Trans Nephew

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Can anyone recommend a safe level headed organisation that can help with teenage Trans issues?
My nephew has reached out to me, I want to support him but need support and advice myself.

Why are you trying to socially transition someone else’s child? You’re playing a very dangerous game here. You’ve been colluding with him behind his parent’s back ffs! This is a boy in the early stages of puberty who sounds like has lots of issues, so no wonder he’s confused. You need to step back, perhaps read up around social transitioning, read up about how the Tavistock made some very poor decisions about this and that it sets what may well be gay or GNC children on a pathway of medical interventions that affect them for life.

I've just read this entire thread from start to finish. My heart broke when you revealed your nephew is only 12, not yet a teen. Poor wee boy lost his mum at a very young age and it sounds as though his dad and brothers are coping with that trauma in a very different way to him.

As others have said, social transitioning is not a neutral act and can cause lasting damage. It is not in the least supportive to pretend that he can ever be a girl or a woman. Trans is seen and sold as a universal panacea to all life's problems, but it does not solve trauma such as loss of a parent. Read Safe Schools Alliance and the interim Cass report on the subject.

And you have no right to trans someone else's child. That is not supporting your nephew, it's encouraging him to lie and hide things from his father. However, now his distress is out in the open, you have a great opportunity to really support the wee boy by sharing all the knowledge you've gained in the last six months with his father so he can understand how best to support his son with - first - dealing with his grief over the loss of his mum. Then dealing with other issues that are uncovered.

It is great that he has you on his side, but please be aware of the dangers of socially transitioning him.

This is a heartbreaking situation. It doesn’t sound like your BIL has handled this very well. But neither do I think buying make up was a great idea. I wouldn’t buy a 12 year old girl make up either.

Why are you calling your nephew a ‘poof’? That’s really unhelpful and offensive.

I think some grief counselling would help your nephew, but I’d do everything within my power to ensure the counsellor was not reinforcing regressive stereotypes. Boys are allowed to like ‘pretty things’. Your nephew can’t possibly know what ‘being a girl’ feels like. Girls who don’t like ‘pretty things’ are not boys.

Why are you calling your nephew a ‘poof’? That’s really unhelpful and offensive.

I imagine that's a typo for "poor", it would be extremely jarring otherwise.

Ah yes, that’s makes more sense, hopefully just an unfortunate typo.