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Mother Faked DNA Test

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RachelOrgan73 · 29/10/2020 21:11

So sorry for the long post and not sure i have put this in the right place, but could really do with some help. I will try to keep it as succinct as possible.

Boy meets girl who has 2 children from previous relationship. Boy moves in, Girl gets pregnant, Boy and Girl live happily for a very short while, She becomes quite controlling and ties to alienate him from his family. One afternoon he and his baby daughter go to spend time with his family and she refuses to come. She calls the police and claims that her eldest daughter told her that he had hit the baby. Of course, this was not true and the police could see this. They split up and boy goes to court and wins shared custody.
2 weeks past of 50/50 custody and out of the blue he receives in the post a letter saying she has done a DNA on another man and Man B is the Father and not Man A. Never seeing daughter again. The results look odd so it goes back to court who order a legal DNA test. When these results come back the identifying photograph has the child that was swabbed wrapped tightly in a blanket and a dummy in her mouth. The court agreed that there was no way of seeing that the child tested was in fact the correct child.
2nd DNA test ordered. Results come back. This time, Child has thick headband on and is turned at an angle and fast asleep, and although not clear to the court, clear to Boy that this child is the Girls Middle Daughter and not the baby.
Court Order a third DNA to be conducted at a Doctors Surgery. Doctor has never seen the chid before so blindly does the test and the results come back with a very clear photo of the MIDDLE daughter not the baby. This time the Father of the middle daughter confirms that the child in the photograph is his own and not the baby.
Back to court. She doesnt turn up. ANOTHER DNA ordered,. This time it is for tomorrow and she must arrive with all three children and this time the Father(?) is allowed to be present. I dont think she is going to turn up as she knows that the game is up. So what happens now?
It has been nearly a year since he last saw his daughter and this is destroying him.
Any advice?

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Veterinari · 29/10/2020 22:35

@notdawn

Plenty of research out there that suggests otherwise I’m afraid.
Plenty of research out there suggests that women fake dna tests for babies born out of wedlock?

That sounds fascinating. Please do link to it.

Smallsteps88 · 29/10/2020 22:36

I mean more specifically children do better in married families

Eh? Confused we’re discussing a faked paternity test. No one is talking about how the children are doing.

notdawn · 29/10/2020 22:37

@Smallsteps88

I mean more specifically children do better in married families

Eh? Confused we’re discussing a faked paternity test. No one is talking about how the children are doing.

Out of wedlock you are more likely to get these messy set ups. But you aren’t going to agree - so debating it feels redundant.
Veterinari · 29/10/2020 22:38

I mean more specifically children do better in married families. But by all means carry on with the condescending names.
Please point out where the OP has raised concerns that the child is not appropriately looked after...

Also you're incorrect, research shows that children do better when raised with secure family relationships. Marriage certification is irrelevant

Smallsteps88 · 29/10/2020 22:38

All your posts are redundant. You should have stopped before you started.

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RachelOrgan73 · 29/10/2020 22:39

@thelake

Is he on the birth certificate? What does she gain by making out he isn't the dad? Would he take an interest and pay maintenance if proven? Why did they split up?
Yes he is on the Birth Certificate We dont know. All we know is that she accused her last partner (Father of other 2) of all sorts and stops him from having any contact so seems like she is not happy to share the children? When they separated he was awarded 50/50 custody. Yes he pays, yes he wants at least 50/50. He is a loving and devoted Father. When all of this happened he was so confused. He was struggling to come to terms with the fact that his relationship had ended and just wanted to make things civil so that they could raise their daughter together, but she just wants to erase him from her life altogether like she did the last one. They split up because he spent time with his family one day and she threw a hissy fit and called the police to say that her eldest daughter had told her he had hit the baby. We think she did this so that the police would return the baby to her and that would be the end of it as she was clearly done with the relationship,. It didnt work out that way as she was not believed and he was awarded 50/50 custody
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notdawn · 29/10/2020 22:41

@Veterinari

I mean more specifically children do better in married families. But by all means carry on with the condescending names. Please point out where the OP has raised concerns that the child is not appropriately looked after...

