Verbal agreement to contribute to holiday

[emkana]

When my daughter was with her boyfriend we said he could come on holiday with us. He verbally agreed to contribute a percentage of the cost, and the full amount in case of separation.
He has now split up with her but is not willing to pay. Is there any legal
obligation on him?

What exactly does this bit mean?

He verbally agreed to contribute a percentage of the cost, and the full amount in case of separation.

Are you saying he would have paid less had he and your girlfriend not split up? If so, have you tried asking him for the smaller amount?

Any claim you make would probably be more robust if it was based on a simple 'he agreed to pay X' amount rather than 'he agreed to pay X in this instance or Y in that instance.'

Sorry, he and your daughter, not your girlfriend!

This sounds like a job for judge Rinder to me.

You could take him on judge rinder 🤣

What a nightmare.

Who precipitated the break up? I have some sympathy if your Dd dumped him. But I am guessing that is not the case?

Did he know it was that much in total? If he agreed a percentage, he might have thought it would be much less.

@Rosalo - I was just thinking exactly the same thing!

Sorry, ignore, you said he split from her.

Are you sure you can't just pay an admin fee to get the name changed? I've had flights and hotel bookings changed before. Could then offer a place to someone else, maybe at a discount, to recoup some of the money.

£1,400 just for the flights? That's quite a holiday and I would have been weary to pay upfront in this instance.

I advanced payment for a holiday when my DD's boyfriend joined us, but the flight was under £100 and I was prepared to lose it on the small chance he cancelled and didn't pay.

This sounds like something I’ve heard about recently but the boy was dumped by the girl and her family refused to let him come in the holiday and would not return the money to him.

I think you're on a hiding to nothing trying to get him to pay more because they've split - you say he was the one who dumped her, but he could argue (whether true or not) that she'd made the relationship untenable in some way.

I would try for the percentage he'd have paid if he'd gone with you, as a compromise. If that's less than his full share, that was a cost you were always going to have to pick up, so you won't have lost anything (if he pays).

That’s an interesting point. What would you do if he said he’d pay but wants to come?

How odd, holidays are transferable, usually for £50, never seen one that isn’t.

I think you need to chalk this up to experience. It was risky to pay all this money for someone and believe their promises. 19 year olds fall in and out of love all the time and don't have a lot of money usually. Are you really going to take him to court over this?

There are two trips he was going to come to:
A flight to visit family abroad- they have agreed to pay.
A package holiday - he was going to pay 850 out of the 1400 his share cost had he gone with us.

He dumped dd by two word text, so I don't see why I'd hesitate to take him to court.

Sorry for drip feed but it's not as simple as transfer the holiday - ds has sn and was happy to accept the boyfriend because he's familiar with him. Would not easily accept just anyone

I’m not sure if you missed my question...what if he says he’ll pay but wants to come because he has paid for it? What would you do then?

He can come, sure. Still needs to pay £850
Totally happy to call that particular bluff

Can he afford it? £1400 is a lot for a 19-year-old. Or any age for that matter!

He can come, sure. Still needs to pay £850
Totally happy to call that particular bluff

Then you’re not being reasonable. He treated your DD badly and you’d force her to be in close proximity to him to “win” over £140?!

Take a deep breath, think about what matters and walk away.

For your DD's sake, I'd move on quickly. Remember, she's been 'dumped' and rather heartlessly. You want to erase this whole thing from her daily life asap and chasing him for money owed isn't helping your DD to move on and away from this very hurtful experience, which is less about money to her.
I'd just swallow it (and believe me, it won't be easy) and move on, for DD's sake and her stability.

In terms of taking him to court it's not that you're not right it's just what's the likelihood of you being able to prove it, get all your money back and recover legal costs? I think you could drive yourself mad with a court case or you could learn the lesson and move on.

His family is loaded, which makes it so galling. It'd be small change to then.

He can come, sure. Still needs to pay £850.

You don’t mean that.

Nothing you can do if he hasn't signed anythin