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Can I find out if someone is married...

74 replies

burninguphere · 29/07/2026 19:09

... Without asking them direct.

Please don't tell me to just use my words and ask the person concerned. That's not possible.

I know their name, date of birth and residential address. Is there any way to research this information online to find out if / when someone married?

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Hotcurrent · 29/07/2026 19:11

I am very curious!!

Hotcurrent · 29/07/2026 19:11

Facebook if they have an open profile

tartyflette · 29/07/2026 19:11

Unless you have a rough idea of the date of the marriage it would be a long, tedious task.

auntiemaryhadaredcanary · 29/07/2026 19:13

Is this a possibly recent marriage?

WhyDoesItAlways · 29/07/2026 19:14

Births deaths and marriages register? Think you need to know which local are you suspect they got married in.

Public Indexes: You can search the reference details through the General Register Office (GRO) or free transcription tools like FreeBMD.

principalskinna · 29/07/2026 19:19

Is use my words actually an expression?!!

Aviarythebird · 29/07/2026 19:20

No. There’s no central register of this in England. You might find a marriage certificate but that wouldn’t tell you they were still married. You can’t do a central search of divorces.
I guess you could hire a detective and they would probably be able to work it out.

helpfulperson · 29/07/2026 19:24

principalskinna · 29/07/2026 19:19

Is use my words actually an expression?!!

A very common one. Frequently used with screaming children.

MrsTerryPratchett · 29/07/2026 20:29

Unless you explain how this isn't stalking-adjacent, people probably shouldn't help.

MissMoneyFairy · 29/07/2026 20:31

Why do you want to know, who are they in your life.

burninguphere · 29/07/2026 21:14

MrsTerryPratchett · 29/07/2026 20:29

Unless you explain how this isn't stalking-adjacent, people probably shouldn't help.

I'm not stalking. I just want to know if they are married. Will related.

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burninguphere · 29/07/2026 21:16

auntiemaryhadaredcanary · 29/07/2026 19:13

Is this a possibly recent marriage?

I think they may have married about 10 years ago - a comment at the time made me think that - but don't know for sure.

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burninguphere · 29/07/2026 21:17

MissMoneyFairy · 29/07/2026 20:31

Why do you want to know, who are they in your life.

How does telling you that help me find the information?

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Pistachiocake · 29/07/2026 21:17

In Agatha Christie, didn't Miss Marple go to Somerset House? I realise things are not as well organised these days, so the modern equivalent probably won't work.

p0pple · 29/07/2026 21:19

Marriage records are public in the UK. You can search family history records and the electoral roll.

burninguphere · 29/07/2026 21:21

WhyDoesItAlways · 29/07/2026 19:14

Births deaths and marriages register? Think you need to know which local are you suspect they got married in.

Public Indexes: You can search the reference details through the General Register Office (GRO) or free transcription tools like FreeBMD.

Thank you

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auntiemaryhadaredcanary · 30/07/2026 03:50

burninguphere · 29/07/2026 21:16

I think they may have married about 10 years ago - a comment at the time made me think that - but don't know for sure.

You say you have an address, so try the Electoral Register.
Failing that, look on RightMove to find property prices for that street. It will tell you when the property was sold and how much for.

Then look on the Land Registry Website to see who owns it. You will have to pay for that.information but it is in the public domain.

Once you have that information you'll see if the name listed is different to the one you originally had.

GENUKI will give you further information but I think you need to subscribe to this service https://www.genuki.org.uk/

There are companies that trace beneficiaries of wills, but again you'll have to pay a fee and if the estate isn't large you may feel it isn't worth it.

Hotcurrent · 30/07/2026 06:08

For all posters know, they could be helping a stalker!

dscugie · 30/07/2026 06:29

Which country do you live in? Do they live in the same country?

burninguphere · 30/07/2026 10:24

Hotcurrent · 30/07/2026 06:08

For all posters know, they could be helping a stalker!

I already know their full name, DOB, address, who they live with / long term partner, cat's name, where they work ... if I wanted to stalk them (I don't). I just want to know if they are married. But thanks for your input.

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burninguphere · 30/07/2026 10:24

dscugie · 30/07/2026 06:29

Which country do you live in? Do they live in the same country?

England, same country.

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Hotcurrent · 30/07/2026 10:28

burninguphere · 30/07/2026 10:24

I already know their full name, DOB, address, who they live with / long term partner, cat's name, where they work ... if I wanted to stalk them (I don't). I just want to know if they are married. But thanks for your input.

Ok that just would indicate you are a successful stalker and nothing else!

burninguphere · 30/07/2026 10:32

Hotcurrent · 30/07/2026 10:28

Ok that just would indicate you are a successful stalker and nothing else!

I'm a successful stalker, AMA 😁

..... Well not really that successful, I haven't found out if they're married.

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Hotcurrent · 30/07/2026 10:35

burninguphere · 30/07/2026 10:32

I'm a successful stalker, AMA 😁

..... Well not really that successful, I haven't found out if they're married.

Getting closer though 😦

CurlyKoalie · 30/07/2026 10:55

You say this is to do with a will and presumably inheritance.
Usually, in the UK, inheritance passes directly to blood relatives, and the children of blood relatives, not their spouses/ partners. Anybody else who inherits usually has to be specifically mentioned by name in the will.
For example when my mum inherited a sum from a distant relative the share came to her, and was nothing to do with her husband. At the same time her brother was deceased, so even though his wife was still alive, his share of the inheritance was split between his children, missing out his wife.
So the the request for information on marital status does seem odd without extra information, especially as you seem to know so many other things about the person.
That's why other posters think it's a bit " stalker- ish"