Also you're incorrect, research shows that children do better when raised with secure family relationships. Marriage certification is irrelevant

There is literally masses of evidence to suggest that children do better when their parents are married.
LaurieSchafferIsAllBitterNow · 29/10/2020 22:45

surely HE takes the child in question for the court ordered test on one of his 50/50 days?

She is obviously non compliant for whatever reason.

Veterinari · 29/10/2020 22:45

Out of wedlock you are more likely to get these messy set ups. But you aren’t going to agree - so debating it feels redundant.

Actually @notdawn NHS data indicates that approximately 10% of children don't have the biological father they think they do - mostly because of infidelity within marriage and the mistaken assumption that the husband must be the father when that's not the case

CandyLeBonBon · 29/10/2020 22:47

Oh @notdawn if you hoik those judgy pants up any higher you'll strangle yourself! Toddle off and go and twitch some curtains or read the Daily Mail or something.

notdawn · 29/10/2020 22:47

Interesting - I’ll have a read up.

CandyLeBonBon · 29/10/2020 22:48

Op surely if she doesn't turn up she'll be charged with contempt if court or something similar? (Stab in the dark here!)

Smallsteps88 · 29/10/2020 22:50

surely HE takes the child in question for the court ordered test on one of his 50/50 days?

He hasn’t seen the child for a year.

NewYorkNewYorkNewYork · 29/10/2020 22:50

@notdawn

This is what happens out of wedlock I’m afraid.
☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼 what a complete twatish remark☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼
Smallsteps88 · 29/10/2020 22:51

I think if we all just ignore the [insert appropriate word I’d get deleted for saying] It will get fed up and leave.

Veterinari · 29/10/2020 22:52

There is literally masses of evidence to suggest that children do better when their parents are married.

Dear god I wish people could use critical thinking skills!
No there's literally masses of research that correlates marriage with better childhood outcomes. Correlation is not causation. Marriage is also correlated with higher socioeconomic status, health status, nutritional status, educational attainment, and many other variables. Any of which could actually be driving differences in childhood attainment and which are logically much more likely to influence childhood outcomes than the presence of a piece of paper. Now please show me the research that has examined all of those confounding variables and actually demonstrates a causal relationship between the presence of a marriage certificate and childhood outcomes? I'll wait, I understand it may take some time....

Veterinari · 29/10/2020 22:54

All of which of course is entirely irrelevant to this thread unless you're sitting home alone behind a keyboard trying desperately to 'encourage' an irrelevant discussion and derail the thread

notdawn · 29/10/2020 22:54

@Veterinari why so rude?

I’m allowed to disagree.

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RachelOrgan73 · 29/10/2020 22:54

@LaurieSchafferIsAllBitterNow

surely HE takes the child in question for the court ordered test on one of his 50/50 days?

She is obviously non compliant for whatever reason.

Sadly, the minute the paternity is in doubt they suspended the 50/50 contact until the paternity was established.
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LazyLucille · 29/10/2020 22:56

What a waste of the courts time, public money, and how awful for the child and alleged father.

She should be prosecuted for this but I suspect nothing will be done.

I hope it gets sorted soon and your relative is not left traumatised.

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RachelOrgan73 · 29/10/2020 22:57

@Veterinari

All of which of course is entirely irrelevant to this thread unless you're sitting home alone behind a keyboard trying desperately to 'encourage' an irrelevant discussion and derail the thread
Indeed. Quite sad. I only came for a bit of advice and support on a matter that is so distressing for us as a family.
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MrMeSeeks · 29/10/2020 23:18

Ignore the one person making stupid comments.
I feel for you all, she is a disgrace and deserves to be punished ( but won’t be).

marveloustimeruiningeverything · 29/10/2020 23:24

What an awful situation.

Poor child being raised by an awful woman.

Firefliess · 29/10/2020 23:32

He should make sure he keeps written records of all the faked tests. Once he's managed to prove paternity and is back in court to get contact/ residency it might be useful in order to demonstrate how badly his ex has behaved.

phantomish · 29/10/2020 23:42

@notdawn
This OP is dealing with a distressing family problem. Your judgmental comments are irrelevant and unhelpful