I dont even know where to start with its such a mess. I have a 8 and half month old. I start seeing her dad after my second marriage broke down to finding out my then husband had sa my older two daughters. Relationship with my babies dad was at first brilliant couldn't have asked for a better partner. When I was around 5 months pregnant thkngs began to slip. He would constantly bring my ex up who abused my girls saying yh he used to say you were like this or oh yh forgot he was a p*n star, you know where he is go to him etc. This would bring me into pure panic. Other things he would also start arguments all the time, he would go extremely moody if I turned him down for s . He would constantly complain about my older children not to them though just to me. Once baby was born it just got course. I felt extremely protective of her and was suffering with anxiety especially around anything happening to her or becoming ill. I would even have nightmares that my ex husband had come and taken her away it was awful. I had a mental health assessment and they said it was from the trauma of what had happen to my other daughters. Now given that babys dad knew this he would say things like if anything happens to her its your fault. When i was breastfeeding my daughter he would try to be sexual with me I told him to stop this was uncomfortable for me but then would try again. I would get things said like of course you are yours always sorting the baby out aren't you. He did not do any of the day to day care with her. He would keep me awake at night starting arguments called me all sorts of names in front of our baby and for my older children to hear. He was also drinking alot. After begging him on my occasions id finally had enough and told him I no longer wanted to continue the relationship. The police removed us from the house which was in his name being left homeless. We were put in a hotel. The abuse did not stop. In fact got a whole lot worse he threatened to hit my older sons myself and also said i should have aborted my daughter. Whilst we're im the hotel we were looking for places to live. Me and my older boys had a conversation around relocating to the area their father lives in. One of sons is autistic and needs alot of support and care and can be a struggle with now having the baby. Me and their dad have a good relationship. The only reason our relationship broke down was due to the life he lead at that time which was around drugs and drink. Their dad has now been completely clean for five years and works within recovery helping other addicts and has completely turned his life around and had been a good support to us since. We decided we would take which ever property we could first and if it wasnt in his area we would relocate later on. Anyway we got a property where we already were. The house needed work while this went on babys dad carried on abuse and refused to give me any of the childrens belongings so the police were called and they arrested him after seeing all of the evidence I had to back it up. I have never said he can not see his baby just that it needed to be supervised especially when it came out he had been using cocaine for 8 months behind my back and also the fact that he bad mouths his previous partner to his 8 year old also telling them thay they are ruining his life like their fat c*t of a mum. Hes family have had open access to her when ever they wanted. But bothered once. The older kids dad ended up taking time off work to help me sort the new house out. During this time we grew even closer and started a relationship with each other again. Baby still hadnt seen her dad no arranged contact. Fast forward to now. So he knows im in a relationship and is putting a pbs order in to prevent me moving when im ready. I have explained that its not straight away I feel like being in a new area will on a whole be better for the family support with my son I have started to build a strong support network there and I dont intend to move in with the kids dad we will live separately. I have explained that I want him to build a relationship with our baby and that every other weekend and school holidays would be ok and willing to facilitate transport also. Hes not interested in any of that. Also I find it hard to trust him as his other child's mother has no idea that he had been using cocaine whilst he son was in the house. I get he has a right to a relationship with his child and I really am not trying to prevent that and yes it is a 300 miles away. All im trying to do is make a better life for me and the children on a whole. I have no support network where I am whatso ever and dont like going out in fear I will bump into the ex that sa my girls or his family (court is still on going) its a very isolating and lonely life. I have employment opportunities also to the new location as I dont want to be on benefits my whole life. Has anyone been i a situation where their ex has manged to stop them moving