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Aibu to not want my abusive ex to change my babys surname

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glossypeach · 10/04/2020 16:24

I split up from my ex in early pregnancy due to him being incredibly abusive. Even though I was not in a relationship with him during pregnancy, he continued to abuse me to the point where I had to go to the police numerous times as I was scared for mine and my childs safety. I have blocked him everywhere and haven't heard from him in 4 months until I received court papers. He is taking me to court for visitation, to be put on the birth certificate for pr, and to change ds surname from mine to be double barrelled. My whole pregnancy he threatened to take my baby away from me, and when I was in labour he messaged my friend to tell me that I should 'say goodbye to him'. I do not want him to have parental rights due to this and to be put on the birth certificate and to have half his surname means he can continue to control me for the next 18 years of my sons life. Nobody bats an eyelid when a baby has a dads name but as soon as they have a mothers name there is uproar. Would the judge grant a surname change?

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FlissMumsnet · 11/04/2020 19:43

As many posters have suggested we think the OP will get more relevant advice in Legal so we're moving this thread across right now.

Good Luck OP - we really hope things get a little easier for you.
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