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KHarrison1910 · 31/07/2024 20:25

My 15 year old step daughter was with me today. My son was at a summer activity camp at his school. As I was leaving the house to collect him l, my step daughter told me her mum was due to pick her up in about 15 minutes. That was about how long I would be picking my son up so I asked her to wait for me to return home before leaving so our house wasn’t left empty and unlocked before I arrived home. Her mum came to pick her up a couple of minutes before I returned and refused to wait for to get back, screamed at my step daughter to get in the car and drove off leaving my house unlocked and empty. Is there anything I can do to fight her actions?

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123456abcdef · 31/07/2024 20:26

Make her wait outside next time.

Pocketfullofdogtreats · 31/07/2024 20:27

Get your DH to ask her why she wouldn't wait?

BeeCucumber · 31/07/2024 20:28

Lock the door on the way out and leave her to wait outside for her mother.

Thatsfrenchforstopahorse · 31/07/2024 20:28

I’d pick my battles and leave it. What’s done is done. Just know that it doesn’t work for next time.

TheFlis · 31/07/2024 20:29

Why doesn’t a 15 year old have a key?

clearmoon · 31/07/2024 20:29

no, she hasn't done anything illegal

Radionowhere · 31/07/2024 20:29

But nothing happened?

purpleme12 · 31/07/2024 20:30

Actually I'd just get 15 year old a key
Or alternatively if she doesn't have one, give her the spare one to lock up and tell her to put it through the letterbox after
Best solution to this scenario

RockyRogue1001 · 31/07/2024 20:31

Take her with you next time 🤷‍♀️

Or leave her outside. She wouldn't have got wet or cold today 🤷‍♀️

BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 31/07/2024 20:31

Its possible the mum didn't have the time to wait. You can't expect others to do what you want without checking with them first.

gingercat02 · 31/07/2024 20:32

Why does DSD not have a key?. My 16yo has had one for years.

SeeSeeRider · 31/07/2024 20:33

gingercat02 · 31/07/2024 20:32

Why does DSD not have a key?. My 16yo has had one for years.

I had a bloody key when I was 10.

Doggymummar · 31/07/2024 20:33

I had a key from 11, working parents. Cut her a key

clearmoon · 31/07/2024 20:34

or tell her to pull the door closed, if it is self locking, or lock it and put key through letter box. Nothing happened. We went away for a week recently and accidently left back door unlocked. Luckily nothing happened. When I was a child, we had two back doors, but one was had unfinished steps up to it and was never used. We once opened it to do some painting around the frame, and forgot to lock it. No one realised for several YEARS. Nothing happened

Runninghappy · 31/07/2024 20:34

This is totally on you! She should have a key, but if she didn’t you could have given her one to lock up and post it back through the letterbox! You can’t expect someone to hang around for you!

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KHarrison1910 · 31/07/2024 20:35

She said she would wait for me, so I left the house unlocked. Then her mum wouldn’t let her wait

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KHarrison1910 · 31/07/2024 20:36

She doesn’t have a key because she said she doesn’t want one. Helpful comments would be better…

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KHarrison1910 · 31/07/2024 20:36

Ok thanks. That’s all I was asking. The nasty comments were not needed from everyone else. Thank you to you at least!

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purpleme12 · 31/07/2024 20:37

KHarrison1910 · 31/07/2024 20:36

She doesn’t have a key because she said she doesn’t want one. Helpful comments would be better…

So in this situation like I say I'd give her the spare key to put through the letterbox

I think the comments are helpful.

clearmoon · 31/07/2024 20:37

KHarrison1910 · 31/07/2024 20:36

She doesn’t have a key because she said she doesn’t want one. Helpful comments would be better…

what is unhelpful about what has been said? Nothing happened this time. Normally nothing happens. Lots of suggestions for you for next time.

Original poster
KHarrison1910 · 31/07/2024 20:37

I would have but she said she would wait for me, it was her mum who caused the problem not my step daughter she was totally put in the middle.

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KHarrison1910 · 31/07/2024 20:38

She doesn’t want one as she scared she would lose it. I’m not going to force her to have one

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Andwhatfreshhellisthis · 31/07/2024 20:38

Give her a key or have a key safe or get your DH to drop her home

SeeSeeRider · 31/07/2024 20:38

KHarrison1910 · 31/07/2024 20:36

She doesn’t have a key because she said she doesn’t want one. Helpful comments would be better…

Make her have one. Who is the parent, you or her?

SeeSeeRider · 31/07/2024 20:39

KHarrison1910 · 31/07/2024 20:38

She doesn’t want one as she scared she would lose it. I’m not going to force her to have one

Isn't it time she grew up a bit?

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