2 Schools using Excessive means to see unwilling mother..

[Kieishere]

I am writing this on behalf of my sister who needs help with 2 schools currently causing stress and anxiety for the past month or so to my sister so let me explain in short what this case is and if anyone can help her with any advice.

Sister has 5 children, 1 goes to Abby school 1 goes to comprehensive and 2 are under 4 years old and 1 is 17 at college.

Abby school was asking to see the mother (my sister) who suffers from Anxiety and has the father do all the talking but the Abby School was insisting they want to see the mother multiple times for no real reason other then to just want to speak to her but being told that the Father will deal with it.

Now this Abby school got in touch with the Comprehensive school that 1 child goes to took the child into an office and spoke to her for 30 minutes asking questions such as.

Why do you have high fences, why does your mum not answer, why do you have CCTV, and the usual are you safe at home ect ect.

There is no safe guarding concerns, there is nothing to suggest otherwise.

A few days later a police officer comes to the house claiming the schools have reported my sister as a missing person..
The Father let the police officer inside and saw and spoke to the mother (my sister) and she explained she leaves the father to the schooling.
Police was happy and left with no issues..

A week later..
Now today my sister rings me today having an anxiety attack as 2 people that claimed they were serviced from the council? said they are not social workers they are here to offer help and they took notes of the house and other details.
They Claimed that they have not seen the 1 child that goes to Comprehensive school provable lie as she attends school every Tuesday, but they were not wanting to see said child again asking about the mother.

The father told them today that the mother suffers from Anxiety and the stress both schools are causing alarm and distress to her they replied that you have nothing to worry about.

Now i have tried to be reasonable and tell my sister they are just making sure everything is safe even though excessive both schools are talking to eachother trying to see the mother and we have no idea what to expect next as all my sister wants is to be left alone.

My sisters anxiety is too much for them to keep pestering her and now is constantly worrying about what will happen next.

Is there any advice on this? Should my sister just keep having the father keep doing the same thing? My sister cannot see them or speak to them without her Anxiety attacks.

I hope this isn't another power trip as if they are saying your sister has nothing to worry about why aren't they reassuring her ? Tell her what the real issue is, tell her what they are hoping to achieve.

Also, as PP Dh has done most the secondary school stuff and while the staff have seen me I only went to the final parents evening of DC1. No issues for them or us.

Hi OP. I am sorry to hear about your sister's anxiety! What help has she been getting? That level of social anxiety isn't healthy, and unfortunately, the more that she avoids people, the worse it will get. She needs to be able to get out and about and socialise for the sake of her younger children, in particular. I have suffered from social anxiety, acrophobia and panic attacks in the past and would be happy to point her in the direction of help if you let me know which city/region she lives in.

Are you her sister? Or are you her husband who is trying to find out what the school want?

Everything you've said about your sister would ring alarm bells from a safeguarding point of view. The schools are absolutely doing the right thing. It's part of their duty of care towards the family.
I understand how stressful it is for your sister but she needs to work with them. She also seriously needs to get more help with her anxiety as it sounds horrendous.

They would also have information from the children and they may display odd behaviour making them a safeguarding concern.