My DS has just told me he is trans and I’m not sure what to do. I’ve been an avid reader of the FWR boards for a while and this has blindsided me. I am gutted and don’t really know what being trans means if I’m honest. Apart from the obvious.
I don’t believe in the ideology and have strong feelings about the importance of biological sex.
He’s 18 and found it very difficult to tell me, has sworn me to secrecy (you are all I can tell) for now.
Apologies if this is disjointed. I am so upset but trying to be strong for him (pretend really). I don’t know what to do. Try and convince him it’s all nonsense, encourage a therapist or both of those?
Think I need someone to chat to about and some advice. I’m not sure I can do this. Thanks
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Don’t know what to do
WalterHWhite · 04/10/2023 22:07
IVFfirsttimer91 · 04/10/2023 22:14
The worst thing you can do is show or tell your child that you are upset about this and try to convince them it’s all ‘nonsense’. You might not ‘believe in it’ but being Transgender is a real thing, and they certainly believe it is.
What you need to do is support them, tell them you love and are proud of them, and when it comes down to it, back up their choice when it comes to a name/pronouns etc.
If you don’t you will push them away and it will cause a lifelong rift. This isn’t about you at all; and you just have to do what you’ve been doing for the last 18 years - love and support HER.
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