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Being dismissed for gross misconduct based on nasty gossip

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Vossisdoss · 18/10/2024 11:39

Someone I used to work with, who has now moved to another department in the same company called me yesterday to say that she has been suspended, and they are investigating her for gross misconduct with a view to dismissing her.

She is being accused of taking annual leave and not logging it onto the system and also exploiting sick leave, by taking time off when she’s not sick. It looks like all of her colleagues have ganged up on her to support this. She said she can prove she logged onto the computer when they are saying she was on holiday (but they are saying she could have done this from Spain) and her sick leave doesn’t look too awful. She was signed off by her doctor for three weeks after surgery, and there’s been the odd self certified day here and there. Apparently she was seen shopping and in her garden when she was recovering from surgery, and this is what has triggered this.

She’s worked there for twenty years and is so worried that she is going to lose her job. The hearing is next week, and she said that her colleagues have essentially thrown her under a bus - eg saying she came back from her surgery with “a Mediterranean tan” and “didn’t look sick”.

She contacted me as I used to be a union rep. I’ve told her to contact her rep ASAP before the hearing. But can they do this when there is no proof?

OP posts:
strawberry2017 · 18/10/2024 14:33

Do her bank statements prove spending in the Uk when they are claiming she's in Spain? Realistically they would need to prove the rumours are true, they must have some sort of evidence to be calling an official meeting. Unless it's just a fact find at this stage. They might just want to talk through what's been bought to their attention and if she can prove otherwise there is no case to answer.

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 18/10/2024 14:33

It's become the passport thread.

And so bloody tedious.

Wish people would RTFT.

It's the same reply over and over and over.

Topseyt123 · 18/10/2024 14:35

SilverChampagne · 18/10/2024 12:39

They don’t stamp passports anymore.

I've been in and out of Spain three times in the last year and mine has been stamped each time. In and out. British passport. It has been everywhere I have been since Brexit.

Pigtailsandall · 18/10/2024 14:37

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 18/10/2024 14:33

It's become the passport thread.

And so bloody tedious.

Wish people would RTFT.

It's the same reply over and over and over.

I know! And we now know every bill, bob and their uncle who've been to Spain since Brexit 🙄

Topseyt123 · 18/10/2024 14:38

Westofeasttoday · 18/10/2024 13:52

Yeah but unfortunately not if they use egates. No stamps there.

We used egates. We then still had to go up to a border control desk and get stamped. Both on the way in and again on the way out.

Loub1987 · 18/10/2024 14:43

If she logged into her work account, your IT department will be able to know if that’s in UK or Spain.

I would imagine you don’t know the full story. I work in HR and people often ask advice, I don’t give it as no one ever tells you the full story and everything is so complicated.

If her employer has suspended her, it is quite possible that they already have the required evidence.

Loub1987 · 18/10/2024 14:46

InfoSecInTheCity · 18/10/2024 13:27

The sick leave shouldn't be an issue if she has doctors notes.

There is no requirement for someone on sick leave to stay in the house, they can go on holiday or whatever as long as there activity isn't listed as one of the things they shouldn't be doing on the sick note. If for example someone was on leave for depression, going on holiday could be helpful in their recovery. If someone has been advised they can't work standing up in a supermarket because they've had their foot operated on, that doesn't prohibit them from sitting in the garden, doing some light gardening for half an hour or laying on a beach in timbuctoo.

Very true

LoafofSellotape · 18/10/2024 14:53

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 18/10/2024 14:33

It's become the passport thread.

And so bloody tedious.

Wish people would RTFT.

It's the same reply over and over and over.

Omg ,it's so boring, full of posters wanting to be 'right.'

OP I imagine there's more to this story than you've heard.

Solmum1964 · 18/10/2024 14:57

flyingefffs · 18/10/2024 12:40

Can’t remember the last time I got a passport stamp. Apart from when going to America.

Ours were stamped twice this year when visiting Mallorca and France.

schmeler · 18/10/2024 14:59

If she was seen in her garden (which is allowed after surgery) and shopping (people have to go to the shops) then she can't be in Spain! So that proves that is malicious. Sick leave doesn't mean house arrest.

TiredGoingToBed · 18/10/2024 15:00

ThatsNotMyTeen · 18/10/2024 11:56

Even if she was in Spain/in her garden it doesn’t mean she wasn’t sick. Being signed off means you’re unfit for work, not that you can’t have a life.

if you were a union rep you’ll know the test for unfair dismissal as per Burchell ie reasonable belief based on reasonable grounds following a reasonable investigation

I had people complaining to me about a colleague off sick who was going on holiday.

Occupational health were very happy for him to go away, to help with his issues, and that was the end of the matter.

BunnyLake · 18/10/2024 15:02

imjusthereforAIBU · 18/10/2024 13:41

Maybe I am totally in the wrong.
But if a colleague was signed off sick after surgery for three months (fine, no issue), but then was well enough to go on holiday abroad during that time, I would be seriously questioning why they were unfit to work but fit enough to travel to that extent. Admittedly I work in a desk based role - if you had a very physical job maybe that set of circumstances makes more sense... but even so, there are usually some light duties that can be done instead and travelling is relatively physical.

Because I was signed off for three months. Absolutely no one was going to make a complaint as I had a malignant tumour removed in a major surgery. The holiday was for my mental well being and not only did my office support it but they (including my boss) took me out for a lovely lunch while I was off. I thanked them and waved them off, my boss dropped me home and they all went back to the office.

