Ex take child because of who I see

[Helpandadvice1992]

Simply this, my ex and his wife feel they can dictate who I can and cannot see. And who I can and cannot talk to on the phone around our shared child. Basically insinuated that if u speak to my partner or he’s around our child then they will take him away, as my ex feels threaten after all these years (and me and my partner have been together 5 years but don’t live together) of someone being a father figure to our son. Yes we had an argument but they believe our son is traumatised from it. He’s not he keeps asking to see my partner and he’s soon 11! Like I am stressed

@Owly11he wasn’t threatening to
prosexute: however I know that his landlord could have for if the police had to force entry. He was on his way back but at the time had driven and was quite a while away and said by the time he got back he wanted us gone. I panicked and now I am in this situation. He would never ever hurt us

I tried to read all your posts but it was very confusing and I couldn't really work it out. However, it sounds all very chaotic for the kids, and quite destabilising at times from all sides.
I think you all need to put the children first and communicate better.

Given your updates I think I'm with your ex on this.

That all sounds very traumatic for a kid, and maybe he says more there because he doesn't want to hurt you.

Is there court order for contact?

You need to separate out your dislike for your ex and his partner (and whether they can have kids or not is none of your business and you sound quite gleeful/spiteful about this) and see it from how your son's father may be worried about him. Your relationship with your partner is indeed not his business normally but where it may impact his son's safety it becomes his business.

If you are paying for a club (eg football or another sport) it's great his dad (and step mum) want to come and watch and support him too. Don't "use" your son in your petty arguments with the ex.

If the ex wants 50/50 he can apply for it and you can oppose it and at the age of 11 the court will most likely listen to what your son had to say too.

But at the end of the day if your son's dad is concerned about your partner and your relationship with your partner from the point of view of how it impacts your son then he is perfectly entitled to worry.

Your relationship with your partner is indeed not his business normally but where it may impact his son's safety it becomes his business.

This.

Getting legal advice is very wise but can see why ex is worried if you felt need to call police on current partner.

It sounds like you’re in a childish toxic relationship and your ex is rightly so concerned for his child having to be involved in it.

Yes it’s awful that your ex had an affair but you seem to be clinging onto that and letting your feelings warp reality.

No court order, he’s always only done every other weekend. As up until we lived nearby he wasn’t really interested. They still aren’t particularly now. They have been abroad and holidays several times and don’t bother to ever take our son. They boost they enjoy being able to go home to a quiet house and things.

im not happy they can’t have a baby: I actually want them to have a baby as then they make back of slightly from being high and mighty on silly things. Like his school trousers got a hole in when he was at school, so when he got to theirs after school it had a hole and apparently I am neglecting the child.
our som tells everyone he doesn’t want to be stay there more than what he is. I don’t begrudge him going to watch his kid, what I begrudge is that we can’t buy pokemon cards because it’s a father and son thing then they should extend the same. Maybe they need to accept we can buy pokemon cards. But also he was learning to tie the belt for his sport there. They demanded he took it to theirs, which then upset our kid as she said all the dad did the whole weekend was make him do that, and then proceeded to do this big status on Facebook that his dad taught him, and his dad thus and that. When actually it was my club, me that started it up and I pay, they have latched on and now get involved in it completely. He was getting bullied at school and i asked for just me and the dad to go; school said the same. She busted in with him(, with lists and lists of questions and the school are even noting she is high maintenance with it all. She feels she owns my child and my xhikd
isnt stupid and he says this himself. He says he doesn’t want to stay there more because of xyz. She has also gone out of her way to find out when my Nans funeral is this week and has said she will turn up to check who goes. My dad is fuming. And he actually is the one who’s invited my partner to go as they have had a few chats recently. She sat there and shoved pictures in my face of their wedding which I really didn’t want to see, it’ all we are buying to brand new cars this year and this and that. I really don’t care. I’ve always had newer cars irs nothing to brag about. I know my ex and the way he thinks and he is so laid back and always says he trusts me and my judgments. This issue is she is the one dictating. She plans meetings with me and lists things it’s horrendous

You still need to step back from your ex and his wife, they are far too involved in your life. They cannot dictate who you see or not. If your ex is unhappy with your, what appears to be, strange relationship with your DP, he can apply to the courts to get a court order.
Meanwhile stay away from them, only interact about things to do with your DS, like pick up times etc., nothing else.