I’ve name changed for this.
My parents are in their mid 70s, no wills or PoA set up.
My dad is very controlling and my relationship with him is strained. Behaviour during lockdown has ramped up towards my mum. Have a good relationship with DM.
Dad has a chronic health condition which will not improve, only get worse, is impacting on his mobility. DM is doing more and more for him and me and my Dbro are worried about her.
Dad is secretive with DM about what the doctors say to him (he’s had zoom consultations during lockdown).
My worry is what will happen if either of them die without a will. They own a house. My greater worry is if my DM were to pass first. My dad couldn’t live alone and I’m not prepared to care for him and neither is my Dbro.
I’ve been talking to my DM about this, she is happy to get her affairs in order but my dad totally refuses to engage in any conversation about this. I have suggested we look into PoA for her solely and I can be named. Is this possible?
With regards to writing a will, is there any point my DM writing one if she’s married, assets owned jointly and dad is refusing to write one.
Thanks in advance.