My son is gay

[concernedmum10]

Hi I'm new to this group and need some advice/support please.
My 16 year old son has just told me he is gay but dies not want anyone else to know at the moment.
To say I'm shocked is an understatement, there has been no tell tale signs or anything and this has come out of the blue.
I have plenty of gay and lesbian friends and it is certainly no big deal however I am upset as I was not expecting this and his future as I expected has gone. I won't be a grandma ( he is an only child) I worry about him anyway but more so if he's gay due to the news we hear alot about homophobic assaults etc.
I can't seem to get my head round it and i am feeling really upset at the moment ( I have only known 2 days). I feel guilty for feeling like this as it doesn't change how much I love him ( in fact I think I might love him more if that's even possible)

I promised him I would not tell anyone and I will keep this promise but I need to offload aswell which is why I have joined here.
Sorry for the long post but I feel so low right now

Don't see what there is to be shocked about.

Your son has trusted you to tell you. It's a huge step but yes, you will need time to adjust. All I would say is support him. He is your son and you obviously love each other lots. As someone said re the grandparent part, nowadays that door is not necessarily closed to gay couples. Both Elton John and Ricky Martin have children with their husbands. At 16, your son needs your support more than anything right now. It will be ok OP, try not to worry. The future will take care of itself. I wish you both well.

And?

It was last year.

Who says you won’t be a grandma? My son came out to us days before his 14th birthday and still doesn’t want to tell anyone else yet. That’s their choice whenever they are ready to do that. Allow yourself to process what this all means for your son, it’s his life after all. You are understandably shocked at the idea of the life you thought you all would have won’t hw exactly how you imagined. But really it doesn’t have to be that different. So he won’t have girlfriends, but as long as he is happy and comfortable in his own life and his own body and knows he has a family that support him he is this not what is important? Talk to him, let him know you are always here for him. He’ll understand you would be shocked but don’t let him think it’s something that’s going to come between you x

Never mind