I can’t even remember what the pancreatic one was, it’s on the head of the pancreas. They did more CT scans to see further spread but I don’t have those results yet.
I just am in a blur.
My pain has been getting really bad the last few days and I’m worried this is it. I will have a meeting probably next week to discuss the plan for treatment -if any.

I’m not ready. I’m 45. I have a son and a lovely husband. I have elderly parents.

I’ve gone into hyper organisation mode. It’s madness really, but tonight I bought birthday cards for my son, husband and mum for the next 4 years. I’ve been transferring money to different accounts to make it more accessible. I’ve emailed my son’s school, I’ve started writing to do lists.

My mum is flying in on Friday and will stay with me. I’m just so devastated and so sorry for my poor son and husband. I cannot believe this.

OP posts:
Thread gallery
17
loobylou10 · 18/05/2023 15:56

@WilsonMilson oh my goodness I'm so sorry. Life is so cruel. I wish you peace and love with your family. X

JackieQueen · 18/05/2023 16:45

I'm so very sorry op 💐x

Eurodiva · 18/05/2023 16:55

@WilsonMilson …Dear OP you are clearly and understandably in deep shock and feeling unwell and overwhelmed with fear . There is a lot that can be done to alleviate your pain and buy you time . Please don’t give up . You have been on my mind all day and I hope you get a treatment plan ASAP.💕X

Frazzled2108 · 18/05/2023 16:55

I am so sorry to read this. Thinking of you and sending lots of love and strength. ❤

gogohmm · 18/05/2023 17:13

Flowers. Thinking of you and your family

uncomfortablydumb53 · 18/05/2023 17:25

I'm so sorry sending you and your family love and strength Flowers

spuddel · 18/05/2023 17:31

I am so, so sorry to read this. How cruel life can be. I will keep your kids in dh in my prayers for sure. Know that you have done a wonderful job here and the love you created and shared never dies. Praying for a miracle.

familyissues12345 · 18/05/2023 17:40

Your last post gave me goosebumps Sad

Thinking of you all x

Nousernamesleftatall · 18/05/2023 17:42

I am so sorry. ❤️❤️❤️

AndClementine · 18/05/2023 17:53

I’m so sorry. Sending you and your family much love.

DollieBantrysPantry · 18/05/2023 17:55

So so sorry OP 💐

Motnight · 18/05/2023 17:59

I am so sorry, Op.

Friarclose · 18/05/2023 18:00

This thread has freaked me out so much. This poor, poor, woman. Imagine going from having a stomach ache and dodgy poo to dying within a couple of days. Life is just so random and cruel. This is everyone's worst nightmare. I feel so sick for this lady. I'm so sorry @WilsonMilson you deserve so, so much better. Heartbroken for you.

sunsunsunsunx · 18/05/2023 18:06

Oh @WilsonMilson I am so sorry to read this. I really hope you are okay and sending prayers for you family xxx

SparkyBlue · 18/05/2023 18:07

I am so very sorry to hear this. Sending love and prayers

midnightblue12 · 18/05/2023 18:12

Oh OP I am truely so sorry and sad to read your post.
Sending you love and comfort and prayers for your boys 🥺♥️

99redballoons123 · 18/05/2023 18:14

I'm so sorry. Sending strength to you all x

Fandabedodgy · 18/05/2023 18:17

So very sorry and thinking of you and your family X

Blackoutbeans · 18/05/2023 18:21

I am so incredibly sorry to read this, I pray for strength for you and your family.

Haveallthesongsbeenwritten · 18/05/2023 18:25

WilsonMilson · 18/05/2023 06:17

i haven’t slept all night. I keep thinking if I had just followed it up last year and pushed for more tests when I first got sore and got fobbed off with gastritis. I could have caught it much sooner.

As it is, a 7cm liver secondary tumour is very big, let alone as a primary. I’ve really gone downhill in health and up in pain even in the last few days and I’m very very very scared by the speed of the progression. I know I need to sleep but I’m in hyper overdrive and simply cannot settle. I fall asleep for 10 mins and jump awake again.

I just want to start any treatment as soon as I can. I wish so much it had been found earlier, I have so much I want to do with my family, me and my husband have so many plans, my son is just 17. He hugged me today and he never does that. We haven’t told him yet, though he knows I’m ‘having some tests’. He knows something is up. God I cannot believe this.

I am honestly so sorry to hear. I know someone who had pancreatic cancer and i know this is very difficult to go through. Have you got lasting power of attorney in place? That way your husband can take any decision for you in the future when you are unable to. I know its not fun but as you said you were organising yourself.
big hugs x

Screwedupworld · 18/05/2023 18:28

I'm so sorry OP. Sending you and your boys lots of support and prays. Thinking of you and your family xx

deltablue · 18/05/2023 18:53

Wilson, terrible to read your last message. We virtual friends are all sending everything we can by way of love, support and prayers,

NowZeusHasLainWithLeda · 18/05/2023 19:07

You poor strong beautiful woman. So sorry to read your latest update. Thinking of you and yours.

Bluemat · 18/05/2023 19:14

@WilsonMilson I have posted on your other thread. I hope you can come back to this post just to vent to everyone here who is rooting for you.

You have been in my thoughts since you started your other thread, I've just had a recent experience with a family member and your posts have taken me back.

Sending you so much love 💕

waistchallenge · 18/05/2023 19:24

I'm sending my prayers for you and your boys.

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

Join Mumsnet Log In
This thread is not accepting new messages.