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Can I find out if someone is married...

74 replies

burninguphere · 29/07/2026 19:09

... Without asking them direct.

Please don't tell me to just use my words and ask the person concerned. That's not possible.

I know their name, date of birth and residential address. Is there any way to research this information online to find out if / when someone married?

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ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 30/07/2026 20:58

burninguphere · 30/07/2026 10:24

I already know their full name, DOB, address, who they live with / long term partner, cat's name, where they work ... if I wanted to stalk them (I don't). I just want to know if they are married. But thanks for your input.

That’s a LOT to know about someone who you don’t know well enough to ask if they are married!

burninguphere · 30/07/2026 21:07

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 30/07/2026 20:58

That’s a LOT to know about someone who you don’t know well enough to ask if they are married!

I've never said I didn't know them well enough to ask. Did I? You just made that up.😂

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Blondeshavemorefun · 30/07/2026 21:15

Knowing all the info you know and that you know them - I can’t get why you don’t ask them

ask what they had for their first dance - or where they went on honeymoon

they will either give you a song or country or say we aren’t married

Choux · 30/07/2026 21:19

You say it’s will related OP. Has one of them died and this is related to what has happened to the estate?

burninguphere · 30/07/2026 21:34

Blondeshavemorefun · 30/07/2026 21:15

Knowing all the info you know and that you know them - I can’t get why you don’t ask them

ask what they had for their first dance - or where they went on honeymoon

they will either give you a song or country or say we aren’t married

My question was how to find out if someone is married without asking them.

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burninguphere · 30/07/2026 21:35

Choux · 30/07/2026 21:19

You say it’s will related OP. Has one of them died and this is related to what has happened to the estate?

My question was how to find out if someone is married without asking them.

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ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 30/07/2026 21:36

you must accept your stance is bizarre @burninguphere ?

WellQuite · 30/07/2026 21:39

There is incorrect and misleading information posted here about marriage and inheritance.

In the uk wives/husbands don’t automatically inherit,

Wrong. If there is no will a spouse does 'automatically' inherit under the intestacy rules. How much depends on the size of the estate and whether there are any children. It's complicated.

https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/family/death-and-wills/who-can-inherit-if-there-is-no-will-the-rules-of-intestacy/

If there is a will, it depends on what the will says as to who inherits and how much. A person does not have to leave anything to their spouse (although this could be open to challenge if their spouse was dependent on them ).

And there is no 'UK' law. The law of Scotland is different to that in England and Wales.

If OP is aware of an existing will or is making one herself in which this person X is a beneficiary then their marital status could be significant. If X inherits under the will and dies whilst married and without having made a will themselves then their estate passes to the spouse Y and any children A, B, C. If X is not married then any children A,B, C will inherit. If there are no children then X's parents inherit. If no parents, then X's siblings.

If X has made a will it doesn't matter whether they are married or not.

Perhaps the more important question for the OP is whether X has made a will.

Who can inherit if there's no will

Information on who can and cannot inherit if someone dies without making a will. Covers married couples, civil partners, children and other relatives.

https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/family/death-and-wills/who-can-inherit-if-there-is-no-will-the-rules-of-intestacy/

Choux · 30/07/2026 21:40

Choux · 30/07/2026 21:19

You say it’s will related OP. Has one of them died and this is related to what has happened to the estate?

I ask this because this might open up new ways of identifying if the person was married re the will being a public record.

however I will mute the thread now.

burninguphere · 30/07/2026 21:45

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 30/07/2026 21:36

you must accept your stance is bizarre @burninguphere ?

Calling out someone who makes things up is bizarre?

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ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 30/07/2026 21:47

burninguphere · 30/07/2026 21:45

Calling out someone who makes things up is bizarre?

Where have you stated you plan to “call them up” for making up they are married and why is it such a big thing to you?

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 30/07/2026 21:50

Oh is this an odd inheritance thing, where they can only get granny’s money if they are married and not if “living in siiinnnn” and you want to call them out and claim it all?! 🤔

Pw Scrooge GIF
burninguphere · 30/07/2026 21:59

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 30/07/2026 21:50

Oh is this an odd inheritance thing, where they can only get granny’s money if they are married and not if “living in siiinnnn” and you want to call them out and claim it all?! 🤔

If that were the case lawyers / executors would be doing the leg work to ensure the terms of the will were met. So, no, wrong scenario.

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ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 30/07/2026 22:04

burninguphere · 30/07/2026 21:59

If that were the case lawyers / executors would be doing the leg work to ensure the terms of the will were met. So, no, wrong scenario.

Am over invested now! 😆whhhyy is it an issue?!

Blondeshavemorefun · 30/07/2026 22:38

burninguphere · 30/07/2026 21:34

My question was how to find out if someone is married without asking them.

I know

but why don’t you want to ask them

inkgirl · 30/07/2026 22:43

Dont think you can due to GDPR i think. Its basically an Act that protects people's personal information. Unless theyve got it stated somewhere like facebook then I'm not sure there is a way

caringcarer · 30/07/2026 22:47

Look up on the free birth, deaths and marriages register.

WellQuite · 30/07/2026 23:57

To clarify my post above, there are three important questions. Whether X has made a will, whether X has got married and which came first.

But I think OP is aware of this because she asks not only how to find out if someone is married but also when.

Rondayvu · 31/07/2026 00:47

inkgirl · 30/07/2026 22:43

Dont think you can due to GDPR i think. Its basically an Act that protects people's personal information. Unless theyve got it stated somewhere like facebook then I'm not sure there is a way

No it isn't! Marriage certs are available to purchase online and you get a copy. They are a legally binding document and with enough information you only need to input same and get a copy of the cert if there is one. Same with birth and death certs. This is how bigamy can be proven.

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burninguphere · 31/07/2026 15:10

Thank you

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Rondayvu · 31/07/2026 17:49

@burningupherex I wish you all the best with your searches x

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