Losing daughter to abusive ex... don't know what to do

[Kusachi]

I made a thread before about ex taking our daughter away and not returning her home until I applied to court... 6 months later the court continues and it's looking really grim.
Ex has been ea and continues to punish me for leaving him. Unfortunately dd has to suffer too now we hardly ever see each other. I really want this to end and return to sanity and peaceful co-parenting, but the only options seem to accept his extremely unfair terms or keep fighting and being devastated and losing faith in humanity every time.
Each report ex somehow manages to paint me in a horrible light and they believe his words. I don't know what to do. Everyone tells me to get legal advice, but since I'm poor and don't live in UK so don't qualify for legal aid or any local schemes. I'm at wits end, somebody please help me with ideas!

There is clearly a lot more to the story than what you are posting here. You say you were housemates, but clearly not if he was supporting financially. Then you got pregnant with another man when you were still together, and then you planned to take your dd to the Netherlands.

It sounds like he took her so to prevent you from doing so, which would explain the safeguarding issue and you only gaining supervised contact. SS don't recommend supervised contact with a main parent for no reason at all.

I don't think anyone here can really give you good advice as your story is indeed very complex. I do hope you continue your efforts to keep contact with your dd and support your youngest building a relationship with her father.

Swing - I really don't get where you get your assumptions from, but ex partners can stay living in the same house, share bills and even date other people.
SS routinely recommend supervised if one of the parents makes allegations, to be on the safe side. They don't really check if someone was the 'main parent' for just one day, whoever has the child at that time calls the shots.