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He F***** up

54 replies

MP2k13 · 25/05/2020 10:03

So,

A friend of mine recently told me a story where he f*** up.

He was on a dating website (under the demise of a catfish) (rhymes with Madoo) and he was talking to a few girls, pictures were sent to some of them, they liked and reciprocated, some just liked and didn’t reciprocate.

He sent another girl a photo, and she didn’t like it, subsequently she reported him and he got banned, then he emailed the website, apologising for what he did and said he wouldn’t use the site again.

Now he’s concerned that the site themselves will contact the police for what he’s done, he’s told me he’s done it before about 6/8 months ago too.

What’s the likely hood of them going to the police for what he’s done?

He’s panicking because it’ll ruin his career if anything happens.

OP posts:
Dreeple · 25/05/2020 10:04

Was it a photo of his pet cat?

Original poster
MP2k13 · 25/05/2020 10:05

Sorry, it was a picture of his d*

OP posts:
IFancyANamechange · 25/05/2020 10:06

You can say fucked and dick.

DownToTheSeaAgain · 25/05/2020 10:16

I cannot fathom why men think dick pics represent a tantalising chat up line.

huuskymam · 25/05/2020 10:19

Did they as for pics, or did he just assume the ladies would want them.

Neolara · 25/05/2020 10:20

Sending a dick pic is absolutely grim. It's basically flashing which in my mind is synonymous with sexual assault. I have no idea if the company will involve the police, but if I was on the receiving end of one, I would bloody well hope they would.

foamrolling · 25/05/2020 10:21

What does under the demise of a catfish mean? Do you mean he was being a catfish? You should keep better company.

ArriettyJones · 25/05/2020 10:22

Why shouldn’t your “friend” get a criminal record for that? (Cyber flashing, obscene communication or whatever.)

If he doesn’t want a criminal record he needs to stop exposing himself to people.

All very straightforward really,

LesLavandes · 25/05/2020 10:24

Lots of men and women do this on dating apps. I don't think he will get into trouble.

ChipotleBlessing · 25/05/2020 10:24

Well, let’s hope they do. And hopefully he learns something from it.

Scrunchy95 · 25/05/2020 10:24

Absolute creep. Yuck

dodgeballchamp · 25/05/2020 10:25

Your “friend” sounds gross. So he was posing under a fake identity and sending women unsolicited dick pics? I think the least of your worries is whether the police are involved (and if they are, he deserves the consequences) and really your priority should be ditching this scumbag and finding better friends

DrFoxtrot · 25/05/2020 10:25

Urgh Angry he was posing as someone else on a dating site hoping to get photos from women.

You should definitely keep better company. I can't believe he's admitted it to you.

Original poster
MP2k13 · 25/05/2020 10:26

He told me he just sent it.

OP posts:
Quartz2208 · 25/05/2020 10:26

was he using his own profile picture or someone else

and yes its awful he should be worried because he did something wrong

Original poster
MP2k13 · 25/05/2020 10:28

Others photos

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ArriettyJones · 25/05/2020 10:29

What are you hoping for from this thread?

Pelleas · 25/05/2020 10:33

I'd leave him to sort his own mess out, OP.

slipperywhensparticus · 25/05/2020 10:33

In reality its unlikely anyone will bother tracking him and arresting him however they will probably note his IP address and any other information and if he is a serial flasher he will get caught same as the tube flashes did 🤷‍♀️

Personally I would rethink your friend choices

Elieza · 25/05/2020 10:34

He sounds like a right weirdo.

He must have known that the women wouldn’t want to meet him (Whose photo they’ve never seen) they would want to meet the dude they thought they were chatting to! Who he is not!

So he must have been doing it in the hope they would send him nude photos of themselves in return that he could wank over.
Because there was no way he was ever going to meet them so it wasnt for any other reason like to ‘tempt’ them (boak) to meet him although guys don’t seem to get that women don’t like doc pics the way men like girlie nude pics. (Still boaking).

Hope this teaches him a lesson. And that you have the WTF convo with him and tell him women generally get more turned on by who a person is kind of thing, not what’s in their pants. (Boak).

EthelMayFergus · 25/05/2020 10:35

Your friend's a creep op, and he deserves the consequences. Do women really reciprocate to this by sending explicit pictures to men they've never met?

FancyPants20 · 25/05/2020 10:50

You probably won't get into official trouble for it, but don't send any more dick pics, or other unsolicited pics of body parts.

HollowTalk · 25/05/2020 10:51

Are you sure this isn't your partner and now you're frightened of getting a knock on the door from the police?

Doyoumind · 25/05/2020 10:55

So it's a friend of yours and most definitely not you OP?

saraclara · 25/05/2020 10:58

Sending a dick pic is absolutely grim. It's basically flashing which in my mind is synonymous with sexual assault.

Yep. If it's not asked for, then it's flashing. Your friend is grim and I'm glad she reported him.