Put on the spot re: gf staying over...

[Noregrets78]

Not sure how I feel about this! DD is 16 and been chatting online to someone for a while, she's come over for the day today, first time they've met.
It's a 2hr journey home, and now she is concerned it's late to be travelling and DD would like her to stay over.
I feel hypocritical saying that's fine, when there's no way I'd let her bf stay if she was straight. I also feel annoyed I've been put on the spot effectively with no choice.
Grrr what to do.

No way! It’s very cheeky , the parents can come for her if they are not happy.

Would you let a man you had never met before sleep over?

It’s the meeting her for the first time today and springing it on you which make it an unreasonable request.

Say no but explain why and that in the future you may say yes.

@SunshineCake

Really *@FelicityPike**? . Teenage murderer? .

You never know! 😂

see what the parents say.

frankly i find this hard to believe Apparently her parents would prefer her to stay than travel back late
theyd rather their 16 yr old stayed with a stranger the first day theyve met rather than make arrangements for her to come home?

How old is she? If she's not 40 or something I would let her. You don't have to compare to what you'd do if it was a boy. There's no pregnancy risk and very low risk of physical intimidation.

Seriously?!

No. She goes home. Christ, your daughter has JUST met her. Why on earth did they think it was ok to stay the night?

It's not at all too late - it's 6pm!

Cheerfully speak to her parents and offer to meet halfway if they're concerned or just whack her back on the train and her parents can pick her up somewhere appropriate.

They haven’t met though - the chemistry could be way off when they do, or their online persona could be very different. They could be complete dingbat.

‘She’s not 40’ - she could be couldn’t she? Funny how her parents are cool with her travelling off to stay with possible axe murderers strangers.

What’s the problem with travelling through London?

It is 6.30pm and broad daylight

London is pretty quiet at the moment - well not as mad as usual.

Presumably she travelled to you through London.

I'd do as a PP suggested. She gets your daughter's room. Daughter gets the blow up. Too early in any relationship to be sleeping over in the same bed. I mean she just met her today, right?

I'd also take my daughter to one side and tell her no sneaking around in the night.

Or Uber ride home.

You know nothing about this girl/woman - not even how old she really is.

Her parents are apparently cool with her travelling 2 hours across dangerous London despite her having been 'picked on' in the past for her appearance, and staying the night with a total stranger who they also know nothing about.

If you're even considering this, you're as crazy as her 'parents' are.

i dunno why people are comparing it with having partners to stay - they only met today.

it is odd - surely the friend knew she'd have to travel back?!?! they might have cooked this up between them but id be pissed off.

How old is the girl? her parents let her travel from London to meet a stranger so I'm guessing shes older than your dd.

This is not about them being gay or 'partners'- it's about the fact that they only met for the first time TODAY.

So Not appropriate she stays over all. Needs to get her parents to collect her of get public transport home.

Why are you referring to a randomer off the internet as her "girlfriend"? She is a stranger she met for the first time today.

Do you know anything at all about internet safety?

Are you she's given you her parent's number...?

What time was she supposed to go home and why did she stay if she needed to get home.

I would be annoyed that your dd and this girl knew exactly what they were doing.

Your dd may want her to go home. She may en relying in you a sghe adult to make that decision..
So make it.
Sorry stranger girl you need to go home. If need be your dps need to collect you..
End of chat.

No way, nothing to do with sexuality but jut because she's a random off the internet.
Assuming she's the same age as your DD, her parents need to to pick her up.
Or she needs to leave now so she'll be home at a reasonable hour.
Or if you're kind you could drive her home, or at least somewhere it would be easier for her to get back from.
I can't believe you even think it's appropriate for her to stay in your house on the very first time any of you have even met her. Your daughter knows it's not, I bet. Your DD is out of her depth here and you need to step in an be assertive.

They've just met today!! She can't stay over!

This sounds outrageous.

What did the other parent say?

Are you sure this random person is who they say they are?

Safe guarding alarms going off yet OP?

I wouldn't allow this and I'd not appreciate being put on the spot like this. I'd also be concerned about my 16 year old meeting strangers online but I suppose that's a whole other topic.

So I'd say no to today. It's not late for her to be travelling back as I presume she managed ok travelling to you?