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Isitjustus · 19/05/2022 19:02

Hi there,

I am not sure if there is anyone out there who has experienced this. Wasn’t sure where else to turn so really hoping someone can offer advice.

we have a turbulent relationship with our in laws. It got worse after our child was born. They never made an effort it was always us doing the chasing. Over the years they have liked to be controlling to my partner and when my partner has decided to do things they didn’t agree with it would all start again. There has been threats and name calling on their part. When we say something they don’t like the abuse starts.

My partner and I decided it would be better for our child if rather than permanently chase our in laws and then have a inconsistent relationship with our child we wouldn’t bother with them anymore.

our child has all the love and support they need and attends a childcare setting too.

Issue is our in laws are now making demands and threatening to take us to court to get access to our child. We have had numerous solicitors letters and they continue to make false allegations about my partner and I.

Has anyone else ever been in this situation where there in laws want to try and get some form of custody?

Thank you if you made it this far :)

OP posts:
knobheadinlaws · 23/01/2023 17:18

Brilliant outcome. I'd love to know how they took it!

Mum1909 · 23/01/2023 17:55

Well done to you! Relax and extra tight cuddles for your LO tonight.
it gives me hope 🤞🏻

Fundays12 · 23/01/2023 18:11

Isitjustus · 23/01/2023 16:44

Hiya,

Just to give everyone and update, thank you all so much for your help/advice after our 9 months of hell we ended up in Court at the FDRH (the initial hearing) it lasted 15 minutes they had Counsel the lot and yet we ‘won’ justice was served the judge saw what it had done to my partner and I and wouldn’t even let them proceed with their application. Cost them £35k in fees. Judge didn’t even order mediation, he just said that to grant them permission would cause further irreparable damage and would in turn effect our little one :)

Great news toxic people shock not be allowed around kids. We banned FIL years ago from seeing our kids and MIL rarely has access to them and not alone.

BeachesDiary · 23/01/2023 18:37

Thanks for updating OP, that's a fantastic outcome. Hopefully that's the last of their abuse. What vile people.

oviraptor21 · 23/01/2023 19:05

That is welcome news.
Hard to believe they persisted when surely a solicitor would have advised them how flimsy their case was.

Raindancer411 · 23/01/2023 19:33

@Isitjustus The judge probably was laughing over this in his chambers... Well done and now breathe and relax and enjoy your little one

Eastereggsboxedupready · 23/01/2023 21:29

Great update op. Now go enjoy your dc... And agree with dh to never have them mentioned again.

EL8888 · 23/01/2023 22:54

Great update!

sevenbyseven · 24/01/2023 15:47

Good outcome but awful what they've put you through ☹️

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Isitjustus · 15/02/2023 20:16

Hey,

Not sure what I am looking for really I just don’t have many Mum friends or people I know in our situation so want to see others opinions/advice.

We have a 3 year old little girl and it’s getting to the point where we need to decide for sure whether or not we should have another baby.

We only have a 2 bedroom place and moving somewhere is just not an option for us.

We both work full time and the 30hrs free funding has given us our first bit of financial breathing space.

We have spoke about having another child but we worry about the logistics and the childcare costs etc.

We are permanently getting the when you having another one questions and our little one keeps asking for a baby brother or sister.

Has anyone had only 1 child and regretted it or had 2 and regretted it? Will it be so hard adding another little person to our family? My husbands hours mean I am left to do mornings all alone before I start work so when they go to school etc I will be doing all that sort of thing alone.

Thank you if you made it this far :)

OP posts:
drpet49 · 15/02/2023 20:23

Isitjustus · 21/05/2022 14:05

Thanks for the reply, we have images and also copies of toxic text messages and Facebook statuses that they have sent. They do have money, we don’t this is the issue :(.

I’d be reporting them to police for harassment.

AnxiousMom09 · 29/07/2024 15:46

Isitjustus · 19/05/2022 19:02

Hi there,

I am not sure if there is anyone out there who has experienced this. Wasn’t sure where else to turn so really hoping someone can offer advice.

we have a turbulent relationship with our in laws. It got worse after our child was born. They never made an effort it was always us doing the chasing. Over the years they have liked to be controlling to my partner and when my partner has decided to do things they didn’t agree with it would all start again. There has been threats and name calling on their part. When we say something they don’t like the abuse starts.

My partner and I decided it would be better for our child if rather than permanently chase our in laws and then have a inconsistent relationship with our child we wouldn’t bother with them anymore.

our child has all the love and support they need and attends a childcare setting too.

Issue is our in laws are now making demands and threatening to take us to court to get access to our child. We have had numerous solicitors letters and they continue to make false allegations about my partner and I.

Has anyone else ever been in this situation where there in laws want to try and get some form of custody?

Thank you if you made it this far :)

Going through something similar. Did you ever resolve this and what happened in the end please

StrawberriesandMango · 30/07/2024 07:19

@AnxiousMom09 I've been through courts with in-laws and won. I think I also give op advise at the time and her outcome was good.

Feel free to pm me

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