Storm Part 3 (for partners of people with cancer)

[Willowkins]

Continuing the thread, mostly supporting partners of people with cancer - just in case it's needed.

The previous thread is here

[Title edited by MNHQ at OP's request]

Thinking of you @2Old2Tango, lean on those who love you.

Hope everyone's treading water !

I've just come back from a two week cruise with DS and I'm doing really well, I'm working, going out, enjoying life but every now and then something comes from aside and knocks you off. This one was a bloody Elvis tribute, sat in the ships theatre watching a really good 'Elvis' with bloody tears pouring down my face ........

Well firstly well done you and your DS getting out there and rediscovering your life.

Do you mind me asking, what do you think it was about Elvis that awoke your grief?

I don't actually know ! My DH didn't like him particularly- was more a RUSH sort of guy 🤣🤣. I did love Elvis (so much so as a child I had a life size poster of him on my bedroom wall and the night he died I was In floods of tears - but fine the next day) it wasn't any particular song - I pretty much cried the whole concert - glad it was In the dark. I've seen a few tributes over the years and always been ok, was most bizarre

I've cried at concerts. I think for me it was being so aware of the emptiness in the noise and dark. It doesn't have to make sense though.

Hi all,

Please can I join your thread? My DH died 5 weeks ago and I have two fairly young children

Yes of course. Have you got real life support as well?

Of course @Jollyoldholiday I'm so sorry for the reason you're here. Would you like to tell us about him?

Welcome @Jollyoldholiday

Horrible place to be but we're here with you x

Thanks everyone.

I do have real life support as well x

He was so kind and funny and such a great Dad. He loved being outdoors and walking and photography. I miss him so much

I have the joyous privilege of being on two cancer threads - one for me and this one for my DH. I have triple negative breast cancer, diagnosed in September and am recovering from surgery and awaiting chemo and radiotherapy.

Last Sunday my DH went into A&E with stomach pain and now has a diagnosis of pancreatic cancer. They are unable to operate but have said they will put in a stent to relieve the jaundice and then go for chemo to shrink the tumour.

As you can imagine we are both reeling from this and I have no idea how on earth we are going to get through this - it's utterly unreal and I'm really struggling at the moment.

So sorry you find yourself here @frostyfingers. This is a safe place to say how it is. It sounds like you're already going through a lot.

@frostyfingers you must be absolutely reeling at the moment

My DH has just been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. He’s having biopsies taken tomorrow.

Sorry you've both found yourselves here. It's a safe space - you can cry, shout, laugh and we will have your backs.

And hello @Gorgeoussnessly It's all such a blur to begin with.

Thanks for having me on here. I joined a Facebook page for pancreatic cancer but it was very frightening. I don’t recommend it. @frostyfingers .

My DH is having an endoscopic ultrasound with biopsies today. Neither of us has really slept.

Welcome @Jollyoldholiday you will find lots of support here.

@frostyfingers @Gorgeoussnessly my DP has this, stent but inoperable since 2019 he is still ok try not to panic and ignore the stats for now.

My DH had the endoscopy and biopsies taken this afternoon and I had to take him to A & E this evening. He was in pain, shivering and nauseous. The doctor at the hospital, I spoke to, said call 999 and tell them it’s an emergency. The call handler said it would be a 12 hour wait.

Anyway, he’s been admitted. He’s on a drip and is waiting for a CT scan.

Sorry to hear this latest news. There is such a lot to process. Have you had time to collect your thoughts?

@Gorgeoussnessly you must be very stressed has he had the scan yet? Have you had any sleep there at all?

He’s got pancreatitis, caused by the procedure. He feels really poorly. He’s on antibiotics, a drip and painkillers. Zero sleep for either of us.

Oh that sounds incredibly painful. Are you able to pop home for some rest once he has settled and the painkillers kick in. Adrenaline can only keep you going so long please take some time to yourself even if it's just a coffee or a sit in the car for half hour.

I echo @BloodyMaryisthetruth You need to take time for yourself. There's a chapel at our local hospital and I always find it a lovely place to just sit and be.