It was a desk based job.

DustyAmuseAlien · 18/10/2024 15:03

It's perfectly reasonable to go to the shops, and even to go off on holiday, if you are signed off from work. Recovery from surgery requires you to build up your activity gradually so of course you aren't going to be sat at home all day.

If she took unauthorised holiday separately from sick leave then that could be a problem but "working from home" from somewhere other than your normal place of residence wouldn't usually be a problem if the full normal workload is achieved. It would only be an issue if she was slacking off and not actually getting the job done.

What nasty colleagues though. She should probably start job hunting anyway because it's such a toxic working environment to have such awful people around you - she may then be able to launch a "constructive dismissal" case against the employers for failing to manage this properly.

Her manager must be rather shitty too because any reasonable manager would tell the accusers to fuck right off and mind their own business, not launch a disciplinary process.

wwjalme · 18/10/2024 15:03

Surely the employer can trace the IP address of the computer she logged in from and therefore get a location so that would clear up whether she was in Spain or not and if she wasn't in Spain then there is no case to answer here.

The sick leave of three weeks was covered by a doctor's note. So what if she was seen shopping after recovering from surgery.

It could be malicious colleagues or it's possible that there's more to the story and she's only told you the half of it.

She should get her union rep involved and be ready to provide evidence of not being in Spain at the time her colleagues claim she was (such as credit card statements with spending in the UK or bank statements).

Westofeasttoday · 18/10/2024 15:04

Topseyt123 · 18/10/2024 14:38

We used egates. We then still had to go up to a border control desk and get stamped. Both on the way in and again on the way out.

Hmmmm sounds very inconsistent which is worrying for another reason!

BunnyLake · 18/10/2024 15:13

If you’ve had surgery and your doctor signs you off for a certain amount of time I don’t think it should be anyone’s business where you are or what you’re doing in that time. For some people recovery could be sitting indoors knitting, for another it could be long walks, another it could be some guaranteed sunshine (ergo go abroad). If the leave is genuine it shouldn’t matter.

MissRoseDurward · 18/10/2024 15:17

be ready to provide evidence of not being in Spain at the time her colleagues claim she was

Surely the onus is on the employer to prove she was in Spain? Or at least prove that she took unauthorised leave? Not properly logging leave is the actual allegation, isn't it, not where she was when she allegedly took this alleged unauthorised leave.

(And yes, all these passport stamp posts are just tedious derailing.)

LetThereBeLove · 18/10/2024 15:20

PuddlesPityParty · 18/10/2024 12:17

You’re not getting the full story then or the employer is breaking the law. Butt out.

Rude!

SilverChampagne · 18/10/2024 15:22

Pigtailsandall · 18/10/2024 14:26

But dishonesty about what? The sick person didn't assess themselves unfit to work. The medical practitioner did. Unless the note is fake, or they are doubting the doctor's motives (such as the doctor being a family member of the sick person - in which case that would be a terrible GMC breach and they would be striked off - not something any doctor I know would do) then there isn't really a case for "dishonesty". Being unfit to work does not mean you are unfit to do other activities.

They could absolutely take up a grievance even at the stage of being threatened about dismissal - I would - in most organisations grievances will still stand even after the person leaves their job (dismissed or resigned). Other than that, a tribunal would be the way to go, but hopefully it won't come to that

Edited

The company are perfectly entitled to investigate allegations against any employee.
Encouraging op to raise a grievance is just stupid. This person hasn’t been threatened with dismissal.

OhHaiOwlInYourTowel · 18/10/2024 15:26

So true at how the thread just becomes one long 'cancel the cheque' type thing as poster after poster wangs on about bloody passports. WHO CARES

Bellavida99 · 18/10/2024 15:33

Now we’re not in the eu it’s easy to show if she wasn’t in Spain as her passport won’t be stamped. Of course shopping and pottering in the garden can be done while recovering from an op

Howmanywishescanastargive · 18/10/2024 15:33

I'm surprised any company would go straight to suspension on this, we only suspend someone if they are considered a risk to the business but I suppose every company has their own way of doing it.

Also you can't investigate someone 'with a view to dismiss'. You cannot decide an outcome before the full investigation and disciplinary process has been followed. What does it say in her suspension letter? If it just says that dismissal is a possible outcome (as well as the possibility of no further action or a lesser sanction), they have to say that.

As someone up thread says, they don't have to prove anything, it's not a court of law, they just have to have a reasonable belief so don't let your friend think that because they can't prove it they can't do anything.

Your friend would be wise to gather all her supporting evidence to defend herself, make some notes of what points she wants to get across etc especially if she is someone who might get flustered under pressure and forget.

What kind of surgery was it? I'd be tempted to go in there and show them my stitches if they didn't believe I'd actually had surgery.

MathiasBroucek · 18/10/2024 15:36

SilverChampagne · 18/10/2024 12:39

They don’t stamp passports anymore.

Yes they do!

SilverChampagne · 18/10/2024 15:38

MathiasBroucek · 18/10/2024 15:36

Yes they do!

Oh, stop it. I addressed that hours ago.

MarkWithaC · 18/10/2024 15:43

NigelHarmansNewWife · 18/10/2024 14:01

You can't use e-gates in Spain with a UK passport post Brexit transition period

Um, I have, in Granada last winter.